I'm so cross

Is it every night? If so could you make a separate room for one of you on a permanent basis? A friend of mine told me having separate bedrooms saved his marriage!!

I do think they should start their sleep in separate rooms too. The way it is now, they have almost planned that they'll wake each other up and go to another room half way through the night. I am sure that can't be very good sleep quality for the OP and her husband. The first half of the night must not be very deep sleep since in their subconcious they know there is a disturbance coming up before they can finally settle

Years ago, my non swearing OH, sitting bolt upright, poked me in the ribs and boomed out "Take a letter to * and tell the effin barstewered that mumble, mumble, mumble.......He promptly went back to sleep, leaving me completely bemused.

We later had the 2 singles together combo, but having no spare room, it was the couch in the living room for me if his snoring or my RLS disturbed our night. Later still when his dementia set in, he totally refused to sleep alone, which meant that every night entailed broken sleep for both of us.

Now that he is settled in a care home, the staff are struggling to get him into a routine of sleeping alone in his single bedded room. He sleeps easily in his reclining chair in the lounge, day or night, but cannot settle to sleep alone in his wee room.

Granny23 has anyone tried giving him a teddy bear or doll to take to bed? Just a thought.

Don’t do anything. Muttering when he is woken up and tired is a normal reaction. You have enough to contend with without causing another unnecessary issue.

ReadyMeals He already has a kitten than purrs but won't allow it on the bed! I think he would be pleased to cuddle up to a life sized, inflatable, doll with big boobies, but have not got the brass neck to propose this solution to the Care Home Staff

Lol Granny23!! :D