To think this is a damn cheek!

Doodle

I think that’s an excellent suggestion.
The christening photos will be lovely with a backdrop of giant posters of burgers and fries.

Just give her the caterer's contact info.

Sorry if I sound a bit thick but I don’t understand what everyone’s abbreviations mean ?

What a weird request!
I'd have thought that if she asked around a bit, that she'd find someone , for instance, from the village hall committee, that for a donation, would be happy to do this for the christening party.
Just have to wonder why she asked you anyway ! I mean, are you known for your breakfasts?
Suuggest that you tell her that you are going out with a family member, or you had something arranged to do with your husband and before she comes up with "it'll only take half a day" give her the suggestion of the village hall committee or the external caterer.

Glad you've turned down her 'offer'. I have to admit, I'd be really offended if I was asked to go and cook the bacon rather than being invited to the main event, and I can't imagine ever asking a friend to do the catering rather than come to the christening. So I think you're very understanding and easy going.

Rather a long way to the nearest MacDonalds!

The local catering lady got back to me, she keeps the bacon for rolls hot in a slow cooker, but has electricity supply in her little van.

So, I'm going to suggest that they do the same, cook it at home, or in the hall, then bung in slow cooker while they go to church for the service.

I will also give them her number, in case they don't want to risk getting grease on their outfits!

It will probably go down like a lead balloon, but I am NOT going to do it!

I could either be blunt (and honest) and risk some attempts at persuasion followed by sulking, or lie and say that my post op check is on that day. (It's actually on Saturday 23rd, but they don't know that!)

So, which should I do?

It’s a piggin cheek

Why is there NO ONE in their family who could go early and cook the bacon?Because no one else wants to do it thats why! Yeah just say you cant,you havent the food certificate& wouldnt wish to risk making anyone ill- then email her the catering ladies details.leave it at that.Dont bother with her again,friends like her you dont need.'fair weather friends' my late mum used to call 'em

I don’t think either of you are BU. She’s offered you some work, you don’t want the gig, you’ve helpfully found someone who might want it.
Why is anyone unreasonable here?

If it was me, I think I would be tactfully honest.
I HATE any kind of upset, so othe temptation would be to fib, but knowing my luck, the date of the Christening would be put back a week and I would be in an even worse situation!

I think I 2ould just say something along the lines of ' what a brilliant idea, unfortuneately I am just not in a position to help - but here is the phone number of an excellent caterer, maybe give her a ring'?

A good friend would not question that, other than to ensure that you are okay.

I must be the only person who doesn't think it is awful to be asked. I wouldn't be offended and would like to think I could help a friend out, and think that it is nice to be offered a meal out. On the other hand I don't think she should be offended if you decline! I think the fact that you have thought about alternatives for her is good, and I don't see that you have to give excuses or lie. Were you expecting to be invited to the main event? do you know the family? if so then I can understand you feeling a bit let down, but I wouldn't let it upset you or your friendship.

Am I being thick or do other people have problems with the abbreviations ?

I think it’s a downright cheek & quite insulting to be honest!

No, I wasn't expecting to be invited.

Lesley60, there is a list of the abbreviations, can't remember where, been here so long that they have become second nature!

Yes some church halls(especially if they've a fully equipped kitchen!) Do cater for after a church 'do'- or a funeral-its usually the womens institute ladies,or church volunteers,same as they put on teas& coffees after a church sunday service.i wonder if she's even bothered to ask,or maybe she has and the church make a charge for catering,or would expect a bigger church donation?Anyway as you said,give her the info on how to do bacon.and the caterers number.good luck.

That is really weird. If she was one of my friends I would ask her why she did this. You don't invite someone and then ask them to work. Also, a bit insulting to say you would be paid. A potluck is a different story and I have been to hundreds of those and we all bring something to share. If she said could you bring your favorite bacon rolls and so and so is bringing cake; that would be much better and I would usually say yes.

What an arse. I wouldn’t even get back to her...let her or her daughter sort it out..if she calls back tell her you thought she was joking as a real friend would have invited you to the christening.

Wow thats cheeky, no don’t do it and don’t feel guilty either!

phoenix “2 soups?” made me laugh out loud! So funny

We have ‘friends’ like this. I give them a wide berth.

Wow, it didn't register in my morning brain that you weren't invited. No! lol

I also think it was odd that she asked you to cook the bacon! and to be honest (as a vegetarian) I can think of nothing more hideous than attending a bacon roll party?

"No, it doesn't work for me
Congratulations on the baptism"

I wouldn't even offer theme caterer contact.
She can take care of her own bacon

We dont really do potluck here in uk.shamereally

What a bl****cheek but never the less made me laugh when thinking what my late North Derbyshire MIL would have said. 'Now't stranger than folk'.