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SunnySusie Tue 29-May-18 17:42:43

I have accepted an invite to stay with a friend in the summer and now I dont think I can go through with it because of my embarrassing problem. Normally if I go away I stay in a B&B. The trouble is that I have to get up to go to the toilet not just once in the night, but normally three times. My friend and her partner live in a two bed flat and I am just going to be so embarrassed tramping around waking them up. When I saw the doctor about five years ago she recommended Pilates, which I have been doing ever since, but it hasnt helped. Apparently I have a slight prolapse, but not enought to merit surgery. I find if I restrict my drinking its a bit better, but then I get a headache, or I cant sleep from dehydration. I really dont know what to do and I dont feel I can explain to my hosts. Can anyone help?

FarNorth Thu 31-May-18 20:53:01

Put your feet up for a while before bed. That encourages fluid that's been lurking in the legs to get moving and be peed out before you go to bed.

lollee Thu 31-May-18 21:26:44

Hi again luzdoh....I am blushing lol!. Don't know if you'll read this as i had stopped reading this thread. I do not know anything professionally, only what my own body has taught me. At one stage I was getting lots of water/bladder infections, couldn't get off loo and even resorted to lying in bath for hours. I would panic at work and dash home sick and one night paid £30 to get a cab home from a do as i got that awful i need to go feeling and didn't want to spend all night in loo. During one bout of antibiotics doc suggested lots of water to flush through the concentrated urine and dilute things. It seemed obvious but had never drunk much water so began the 2 litres a day and found, to my surprise i was going less not more and have since not had an infection. Added bonus has been better skin, less fatigue and no more aching joints. But took me all these years to figure out i was living in a state of dehydration, headaches stopped too. I really try to listen to my body now and try things. Silly me addicted to sugary food and recently developed diabetes 2. Totally cut out sugar, dieted and did some pilates and today surgery nurse told me i am back to normal, so well chuffed. Good luck to you and all ladies that have a problem. PS am told pelvic floor exercises are good and a contraption you can buy to insert and use muscles to pull upwards as if toward tummy. Hope you get to read this luzdoh. Oh and cut out or down on caffeine, especially after 1pm ish!

joemaxster2018 Thu 31-May-18 23:16:16

If you need to get up and go for a wee just do it. So long as your not crashing about the place, stomping around, flinging doors open and flicking on all the lights, visiting the loo shouldn’t be an issue. I bet they get up to go too.

SunnySusie Fri 01-Jun-18 08:35:34

Thank you to everyone for your replies, absolutely brilliant and lots of practical ideas for me to try. I feel so much better just knowing I am not the only one with this problem. I am so glad I posted now, it took me a while to pluck up the courage. I wont cancel my visit to my friend and I am determined not to spoil the trip by worrying about going to the loo, so I will crack on with trying all your suggestions. Much appreciated.

Brismum Fri 01-Jun-18 09:09:07

Go for it Sunny Susie have a great time, l too have found helpful suggestions, especially putting feet up before bed. Please tell us how it went.

annep Thu 07-Jun-18 19:19:15

Good post. I got ideas too. ?