This is hard for me to write but I’ve had to face the fact that my son is an abuser, both mentally and physically towards his current partner and it would appear in previous relationships. They have a beautiful baby and it has all kicked off again. She has left him at least 6 times in 3 years but has always come back. They’re both hot headed and volatile but I am totally shocked by his behaviour towards his partner and my baby grandson. She has involved the police on one occasion but the CPS threw it out. She continues to go back to him but on this occasion I turned up just as they’d had a massive row and she had all hers and the baby’s possessions jammed into her car. The baby was crying, she was crying my son was shouting abuse at her and she’d just flipped. I offered her to come to us as we have lots of bedrooms and the baby stays with me every week so he’d be in a familiar place. However she wanted to go to her sisters so I went a bought her a travel cot as the baby had nowhere to sleep and she was planning to sleep on the couch. The night didn’t go well and my grandson didn’t settle and kept his little cousin awake so I persuaded her to come to us which she’s now done. For the last 2 nights we’ve put the baby to bed and have sat up chatting for hours. Some of the things she’s told be has made me sick. I know she’s not lying. She’s shown me 100s of vile abusive messages from him. She has photos of numerous bruises and of her bloody nose, inflicted when she had my grandson in her arms. I don’t know what to do. If I report him he’ll lose everything. I knew he had difficulty managing his temper and is on antidepressants but this is just shocking and I can’t stop vomiting and shaking, I think I’m in shock. He’s usually so kind and considerate with most people but it’s clearly all a front and he clearly has absolutely no love or respect for this poor girl. She comes from a vulnerable family who aren’t able to support her so I think she feels she has no option but to return.
They don't really care do they
I am not a nasty person but ……
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages