Adoption

LikeBlossomsmum I have experience of both sides of adoption with several adopted children and 2 GC who have been adopted. Luckily although they were taken away just after birth they were placed with the same adoptive parents. If your GS has been in care for a while the SW may well have a couple in mind who would be a good match for him. But it is a good idea to keep a newsletter going for him. My DD gets an annual letter from the adopters but maybe the adopters would be prepared to keep in touch with you. It is all done through SS so no addresses are involved.

I knew of a family of 3 children, all older than three, who were adopted together, and the adoptive parents went to great pains to keep the birth grandparents involved. Take heart NewgranGill

I really feel for you Newgran but have nothing to add to what has already been said. Gransnet at its very best.

I hope all goes well, I am almost crying for you, I would hate to lose my grandchildren. I hope all works out for you and your grandson and the helpful responses from Gransnet comfort you and give you hope.

How very hard, I feel for you. All I can say to give you some comfort is I was adopted at six months and I had wonderful parents and a lovely childhood. This was, of course, many, many years ago and things were very different in those days. A lot of helpful advice above from other posters for you.

HI, I am a foster carer and we the child we took at five had an adoption order originally but he did not find an adoptive family as he had many special needs due to early neglect. He was put in short term foster care for six months after this his case went back to is still in contact with child and and they changed his order to long term foster care. Then he came to us at 5 1/2 and he is still here at 12 1/2. We have tried to adopt him but can't because his birth father is still in contact and has made objection. In your gs case he will probably be adopted quite quickly. Even though we cannot adopt our foster son we all love him and we will be his family for life. He sees us as his family and he has come on so much his special needs are much less now.