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People who post on Facebook

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Nooshboosh Sat 10-Sept-22 12:21:22

Do you think that people who post on FB showing how happy they are in their relationship are really trying to convince themselves and others that they are happy when they may not be? People who put photos of how happy they are, how amazing their partner is, what a fab time they are having, where they have been together, smily selfies of them as a couple, showing the perfect family - is it a cover up of people who feel they have something to prove? I hear that a lot from friends and colleagues but I am not so sure. I think if I was and I was in a fairly new relationship I would want to show it off to my friends. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I do however know of someone who I suspects posts a lot about her new- ish relationship as a way of letting his estranged wife that they are having a good time, I am friends with both of them. Another good friend posted idyllic pics of her and her husband all the time and then we found out there was violence in the marriage. I felt pretty bad for having joined in conversations with others at work making fun of all she used to put on. I'm sure not everyone who posts a lot pics of their wonderful life with their partner is really unhappy and covering something up. Is it not unfair to take the Mickey out of them if they want to do it?

BlueBelle Mon 12-Sept-22 06:57:11

Now my grandkids are all grown and flown in all corners of the world I d probably rarely see a photograph of them if I didn’t go on Fb instead I ve still got my albums (I like actual photographs) to fill up and they love looking at my shelves of albums when they do visit
I ve been on Fb about 14 years maybe more and never had a problem it’s a means of communication and local knowledge even down to the weather wonderful photos of the area
You can buy and sell and a group for every interest under the sun
GSM As you ve told us twice that basically you wouldn’t touch Fb with a barge pole how interesting that you are on this thread ?
And another plus free phone calls to all corners of the earth Talk to my son and wife every Sunday in NZ via FB messenger

Casdon Mon 12-Sept-22 07:44:22

dragonfly46

FB is more secure than GN if you have the right settings. Anyone can read what you write on GN and it is surprising how much information some people inadvertently give away. I can choose who reads my posts on FB.

That’s exactly right dragonfly46. You can set up as many groups as you want on Facebook, and only post relevant things to each of those groups, nobody else sees it. There are some great gardening groups I subscribe to, and the local community page provides information I don’t see anywhere else. We also have a family group, I’ve got a large family, and seeing pictures of what we are doing keeps us all in touch. I think some people are scared of Facebook without having explored the potential.

sum1607 Sun 02-Oct-22 16:21:18

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M0nica Sun 02-Oct-22 16:58:42

My Facebook is set up so that only those listed as friends can see the contents.

I rarely initiate a post, but I do respond to other peoples. Few people among my Facebook friends post anything personal, the occasional one, but not regularly. Mainly they post about their occupations and interests. DH and several others are archaeologists or work in the heritage sector. DS posts about the dig he is directing and anything else in the sector that interests him. DDiL advertises all her gigs, DD posts about elements of her daily life that amuse or enrage her.

I am also on the village Facebook site.

kazzerb Sun 02-Oct-22 17:09:21

I post some meals out, holiday check in or Family gatherings so I have memories coming up over the years. It is for my benefit, no one else's. Each to their own i say.

Franbern Sun 09-Oct-22 09:35:14

All my friends on Fb are people who I really know and call friends in real life. I have NEVER posted any picture of a meal of an animal. I enjoy Fb as a way of knowing what my AC are doing. Use the Messenger system as anything I send to them on that 'ping' them - if I send an email, they may not see ir for several days.

I do wonder at people putting up posts that advertise that they are away from home (at airports waiting flights for holidays, etc). But that is their choice.

I belong (on Fb) to several closed groups, and find these extremely useful.

I am pretty mature, both in years and attitude. Like most things, it is not the actual item (fb) that is a problem, but how it is used.

icanhandthemback Sun 09-Oct-22 10:13:18

Franbern

I do wonder at people putting up posts that advertise that they are away from home (at airports waiting flights for holidays, etc). But that is their choice.

Your insurance company can actually refuse to pay out if you post on Social Media that you are away so you need to be very careful. I think a lot of people don't realise that.

mamaa Sun 09-Oct-22 11:33:19

nanna8

For me it is absolutely the only contact I have with some family and school friends who live overseas. I never put much personal stuff on because I don’t trust it, just general things about holidays, days out, what we are doing etc. It is good for history,too - lots of very old pics of some of the places where my ancestors lived.

Snap nanna8
This is why I use FB- v rarely post about personal stuff, but enjoy seeing photos of family who are 100's of miles away and historical pics of where I was born and the town where we later moved to and where I grew up.

BlueBelle Sun 09-Oct-22 11:40:49

I m with both you mamaa and Nana8 my son wife and grandkids in NZ although I speak to the mum and dad ( kids grown and flown) every week I d never see any photos if I didn’t use Fb and I enjoy the local news, the gardening, the local deals the buying/selling the history etc etc what’s happening I don’t take a local paper so even the local cinema is on Fb
I use it every day

MerylStreep Sun 09-Oct-22 11:41:06

The most I’ve poster on FB was to warn people of the Chinese clothing sites.
They did ban me for a while and in that time I realised that people are going to do what they are going to do, so there wasn’t much point in me trying to warn people.

Lesley60 Sun 09-Oct-22 11:42:07

I’m on Facebook simply to see what’s going on in the community and I also find it helpful to find recommendations for tradesmen etc, I certainly have no interest in looking at peoples plates of food to see what they are having for lunch or their holiday pics