GNHQ here - please read

Kate your post illustrates how problematic it can be when posting on a public forum.

If I remember correctly, you had a very difficult childhood and lost all your hair (I could be mixing you up) however you have had a very long and successful marriage - something that many of us weren't so good at! But I don't take umbrage at those who post about their anniversary celebrations, particularly if attended by their adult children who've never given them a moment's worry

I don’t want to read bland opinions but dislike verbal aggression. Feelingmyage I'm afraid, IMO, yer have to take the rough with the smooth, or things will be very bland!

Yes Riverwalk that's me Thank you. Personally I love to hear about everyone's families, see their photos etc. I don't want to argue.

And yes of course people are entitled to complain about their hair at this difficult time. I just had a bit of a 'moment' . It's not all about me!

I’ve been posting here for. Few years but less and less recently because of exactly what you describe Lara . I hope things can be kinder all round .

agreed Lara. I like a good debate as much as anyone else, but I do find the bickering, and sometimes spiteful posts very wearisome.

Agreed, maybe those of us who stopped posting because of unkindness may feel inclined to
start posting again.

Agree. Let's be kind.

Totally agree used to look dpfirward to reading the posts and haven’t been commenting on things as I feel so sad about some of them we’ve all been through such a lot and it made me feel like switching off for a while,

Yes, Lara

Hands up, I had a post deleted the other day but it was in response to another post which I found truly upsetting and shocking.

I will try not to respond to those types of posts in future.

Read thanks Lara I don't post often some I have read recently have been a bit harsh .

I've seen someone say, occasionally, that their post was deleted and they don't know why.
A link to GN guidelines is not always enough.
I think it would be useful for GN to say, either in the deleted post or directly to the person, what exactly the reason was.

I have never had a post deleted, btw, so it's not sour grapes from me.

Thanks Lara. I'm one of those GNetters who loiter, sometimes feel moved to write something, then back off in the face of some of the earlier comments. I would never assume that 'my' view is the correct one - what a pity that others often seem to be so sure that they are right. Most of the topics (political especially) have no simple answers. If they did, then we GNetters would be running the country now there's a thought

I wonder whether the increase in unacceptable postings is a symptom of covid-19 syndrome. We are all a bit frazzled by lockdown, the stuttering emergence from it, and the feeling that our hapless government has not got a grip

Thank you for listening Lara.

I agree. A pity when threads get derailed and personal.

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This is interesting but I wonder, when threads do deteriorate into personal remarks usually there are two or three posters involved. Because of those 2 or 3 people whole threads are being deleted, wouldn't it be better and produce better outcomes if those people were warned, any offensive posts removed and a warning issued with the threat of a temporary suspension from GN? It would then mean those interested in real debate could continue. GNHQ has been deleting threads for a long time now and apparently things are getting worse, perhaps you need to review your strategies. It does seem a pity that real debate should be stifled in this way, and there is the possibility that some are just trying to get the thing deleted.

So we know there are still plenty of lovely women here
Nortsat I prefer to say "lovely ladies! And not forgetting the gentlemen of course, even if we are more rugged than lovely
Also, anyone looking for a safe, strife-free thread, take a look at the "Good Evening xxxDay " thread, where you'll find some more lovely ladies engaging in very pleasant conversations.
Good Health
OoRoo

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Well done to GNHQ for reminding people about not beig rude to each other.

However strongly we feel about a particular issue the replies from those who disagree with us should be respectful and address the questions/issues raised, not the person who posted. I am tired of seeing posts saying something like "Oh [name} is always saying that - we know what to expect from her, don't we?)".

Yesterday someone whose name I forget) told other posters to "give it a rest" just because she didn't agree with what they had said. I thought that was borderline rude.

Keep up the good work GNHQ.

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Thank you Lara. I think this was needed.

There do seem to be a few long distance snipers on here who spoil what could be a very good discussion/debate with personal rebukes.

I would not want to see a bland forum where everyone agrees and we all pat each other on the back. I agree that some personal attacks are unwarranted but there has to be argument and disagreement. I think this is counter balanced by the many kind and helpful posts on here.
It's better not to engage if things are getting personal.

Rufus I am happy to be a woman and not a "laydee" and yes its good to have the views of both men and women. I've probably offended someone now with the last few words.

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