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LaraGransnet (GNHQ) Tue 07-Jul-20 11:27:47

Hello, GNHQ here, (waving a white flag).

We need your help. As many of you have probably noticed the conversations over the past few days have been increasingly tense. The questions posed have been so interesting and worthy of debate but so often the conversations have derailed and turned into personal attacks (the veiled ones can be particularly unkind). We hate deleting threads when people have taken time and effort to contribute and it must be equally wearing for you all to wade through mean-spirited posts. We'd really like to get back to conversations that include debate/disagreement but that also show a bit of respect and consideration for other posters even if you disagree with them.
Thank you for reading. smile
GNHQ

Galaxy Wed 08-Jul-20 11:48:07

I think for those who mentioned MN, the two sites are very different. MN has its issues and is often robust grin but it's much bigger so it's quite hard to recognise posters, so therefore its tends not to be ongoing personal battles so much.

lemongrove Wed 08-Jul-20 11:57:19

No whitewave you are certainly not making things better, far from it.Do please stop with remarks that somehow I am at fault over somebody elses deleted comments.

Whitewavemark2 Wed 08-Jul-20 12:03:11

Oh I’m not suggesting that you are at fault!, ?. Just trying to understand why someone should make such remarks for no apparent reason.

Seems a bit bizarre.

aonk Wed 08-Jul-20 12:06:02

I think the coronavirus situation has brought out the worst in some people who have been very quick to criticise other views. Many people are very tense and anxious at present. There’s a lot of change and a lot to worry about. This doesn’t tend to bring out the best in those affected by this.

lemongrove Wed 08-Jul-20 12:06:29

Well there you are....it is bizarre.....but it happened.

Puzzler61 Wed 08-Jul-20 12:09:32

I think we are all tense as we’ve been worried about COVID-19 for so long.
I even fell out with my sister in the first weeks over something we would normally talk out and shrug off.
lemongrove you are a lovely, fun, well intentioned GN’er. Please don’t be upset. ?

DeeKee Wed 08-Jul-20 12:11:13

Thanks Lara, I agree.

Puzzler61 Wed 08-Jul-20 12:11:50

Whitewavemark2 if bizarre things happen we can put it down to the bizarre times we are all living through.
I for one can’t wait for this time to pass, and we’ll hopefully all be more positive and able to look forward to the rest of our lives. ?

Whitewavemark2 Wed 08-Jul-20 12:22:29

puzzler thanks for that and yes, it is a shame. I just wish we could hear from ggteenth as to why she posted what she did and make peace.

EllanVannin Wed 08-Jul-20 12:25:17

Last year I had a volley of reports but those posters who kept reporting me are no longer here----I don't think. All because I stood my ground and they lost the plot, childish really !

Whitewavemark2 Wed 08-Jul-20 12:48:14

Oh dear I’ve just heard from ggumteenth and she has been banned..

What a shame!

Oldwoman70 Wed 08-Jul-20 12:48:45

Usually, when people argue on the internet, it’s not to resolve an issue or to understand each other, it’s just about spouting an opinion.

I have heard it described as like running into a brick wall, it's stupid, it wastes time and can leave you with a throbbing headache.

trisher Wed 08-Jul-20 12:52:46

That's disgusting. I wonder why? It is ridiculous that GNHQ fall for this business of something being entirely one sided when it obviously isn't. Could they ban a few of the people who I can only describe as hypocritical please.

MellowYellow Wed 08-Jul-20 12:59:09

What is this? A bullfight? gringrin

lemongrove Wed 08-Jul-20 12:59:40

trisher....not ‘disgusting’ at all!
Prolonged one sided personal attacks on a thread need calling out.Yes, it was entirely one sided on this thread.Do contact GNHQ if you doubt it.

Whitewavemark2 Wed 08-Jul-20 13:00:55

Did you know she’d been banned lemon?

growstuff Wed 08-Jul-20 13:01:13

lemongrove

*trisher*....not ‘disgusting’ at all!
Prolonged one sided personal attacks on a thread need calling out.Yes, it was entirely one sided on this thread.Do contact GNHQ if you doubt it.

It wasn't one sided at all as a whole.

lemongrove Wed 08-Jul-20 13:02:00

Thank you Puzzler ?
Very kind of you.

Whitewavemark2 Wed 08-Jul-20 13:03:14

To be honest I’ve never ever seen someone attacking another poster with it being entirely one sided.

It is a shame that the banned person can’t defend herself as we only have one side of the story now.

growstuff Wed 08-Jul-20 13:04:06

Not if somebody screenshot the posts. grin

lemongrove Wed 08-Jul-20 13:07:14

Thank you to those who have seen the personal attacks on me and who have replied kindly.
To those posters who are continuing to say that it wasn’t one sided ( have they even seen them?) then I say again Yes it was!
And if you doubt it then ask GNHQ.
If you didn’t read the posts then don’t pile in.
I have now asked HQ if they will please comment on this issue.

FarNorth Wed 08-Jul-20 13:07:25

Fennel thanks. Yes I do that but I was just commenting about the quote function as lemongrove mentioned it.

trisher Wed 08-Jul-20 13:11:35

I am not "affected by Covid" nor am I hypocritical. I fully acknowledge that I can and do get into arguments on GN and don't back down. Nor do I try to pretend I don't, or that I am all sweetness and light. I'm a left -wing, bolshie woman and if I can't express my opinions on GN but have to turn in to a mealy mouthed syncophant to meet the demands of some sort of panel who are worried about advertising revenue then I urge them to be careful. The political threads of late have become fewer and fewer and they risk losing more than they gain.

FarNorth Wed 08-Jul-20 13:12:11

Another thing about MN is that you can change your username as often as you like.
So it will be easy to escape a squabble and continue happily posting without being recognised.
Or to change name for something controversial or personal, maybe, then change back.

Whitewavemark2 Wed 08-Jul-20 13:12:23

I’m sure HQ will defend their position, but we only have their word and I just think the whole thing has been most unfortunate.