I just do not understand...

Or, they could at least start their post with, "Can you give me some sympathy, please".

You're not saying you have just realised this?

Maybe because they are feeling lonely and terribly upset j08. And don't have anyone they can talk to?
Or occasionally because they want someone to tell them they are not being unreasonable because they have failed to get support elsewhere. Does that make sense?

Maybe there should be a separate forum. So that g'netters could know that honest answers are not welcome.

Cynical and unnecessary j08.

Then people like me would know not to go charging in on their large clod-hoppers.

It could be called, "Ask a lovely, sweet, cuddly gran".

No preaching please

How do you know they are lurkers?

Search a name - no other posts?

Not that that matters.

Good heavens, didn't know you could do that. That's what you put in your opening comment, that's all. They might not be lurking. They might not be at all interested after they have originally joined and gone off to do something they think is more worthwhile.

j08 You do seem awfully proprietorial about Gransnet and the forums. Members are allowed to post things of which you disapprove and with which you disagree. You, of course, have control over your own posts and can easily avoid making insensitive and unkind remarks in response to those describing their problems and unhappiness, if you so wish, without confining occasional posters to a virtual ghetto.

Have you tried net grans or whatever it's called where there is a hierarchy of posters as you seem to be suggesting? Perhaps you would be happier there.

Ouch!

I think that it is possible to proffer advice that might not be exactly what the poster is hoping to hear; but to do it in a sensitive and tactful way. Gransnetters do this all the time as far as I can see, and that is what is so good about the site.

Absent I got banned from Grannynet long ago.

That's made me laugh, jingle. I joined Grannynet and didn't bother posting because I didn't want to be treated like the new girl at primary school. I went to twelve different schools when I was growing up and learned the best way to fit in was to hit the ground running.

I can imagine you doing that and getting chucked out for your sins

I did that too merlot, never got round to posting on Grannynet and I didn't like their way of stating who was new or how long you'd been a member. Never even look at the site now, I like the familiarity of GN here

Subtle Absent

I haven't the foggiest what your talking about J0

And usually your very blunt straightforward.

your you're

I don't think we have any 'lovely, sweet, cuddly grans' on here either

Oh I always think Printmiss sounds like that Aka I fit cuddly

I would so love to be thought of as cuddly but too tall and too wide make a good witch though!