Good afternoon,
I’m a newbie here.... I’m looking to “adopt” a new Mother-in-Law!!!
I had a really good, loving and respectful relationship with my partner’s mum for 5 years.
Long story short, he was destroyed in his divorce(financially, psychologically and then she poisoned the kids towards him)
I have been there throughout, supporting him in every way possible including financially for legal support and court fees etc.
I was not the cause of the failed marriage, and did not meet him until 6 months aftee he was asked to leave the former marital home.
Being in your early mid 50’s with no savings is hard enough, but then due to the stress my partner had 3 heart attacks and then Quadruple open heart surgery where he nearly lost his life.
His mother was also supportive, and wanted to help so after much deliberation she moved and released some equity. A % went to my partner’s brother;also gone through a bad breakup) whereby he was able to secure a home.
We, on the other hand were invited to live(one house divided into 2)with her.
We were happy to have a chance to have a secure home, beable to look after her and start up our dream, Bed and Breakfast.
Within a month of moving in my partner had his operation, and then the cracks started to appear.
I was told my parents were not slowed to visit us at the house.
Restrictions were placed on what we could/n’t do to our side of the house, even though it was part of my partner’s inheritance and she told us we could do exactly as we pleased.
She started making derogatory comments to my partner about me, even though I was taking her out, shopping with her, decorating her side of the house, cooking her meals etc and generally being the friend/daughter in law she’d always known.
We moved in together in the August, by the following June she told my partner she wanted me out(in 2 weeks)
She told him if he went with me to forget his inheritance!!
I was mortified and felt very let down, but worse for my partner.
She put him in an unbearable situation!!
It will now be so awkward with the whole family.
I miss being part of it and having a mother in law, because we really did have a great relationship??