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I just do not understand...

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j08 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:26:27

...why people, usually otherwise lurkers, post problems on Gransnet and then get snotty if an answer crops up that they didn't want to hear.

Why bother? confused

j08 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:27:45

Or, they could at least start their post with, "Can you give me some sympathy, please".

gracesmum Mon 14-Oct-13 18:28:33

You're not saying you have just realised this? confused

JessM Mon 14-Oct-13 18:30:48

Maybe because they are feeling lonely and terribly upset j08. And don't have anyone they can talk to?
Or occasionally because they want someone to tell them they are not being unreasonable because they have failed to get support elsewhere. Does that make sense?

j08 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:35:01

Maybe there should be a separate forum. So that g'netters could know that honest answers are not welcome.

annsixty Mon 14-Oct-13 18:37:41

Cynical and unnecessary j08.

j08 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:37:54

Then people like me would know not to go charging in on their large clod-hoppers.

It could be called, "Ask a lovely, sweet, cuddly gran".

j08 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:38:58

No preaching please

Jendurham Mon 14-Oct-13 18:43:21

How do you know they are lurkers?

j08 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:45:15

Search a name - no other posts?

j08 Mon 14-Oct-13 18:46:05

Not that that matters.

Jendurham Mon 14-Oct-13 18:54:14

Good heavens, didn't know you could do that. That's what you put in your opening comment, that's all. They might not be lurking. They might not be at all interested after they have originally joined and gone off to do something they think is more worthwhile.

absent Mon 14-Oct-13 19:03:47

j08 You do seem awfully proprietorial about Gransnet and the forums. Members are allowed to post things of which you disapprove and with which you disagree. You, of course, have control over your own posts and can easily avoid making insensitive and unkind remarks in response to those describing their problems and unhappiness, if you so wish, without confining occasional posters to a virtual ghetto.

Have you tried net grans or whatever it's called where there is a hierarchy of posters as you seem to be suggesting? Perhaps you would be happier there.

Galen Mon 14-Oct-13 19:16:20


Mishap Mon 14-Oct-13 19:19:01

I think that it is possible to proffer advice that might not be exactly what the poster is hoping to hear; but to do it in a sensitive and tactful way. Gransnetters do this all the time as far as I can see, and that is what is so good about the site.

j08 Mon 14-Oct-13 22:06:34

Absent I got banned from Grannynet long ago.


merlotgran Mon 14-Oct-13 22:11:10

That's made me laugh, jingle. I joined Grannynet and didn't bother posting because I didn't want to be treated like the new girl at primary school. I went to twelve different schools when I was growing up and learned the best way to fit in was to hit the ground running.

I can imagine you doing that and getting chucked out for your sins grin

yogagran Mon 14-Oct-13 22:24:27

I did that too merlot, never got round to posting on Grannynet and I didn't like their way of stating who was new or how long you'd been a member. Never even look at the site now, I like the familiarity of GN here grin

Aka Mon 14-Oct-13 22:28:42

Subtle Absent thlwink

Aka Mon 14-Oct-13 22:30:02

I haven't the foggiest what your talking about J0 thlconfused

Aka Mon 14-Oct-13 22:30:28

And usually your very blunt straightforward.

Aka Mon 14-Oct-13 22:30:44

your you're

Aka Mon 14-Oct-13 22:32:03

I don't think we have any 'lovely, sweet, cuddly grans' on here either thlhmm

Sel Mon 14-Oct-13 22:38:03

Oh I always think Printmiss sounds like that Aka I fit cuddly smile

LizG Mon 14-Oct-13 22:50:01

I would so love to be thought of as cuddly but too tall and too wide thlenvy make a good witch though!