Should I reward GD for exam results?

jocork our son went to Chester university. When we first looked round the city he was hugely impressed with the Grosvenor Hotel. I promised to take him there when he graduated.
Three years later he received his degree certificate in the cathedral in the morning and we went for lunch at the Grosvenor, a really lovely memorable day.
(The queue was out the door at the hotel and people were being turned away, I was so glad I'd booked).

When my children passed their A levels I didn't buy a present or give money but took them out for lunch on results day to celebrate. It was a good way to spend one to one time. I guess I'd have taken them to commiserate if the results hadn't been as good as expected but that didn't happen so I don't know.

Definitely hug and bank transfer, grand children are there to spoil ?

When the exam season ends, I usually give a monetery pressie for working hard. Nothing to do with results and it is set amount £25 GCSE's, £100 A levels (or equivelent).

My dad promised me a bike if I passed my 11+, we went to numerous bike shops and I was asked what bike I would like.
I passed and was so excited, I got a very old, heavy, black bike which had belonged to the Daughter of a colleague, it was so heavy I could not carry it on my own up the stairs from the garden to the road..
I was so so disappointed I burst into tears and was called all the selfish things under the sun.
I never promised mine anything for exam results, just lots of praise and love.

We aren’t financially flush but have given grandson a few pounds as his results came through just for a treat we always did this with our sonsb so grandchildren no exception!

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I did treat my granddaughter for getting into grammar school not money but a jacket she her eye on.

But would you have bought her the jacket if she hadn’t got into grammar school?

I gave 5 nephews a £20 book voucher each for University which they loved x

Yes a reward of some description is in order, more so this year. The teenagers have missed out on so much, leavers assembly, prom, last day of term shirt signing etc. let alone taking exams themselves rather than having an algorithm decide their future. Enjoy the celebrations!!

Yes writergrandma I would give her lots of praise and some cash to spend to treat herself with.

I would just have been pleased with a ‘well done’ from my parents. Passing the 11+ was just a nuisance to them, with the expensive uniform to buy. They took no interest in my education, because ‘it’s wasted on girls.’ Doing homework in the spare room was ‘wasting the electricity’ and they made me leave school as soon as I was old enough. I tookA levels and other courses at evening classes, but always regretted their lack of interest.
I have always made a point of congratulating my DC and DGC for hard work, not results, with a treat of some kind for extra effort. My oldest GD, I’m proud to say, recently got a 2:1 in Law, which she worked really hard for, but she would have still got her reward for the effort she put in even if her results had been disappointing.

Give her money and let her enjoy herself and have a little spend up. If covid has taught us anything things can change with the flip of a coin.

....oh and my daughter got 5 A grade at A level and my son got 4 A grades , twice as many as was expected by their teachers. Incentive makes the world go around.

....work for works sake , is an adage spoken by people that have never worked at hard graft!

Promised my two money for every A or B they got in O levels and A levels! Why not..... I don’t believe in working hard without reward, and after all it’s the results that’ll get them a decent place at uni or a job....would any of us work for nothing!?!?

Aren't we reading too much into this?

There are academic children. There are non-academic children. There are those who strive for excellence and work hard, whatever their ability and those who don't. It was ever thus!

If you feel your granddaughter has worked for her results, do reward her.

Our family has always told our children that "we don't care about your results (although really, we do!) just work hard and try your best, that's all we ask".

We have a grandson about to receive his GCSE results which we expect to be good as he has worked like a trojan, although academic. His parents would have ensured that he put the work in and if he achieves excellent grades, he will be rewarded by us.

If he receives lesser grades than we are expecting he will still be rewarded by us, all because of his work ethic.

I have no idea if his parents will give him a monetary gift as it hasn't occurred to me to ask - I will now.

Life is not fair and we all pass or fail things, whether it be academic examinations or the driving test. If you think your granddaughter deserves a reward, enjoy giving it to her and her reaction.

It doesn’t matter that they have not taken the exams, the grades they have achieved had to be worked for!

I say give the praise and the reward, and enjoy their appreciation, after all they didn’t ask for Covid!

I gave our granddaughter a cheque, but it’s on the proviso that she doesn’t squirrel it away (she’s a saver !!) !!
Will tell her she’ll need a warm coat when she’s at Uni so put towards that !

I treat them at every possible opportunity as it gives me so much pleasure. However, I am careful not to make it too regular unless it becomes an expectation. They are young enough yet but will hopefully get the general grasp as they blossom.

Never given reward for results and all 3 of mine achieved high grades at school and Uni. They seemed to acknowledge that to get anywhere they wanted career wise they had to put the work in. One found it easier than the other two but they too made it. There wouldnever have been any criticism if they had failed as I knew they tried their best. There will be times in later life when hard work and application is needed and there will be no special reward. Best they get used to it!

The reward should always be for working hard and giving it your best shot and not for the results.
It's also nice to reward gestures of kindness or bravery such as jumping in to the swimming pool at the deep end for the first time or overcoming a fear of spiders.
Lots of praise and recognition for all sorts of things will result in a confident person, money is a helpful little top up but not essential.

If you want to reward your granddaughter., do so.

Personally, although I am very sorry for the uncertainty 'A' level students are going through, I am very relieved not to see pictures of screaming teenagers plastered all over the media. Very humiliating for those who have failed to achieve what they wanted, and such a personal thing to be exposed to the public.

I did treat my granddaughter for getting into grammar school not money but a jacket she her eye on.

I wouldn’t give anything other than a lovely congratulations cards and heaps of praise. What would you do if the results had been poor?! Or if a subsequent gc has poor results....I personally think it sends the wrong message. If she’s going onto uni, maybe a good luck card at that time as well...

We gave my GS some money as a reward for keeping up with his studies during lockdown even though it evidently didn’t count. He wanted to in case he had to sit exams in September. He won’t get anything for his results-but it’s up to us all to make that decision.
My brother got a reward for results from our Granddad-I was only a girl so my good results didn’t count!