At the beginning of the year I posted on here my major problems with my abusive alcoholic parter. The abuse was so bad the courts put a 12 month non molestation on him. He was in rehab with no place to go when he came out. I subsequently organised a lovely little house for him to live with all his familiar things around. Needless to say he had only been out of rehab for 24 hours before he started drinking again. His adult children who had committed to looking after him walked away and so did his siblings.
I never stopped loving him or worrying about him however I was trying my best to move on with my life.
On Friday the police arrived to inform me had died as a result of a fall. He was 59 I am still his next of kin on paper.
This long preamble leads me to the point of where I need some advice.
My heart is broken and my grief immense. I had to inform his children and his father. The family want to take over so I have agreed coroners reports etc must now go to his 24 year old son. The problem is these children and their Aunts just don’t have a clue about anything connected to my ex especially personal wishes like he would hated to be buried what his favourite music was etc. The legal stuff is enormous investments etc.I have tried to convey some of this but they want to do it their way. It breaks my heart, that great hugely conflicted love of mine is in a mortuary without clothes because nobody seems to think it matters. That is just a small thing that is adding to my anguish. I know they will have no option but to come back to me for help and information but that doesn’t get me through the night.
I’ve indulged in a rant I know but sometimes it’s cathartic to write things down. Xx
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