AIBU to expect DH to have common sense?

Sounds like we are married to the same man!
No advice i'm afraid, mine hasn't changed in 52 years.

Gosh I’m glad I’m single.

I'm sure men have a different temperature gauge to women. My DH gets up very early and will open the back door on winter mornings, allowing icy air to flood the entire house; this is irritating enough but he also leaves the heating on full blast so that the bedroom radiators are almost at boiling point trying to counteract the arctic conditions. In hot weather we have the reverse; all windows left shut, mysteriously the back door also, and in the study he will be gently simmmering with windows closed, and the blind, which could deflect much of the bright sunlight that is racking up the temperature, is rolled tightly at ceiling height. Baffling.

Ooooo Welbeck send that Big Yellow Taxi my way please x

Nnnnan2, congratulations on being the only person to make me feel unwelcome on Gransnet.

As for a separate thread for husbands to complain about their waves, surely it would be too short to be interesting since all our spouses are beyond reproach.

My wife often complains at this time of the year that I never roll up the garden hose after I have used it. She also often has a "verbal slap" at me when I leave my tools laying about after finishing a job around the house.

Why not just tidy up after yourself and save her the aggravation? Unless of course you enjoy winding her up?

anno To your PS post ....Spot on! ?

My husband gets up takes dog out to woods over the road. Gets back home makes me cup of tea brings it upstairs still in his boots! Leaves toilet seat up despite constant requests not too. Washes his hands and uses a nail brush leaves the sink in a mess. The list is endless I have come to the conclusion he does it to annoy me or likes being nagged at. His response is always that he forgets and he is sick of being nagged at!

My husband whacks the thermostat up to the max so that 'it heats up quicker'. I keep telling him that it doesn't , that setting it to the level where we are comfortable is best . Why? Because then he opens a window 'because it's too hot'! So we've used too much gas to heat the house and now he needs to cool down. I did ask if he was having a hot flush.

Loislovesstewie I do that too with a thermostat,heating and oven, yet I know logically it does not make it heat up quicker.

I have wondered why there are not many men on here, hope they are not being put off by the very few members of the anti men brigade.

Each other’s foibles become more pronounced with retirement. Years spent looking after children, the home, the dog, garden, earning a living etc are so full on and busy but once it is just the two you (if you are fortunate enough to get that far) there’s more time to really see the other person.

My things get tidied away before I’ve finished with them and often in to places it would never occur to me to look. At first I thought it was me losing the plot! I am thinking about getting a Grandma shed put up in the garden with a padlock and one key! Not sure whether it’s to lock myself in or OH out!

Letting off steam anonymously is a healthy thing to do IMHO. If you named and shamed your OH in the local paper that would be mean spirited but, especially during the current lockdown, it’s preferable to keep a sense of humour, grumble to your online friends and then follow Elsa’s advice:

youtu.be/L0MK7qz13bU 1.06m

PS. My OH hates Frozen with a vengeance!

grumppa, I have always appreciated your contributions to our forums. I can assure you that most of us are not 'man-haters'. Gransnet is - and has always been - intended to be, gender-neutral and the name does not, as might be inferred from Nannan2's post, signify grandmother /grandfather, but grandparent.

Rosina, men and women do prefer different temperatures (research by Caroline Criado Perez 'Invisible Women')

I've often enjoyed the contributions from Grandads on here. However, I don't appreciate being told what we can and can't say about our DHs on an anonymous public forum by one of them.

I referred to an ordinary estate where the Navy owned a lot of houses, and so local schools had quite a few pupils who only stayed in the area for a cooperatively short while (maybe 2 or 3 years) before living in a similar place somewhere else. And another Navy family moved into their house.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Re the Naval estates, I don't understand the difference that occurred when father was home on leave. Did the children stay off school then because they had missed their fathers for months? Possibly understandable.

Am I missing something?

Goodness me. What was clearly meant as a very simple, lighthearted take on everyday life, as it surely must be in most households, has turned into a rumbling, grumbling, moaning from people who I think have lost their sense of humour. Anyway, my darling OH can never close a door or turn out a light. I just quietly do it. And I drive him nuts always tidying as I'm a place for everything and everything in its place kinda girl. He doesnt complain. Neither is the loo seat an issue, I always leave it down, he always leaves it up so we both have to put it right when we need to use it. I've never understood why it should be an issue.

Mine does put the hosepipe away

But for some reason he can't shut a drawer.
However, he does turn out lights, it's me who doesn't do that.

None of you seem to ‘get ‘men at all....they do these stupid things for one reason only ....to annoy us and to get us to rant and rave at them. They enjoy watching us fume! Answer surely is: dont get annoyed!!

It's ok Saggi I know how to get my own back.
Leave the lights on, go on GN, there must be more.

There have been many posts in the past spoilt by one particular grandad in my opinion and I have nearly blown a gasket at him for his continuous jumping on a perfectly pleasant lighthearted post which we are all enjoying on GRANSnet and starting the same old, same old “well, if you’re all so perfect rant etc etc”.

I had hoped he would quietly leave the site and leave us all to our so annoying (to him) posts about our husbands. So much so, I got reprimanded from HQ for being personal. I just sigh very heavily now when I see the usual posts from him. If he’s so busy and essential to his firm’s success, I wonder at him having the time to look on this frivolous site at all. Especially when it seems as if he’s just waiting to jump on any post which doesn’t meet his approval.

I know what’s going to happen now but I am really really fed up of his continual refrain. If we want to moan about our husbands, so what? As someone else has said, they have a jolly good moan about us when they get together! That’s life!

Well said Luckylegs I couldn't agree more!

Luckylegs, in regard to your post @17:16 today, it may well be that your grandad comments are intended for my direction. I judge that by way of yourself being involved in a thread that I had not even made a post on and yet held very disparaging comments about myself and my wife who has never made a post on this forum.

Therefore to state that all comments on husbands, partners and men in general on this forum are "all light hearted" is very far from the truth as those that take part in making such remarks very well realise. They are in fact comments made behind people's backs which illustrates large inadequacies in the persons who carry out such actions as being involved in the above mentioned thread that spoke on me and my wife so well demonstrated.

What I did find amusing however, was that one or two who took part in the above thread action then were prominent on the "An awful lot of nastiness these days, don’t you think" thread in which they joined in decrying such posts as that which they had made against me and my wife,

In regard to your statement that "it seems as if he is just waiting to jump on any post which doesn’t meet his approval", if you look at my post-activity you will see that in general I often post first thing in the morning and then again when I finish work late afternoon. I may occasionally make a post during a coffee break while working but that does not happen on a regular basis.

In regard to the comment on being reprimanded by GNHQ for being personal in your posts, then the remedy for that is quite simple and straightforward forward. That remedy would be, do not get personal with people.

With all the above in mind be assured I will be remaining and making posts on this forum, so there is no need for you to blow a gasket on viewing my posts and resorting to personal remarks, as there will be many more such posts to follow.