Mum wants to be in delivery room

When our first DGD was born, DD (who was only 20) rang to say baby was on her way and would I come round-only a few minutes in car. I arrived same time as 2midwives. All went well, I kept out of the way but came in handy for bed changing etc afterwards. SIL was v gracious. 2nd DGD by section.
I was invited again for their 3rd DGC; again in supportive role only. Last DGD arrived during the night. We got a phone call soon after asking if we wanted to go round to meet her?
DD2 loves a few hours away. We only found out after she was born. Didn't even know she was in labour. We were invited up the day after on discharge from hospital. Stayed in nearby hotel. Invited round that evening, they looked grey with fatigue! Next morning they sent for us so they could get some sleep-we were there in a jiffy.
My DD1 was born at home. My Mum and sister were downstairs. I SO wanted them to be with me but midwife, although lovely and competent, was a bit of a battle axe so didn't like to ask (in my own home too!). I've always regretted that-Ho hum. As long as everyone is ok that's all that matters.
Enjoy the experience Almost there and let us know?

We have a three month old grandson. When we mentioned to my son and partner about who would be in the delivery room he said "what do you think it is. One born every minuet?! They wanted time on their own after the birth to bond with their new baby. Quite right. However, both sets of parents were visiting within 2-3 hours of birth! Your baby. Enjoy it.

So pleased this has been resolved and you can now stop worrying. Wishing you all the luck in the world xx

Sorry, I missed the fact that it was sorted- really pleased and best wishes for the birth.

I secretly really wanted to be in the room when my daughter gave birth - I had been a birthing coach for a few friends many years before, so I knew the ropes, so to speak. But I didn't ask..... And was thrilled when she asked me to be there. It's the birthing mother and her partner and the doctors decision who is in the labour room. I was lucky. The greatest gift my daughter could ever have given me. But her decision.

My daughter was born in hospital on Saturday evening. My husband saw her for the first time on Sunday afternoon when he visited for an hour. She was not with me, no babies were. A nurse took him to the nursery and he glimpsed at her in the cot, no question of holding her. I went home, by ambulance, that was the rule, the next day about 4pm and he held her for the first time
This was nearly 51 years ago and absolutely normal for those days. I am just trying to say it is lovely what happens today but I can assure you all that bonding took place naturally and those babies were as close to their parents as babies are today.

I would not have wanted my mother there, the best person is her partner. I would just tell her straight, in a nice way though, that it is something just the two of you want to share. She should be fine about it, your feelings come first, if not she will get over it.

I was happy to just have a midwife plus husband present for the birth of DD 34 years ago. DS was born 4 yrs earlier with what seemed to me at the time an embarrassingly large audience but no husband, he was banned apparently. Don't think I would have wanted any other family members about.
My father was forced upstairs to assist a very progressive midwife when I was born at home 65 years ago. It was unheard of in those days for a father to be present at the birth of his child. He found it a truly moving experience or so he told me. Mind you, mum told me that they always wanted 4 children but my arrival put dad off that idea! ?

Fast forward to 2012 and the arrival of my twin grandsons....My DIL asked me if I would like to be present at the birth. You bet I did!

No fathers allowed when I gave birth to my first in hospital, I had the second at home and the midwife asked DH if he wanted to watch, no.

I had my first 3 in hospital, 52, 51, and 49 years ago, and husbands, nay, anybody, were not welcomed in the delivery room, just medical staff. When I was expecting baby number 4, I was having the baby at home, as was my friend and neighbour, and she asked me to be at her baby`s birth. I was thrilled to be asked, but sadly it didn`t happen, as she was taken to hospital at the last minute. However, when my baby decided to put in an appearance, she was there with me, as was my husband, but no way would I have wanted my mother to be there, and I`m pretty sure she wouldn`t even have considered it. I had baby 5 at home, again with hubby present, the other kids slept through it all!

Good to know it is sorted almostthere. I think there is no right way, only what suits the woman giving birth.

DD's MIL had planned to be at the birth of DD's first baby, no asking if it was okay. DD said sorry no, not even my mother will be there. There was no chance of that I have a weak stomach.

Last year my niece who says she is my third daughter asked me to be at the birth of her third baby. She had no one as her marriage had broken up and she has no contact with her own mother. It was a dilemma for me, I really would find it difficult but I would have done so if she had no one else. Sadly DN had a miscarriage.

I believe that the mother to be should choose who should be her birthing partner. I have been at the labours of all my grandchildren and the births of 3 but only because that is what my DDs wanted. 2 of the births were because there was no father around.

One advantage of having 2 birth partners is that when there is a long labour, each birth partner can relieve the other and the labouring mum is not left alone. SILs both said they were glad to have me there, especially the first time when they were unsure of what was going on.

Glad this has been resolved happily almostthere

Glad this was resolved so easily, almosthere!

Congrats on your coming baby and best wishes!

There is a story told by a farming cousin about a mate of his, also a farmer whose wife went into hospital to have their first baby. Unlike Dads of today he was fairly ambivalent about being present at the birth and had also been at enough lambings and calvings to satisfy anybody. - or so he thought. . The sister had other ideas "Come along Mr Mac****, you must be with your wife, this will be the most wonderful experience of your life"
It was getting tricky, so he had to don a gown, cap and mask and was bustled protesting into the delivery room. Baby was born but he still held back.
Eventually the sister turned to him and said "Well, aren't you glad you were present after all? Isn't that just a bonny baby?"

"Aye" came the laconic Ayrshire reply, "But that's no' MY wife!"

That is brilliant Alea
Many congratulations on your new GC