There’s a difference between judging are caring - we can judge what someone has done and find it totally unacceptable but still care about them. I think in the context of this particular scenario the issues are much more complex than in some other examples. There were many victims - the boy obviously to start with, Eddie, Anna and the members of both their families. The drug addict who carried out the attack- all far too complex for any easy judgement imo. But not all cases of murder are this complex and nuanced