All I want for Christmas??

Sorry you are going through such hard times Teetime and Jacq10. Thinking of you both and my prayers for hope and courage for the future.x

My condolences also, Teetime, jacq10 and any others experiencing loss. GN is a sad place tonight.

mabon1
For once, I agree. No cats (or any pets) on beds, however, you must allow that some posters don't have your mindset and each of us has differing levels of what is and is not worthy of posting on GN.

So sorry teetime, at least he's at peace now.. My good wishes go to you and your family at this sad time.

teetime

There will be and to be found in the memories.

Teetime - my heartfelt condolences.

I started reading this post feeling a bit sad because we won’t have our daughter and her husband with us for Christmas. Then I carried on reading the posts and was saddened by how difficult Christmas is going to be for so many Gransnetters. I’m so sorry for you all. I just had an e-mail from an acquaintance as well, and her husband is about to pass away after a prolonged battle with cancer. It’s awful when a bereavement happens, but so much worse when the whole world is celebrating all around you.

Thoughts to anyone who is suffering with their own personal sadness....as others have said in various posts.

Christmas is not all Joyful .Christmas is blended with sad thoughts , happy thoughts, thoughts of Christmases past.

Take care everyone

Deeply sorry for you family’s loss teetime. And to everyone else with family illness to contend with. ?

My condolences too, to you both teetime and jacq10.

Condolences to you and your family Teetime

Condolences to Teetime and Jaqui, such a sad time for you and your dear families x

So sorry teetime

Jacq

OP. I totally sympathise. Eldest broke up with girlfriend earlier this year, not his fault so doesn't want to know, says he's going abroad (even though he adores his niece/nephew) Youngest juggles emotions but ends up going with DIL to her parents for Xmas lunch, though coming here later. DH and I will be at the family seat for lunch. I think down to the pub but that will be bittersweet as we don't have our loyal 4 legged friend now.

Teetime my condolences on the loss of your lovely son in law

jacq10 So sorry for your loss

Jacqui and Teetine, so sorry ??
Since my divorce, I hate Christmases.....I go with the flow for the sake of the little ones. My ex lives with his new wife in our town...we all live near each other and so the family dynamics are getting too much especially around this time. On top of that, my older son is in a right royal mood over something I said in the summer.....he is so full of angst. I feel like hiding from everyone from Xmas eve to Boxing Day - Sheer bliss if I could do it.

What I would like to do is fast forward the last week in December! Failing that, just turn up,the heating, fill the fridge with lovely food, put the télé on, have Xmas day in my pjs and please myself! Lol! It’s not going to happen ......... I will be going out to a nice hotel with friends for lunch and the. On Boxing Day, I am in charge of charades and games! Another day with friends ........ but before the. I have to do cards, wrap presents ....... all the usual malarkey! Hey ho, it will soon be the January sales!

All our problems are relative but important none the less. Christmas is a horrible time when you’re worrying about the family and can’t do anything to help. I’ve concluded that the only thing you can do is to distract yourself so arrange to do some nice things around the festive period....you may not feel much like it but it’s better than just sitting fretting. And if it all falls flat on Christmas Day because you’re just at home without them, remember it’s only a day...and start to make some plans for the next day...and week...and the new year...hoping things will improve for everyone. It just rolls like this sometimes.....

Teetime and jacq I'm so sorry for your losses, they must be so very hard to deal with when all around you people are being jolly and festive. My heart goes out to you both, and to Pastel and morethan and others who are going through such difficult times. (((hugs))) and for you all.

Teetime
So sorry for your troubles. I hope this grief soon passes for you and your daughter. I cannot begin to imagine how hard it must be.

In reply to our OP, I used to have problems every Christmas with who was going where, and when, and with whom, so I’ve backed out of it.
I get in some supplies, and make it known that whoever wishes to visit is welcome.
If they can’t manage it, I look forward to seeing them when they have time.
It’s worked very well, no conflict, and the whole family usually manage to visit at some stage over the festive season.
There are four small grandchildren who clamour to see Nana, because they know there are treats in store - kids, eh?
This year I’ve been invited for Xmas lunch at my DD’s home, which is a step forward as she has severe OCD. and rarely manages visitors in her home.
I know it sounds silly, but this is a ray of hope to me after watching her suffer this debilitating mental disorder for so many years.

Anyway, whatever your arrangements, your joys or sorrows, I hope you all have a peaceful Christmas and a New Year full of happy days.

Moving dates wouldn't make any difference, all those women who feel stressful would still feel stressful, though it might be better in warmer weather I suppose!

To TeeTime, Im so sorry to hear of your loss, nothing that can be said will take the pain away.

My husband lost his daughter to suicide about 6 years ago now, when she was 39 and left 3 children behind, with no father either, and he gets up every morning, puts one foot in front of the other and gets through his day, but still has a tear at certain times of year, hasn't forgotten but pain is just a little duller now.

To the rest of Gransnetters, sorry my trivia has niggled some, not my intention, having worked in a 3 9's service for 27 years, I am only too aware that there are others with bigger problems and not just at this time of year either. However, to be able to have just a little laugh is not a sin, even when your whole world is crashing at your feet. Merry Christmas

This is so very sad.