Hi Felicity,
Firstly, I’m so sorry for your loss and to hear of this awful situation.
Why not ask his son if you can attend the funeral home with him and explain that you may be able to answer many of the questions that will be asked.
As a funeral arranger I see many families who come in and there’s often 4 or 5 family members attending to make the arrangements.
It takes an hour and a half or so to go through funeral arrangements and that’s with people generally knowing what their loved one wanted.
I’m not sure where you are, but in the UK if you are his next of kin then you are quite entitled to make the arrangements, although asking if you can go along may stop family feuds beginning.
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