This is freaking me out - relative claiming she has second sight

Just tell her you do not believe in premonitions and the like and if she is coming over to you she will have to stay 'grounded'

Just tell her you cannot possibly have anyone to stay for the foreseeable future - which she should be able to see as even we can do that.

She’s not a medium!

Come March 1st - and no assassination - you will be able to see just how to proceed.

Fascinating! What fun! Sometimes things just happen - once or twice in decades of a lifetime chance just takes a hand.

Don't worry now, let things develop and make up your mind about the visit later - a good time to put things off.

She sounds rather interesting. Is she bringing he new partner?

Many mediums prey on the gullible and bereaved but you can’t blame anyone because you weren’t there and don’t really know what she was told so that’s pointless it doesn’t matter who was to blame does it ?
In your opening post you said you were freaked out and the thought of having her in your house made you uncomfortable yet now you are landed with not only her to freak you out but the addition of a completely unknown man who even she doesn’t know if she met him a month ago as your first post says He could be absolutely anyone

You have the perfect excuse of CoviD I would say nothing unless she brings it up then say everything re travelling is on hold Then I d forget about it

You talk about we and us so do you have a husband and what does he think to it all ?

I d keep her as a pen friend and leave her and her mess where she is

We've been corresponding regularly for about 7 years now, and went out in 2015. She reported she had met the boyfriend in 2016 online, they were going to get married, she showed me photos of them, and we discussed all the wedding arrangements. Then boyfriend was diagnosed with ADHD and the wedding deferred for six months. When she discovered the drug problem she she kicked him out, but was heartbroken as she obviously loved him very much even though they hadn't been together more than 18 months. When he was found overdosed in his truck with severe brain damage due to lack of oxygen, she was heartbroken, and the problems he had given her seemed to be washed away. She spent a year driving around with his ashes distributing them at places she loved. All this time we were supporting each other with frequent emails, but she didn't mention the 'other world' until she met a medium at the end of 2019, who told her the boyfriend was her 'guardian angel'. I blame the medium!

BlueBelle

grannyRose the bereavement is so bad she’s found a new boyfriend to ‘make her better’ ?

Blimey you are ‘brave’ B9 , now you say the new boyfriend is coming with her, I wouldn’t entertain that in a million years bad enough having some distant relative you don’t really know (you ve only met her once) and she sounds mad as a fruitcake coming to stay, but now you say her new boyfriend is coming with her ....whoooooah ...they could be anybody.
I d find a solid reason to ‘uninvite’ her

I agree with BlueBelle. Apart from the distant cousin, I would certainly not want some random new boyfriend coming to stay at my home. He could be anyone.

She sounds very strange.

Even if the boyfriend is wealthy it doesnt matter one jot if your home is more humble. It is the warmth of the welcome that is important and not material things

grannyRose the bereavement is so bad she’s found a new boyfriend to ‘make her better’ ?

Blimey you are ‘brave’ B9 , now you say the new boyfriend is coming with her, I wouldn’t entertain that in a million years bad enough having some distant relative you don’t really know (you ve only met her once) and she sounds mad as a fruitcake coming to stay, but now you say her new boyfriend is coming with her ....whoooooah ...they could be anybody.
I d find a solid reason to ‘uninvite’ her

B9exchange I wouldn’t worry - suspect the house and the boyfriend are about as real as the psychic abilities...

It seems certain that this relative is suffering from her recent bereavement. If you think you can help her through that then it will be good for her to visit, but if it is going to freak you out find an excuse to cancel.

If she does come try not to engage with her on the prediction thing - "that's interesting" or "I see" or something equally non-committal will be useful expressions to practice.

This all really depends on how good your relationship is.

I suppose one for each bedroom and one downstairs, don't they call loos 'bathrooms' in the States?

I think everyone has moved their holidays from a year ago, and is hanging on in hope that they might materialise this year. Have to wait and see. If they do come, quite apart from my banning any further predictions, how am I going to cope with such a seriously wealthy couple in our rather modest house? I certainly can't supply a "home theatre & music room, a boat house right on the lake (lots of steps down the slope to the little red shelter), 3 garages, and an accessory dwelling unit over the middle garage". It sounds like a film star's!

Some people need to have a ‘special gift’ because they can’t muster any of the normal things that are indicators of success. I had a friend who had dropped out of uni because of illness, who never held down a permanent job, who found it very difficult to have relationships etc.

One summer, they suddenly discovered a ‘gift’ for water divining. They spent a whole holiday in a cottage in France criss-crossing a meadow with two bent coat hangers, marking each place where they twitched with a paper marker. After two weeks the whole meadow was covered with markers. I could have told them there was a lot of water under the meadow without using coat hangers - it was the floodplain of a river that ran alongside. But it made them feel a bit special for a few days, and did no harm.

Why would anyone want 5 bathrooms?
Sorry. I should take this more seriously and I understand that not everyone thinks as I do.
I shared a house once with a young woman who believed in the supernatural and had a priest come to the house and exorcise it because she kept seeing and feeling ghosts. I slept through.
Your relative may have come to terms with the death of her boyfriend by the Autumn and it could be fine. Is anyone really planning holidays?

I’d just tell her you are not into that stuff and you find it strange. She might think you are agreeing with her if you say nothing. I’d be a little bit wary of her but that is me, I tend to be a bit suspicious.

I have read before about the ‘predictions’ that Donald Trump will be assassinated at his Florida home, so your friend could well have heard that too.

My reaction would be to let the friendship drop.

Weird Experience I read about Espee's Weird Experience this morning. It's in Bereavement

Thanks for your advice, I will make some non-committal response until 1st March and see where we go. You are right, I should just ask her to keep any second sight ideas to herself, and we should then get along fine. She is bringing him with her apparently, I assume he is of the same mind...

Just ask her what next weeks lottery numbers are !!
For goodness sake it’s all mumbo jumbo anyone can say they saw this that or the other sounds a total nutcase I d cancel the holiday make some excuse up about not travelling and let the relationship die out
For all you know, the whole story from the nasty boyfriend, the kicking out, the death etc etc and everything else was all a load of tosh she sounds mentally challenged I d stay well clear

Mediums and people of that ilk have many premonitions but they only seem to remember the one in a hundred that come true.

The same goes for those that believe in god, something good happens is down to their god, something bad is due to human behaviour.

It's nice that you have discovered this distant relative who obviously appears to be looking forward to visiting you when safe to do so.

In your position I think I would be explaining that, whilst it's her choice to believe what she likes you do not want to be influenced by her "gift". The photos of this amazing house could have come from anywhere and she may well be trying to pull the wool over your eyes. What proof is there that the man friend actually existed too?

Sounds to me like your relative has guilt feelings over the way the trucker boyfriend died B9exchange unnecessary of course but we can't help how we feel. She may be manipulating the facts to suit the situation, who knows really. I don't think for a minute she has second sight. I do think she needs to come to terms with the death of the boyfriend.
Just my opinion obviously.

I had to deal with a relative who claimed 'premonitions' (drawing on the family history!) and of course, over a lifetime, or or two may come true!
However, it was easier - she lived nearby so I could see her in small doses.
I said to her that I found it very difficult to handle some of the things she predicted and wished she would not upset me by sharing them, but leave me to find out for myself . I asked her to respect that - she saw this as weakness on my part, but accepted it.
When others joked or challenged her, she 'rose to the bait'.

I don't know if you think it would work with your relative, or if that would be acceptable to you. you should not have someone in your home who makes you uncomfortable.

Get your ouija board and glass ready!

Actually, that can be spooky so perhaps not.