Red flag/Dealbreaker

I agree with your instincts, the fact he can’t manage his money would also be a red flag never mind asking to borrow from you.

I think your instinct is right, call it a day.
You can kiss your £20 goodbye I think.
Good luck.

That’s really cheeky. Think I would also be inclined to call it a day.

I think your last paragraph perfectly sums up what I would do. ?

Your last paragraph sums it up. Be relieved it’s only cost £20 and some disappointment to end this now.

Thanks everyone for the feedback and I’m going to go with my gut on this and call it a day.

I’d rather lose £20 now than a lot more a bit down the line when feeling have maybe developed although the way I’m feeling now it’s unlikely. I would just be far too proud to ask someone for money like that. He also doesn’t get paid for nearly another 10 days so can see it being more than a one off.

He seemed a catch but I did joke with a couple friends there will be issues somewhere. Just puts you off! I’ll stick to my own company again lol ?

As others have said , write it off to experience .
What would he have done if you hadn’t got any cash with you!

NotAGran55 that went through my mind too. I’d rather he had arranged the meet up for when he could afford it. Not that it was even an expensive date. We walked the full time without stopping for as much as a coffee. Oh well, glad others feel the same and it’s helped make my mind up.

He must have been aware of how much petrol it would take to get to your meeting point and back, therefore he must have either planned or assumed that you would go to his assistance. Follow your own instinct, tell him to keep the money. Then don’t answer his calls or texts and delete him from your phone. Mark it down to experience and be thankful that you only lost £20, it could have been so much worse.

Alarm bells would ring with me. It may only be £20 now but who knows what it may be further down the line should you stay with him. Let him keep the money and put it down to experience.

Wow, red flag the size of Wales! If he'd arrrived all flustered and said he'd come without his wallet and the tank was on red could he borrow a fiver just to get home I'd have laughed lent him £20, enjoyed the walk and then reviewed his suitability. then rejected him because I like organised people!

Big big big alarm bells, that was just a taster ...you gave him £20 he probably would have given it back to build your confidence in him he would have reeled you in more and more then there would have been some ‘real crisis’ for a larger sum
You were being groomed well done for seeing through it and not letting your heart rule your head

Shame about the next lady who may not be so savvy

Alarm bells ringing like Big Ben
I have also found that online dating is a minefield and you have to be very carful,

Being on your own is a far better position to be in than caught up in a net of lies deceit and a bad fish

You were very lucky he showed his hand so early in your relationship .

The words ‘touch’ and ‘bargepole’ spring to mind.

I agree with all thats been posted, i can`t add any better advice.

Would have felt like saying “Sorry, I didn’t bring my purse with me as I assumed we wouldn’t need any money to go walking”.

As others have said, apart from anything else, if he’s so disorganised not to have sufficient petrol in his car, he sounds like a waste of space.....

The suspicious side of me would question whether asking for a relatively small amount of money would be his entree into asking for more on subsequent meet ups. Maybe he was assessing your reaction to gauge whether you may be a soft touch. I think asking you how you were fixed financially on a first meeting is a complete no no and based on that I would definitely draw a line under any expectations from a relationship with this person. Absolutely go with your instincts the flag is very red indeed I'd say!

Alarm bells big time, please do yourself a favour and get rid of him!

Well, I have just realised how very naive and unstreetwise I am! Thank you ladies for opening my eyes !!!

He's hoping you'll meet him on Monday and say keep the money. So tell him to post you the money, so you're not out of pocket, if you want to give him your address; or use one of a friend. Then, block him.

Why not wait to see if you do get it back?

You are right to trust your gut feelings. I've never been wrong trusting my gut and the only time I ignored it my car was broken into! Good luck for the future.

Well I wouldn’t be seeing him again, just in it for money, you’ve had a lucky escape

So he doesn't have cash on a Friday but will come Monday. What's he going to be doing to find the cash over a weekend. And, why did he not arrange to meet up on Monday when he would cash to cover his petrol instead if Friday. Say goodbye now.