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Not sure how I feel yet.

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phoenix Sun 12-Feb-17 04:03:46

Had a phone call from DIL at half past midnight to say that my mother has died. She (my mother) stopped speaking to me some years ago, heaven knows why, I ran myself ragged looking after things when my stepfather was ill and after he died.

I tried to find out what the problem was, but phone calls resulted in her hanging up on me, an unexpected encounter in Waitrose was unbelievably awful, made me wish I had just stayed hiding behind the yoghurt section instead of approaching her.

Now of course I will never be able to sort things out.

I was so proud of her, she was an unmarried mother in 1958, in a small community. She was sent away for the birth, I was supposed to be adopted, but she decided to keep me, despite my having a cleft palate and being difficult to feed.

Perhaps one day I will try to tell the whole story, or at least as much of it as I know, but for now I must admit to feeling somewhat out of kilter, hence still being up at 4am.

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Maimeo Mon 13-Feb-17 23:41:25

So sorry for your loss, Phoenix, I hope time helps you to come to terms with your unresolved relationship with your motherflowers

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phoenix Thu 16-Feb-17 00:28:07

sorry for the delay, have just got back to this thread.

Many thanks for all the supportive posts, and every good wish to those who have posted about similar situations.

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callgirl1 Wed 22-Feb-17 17:53:34

I`m so sorry Phoenix, I haven`t visited this section for a while. My deepest sympathies on the loss of your mother. Take good care of yourself.

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jenn Thu 23-Feb-17 17:34:26

Be kind to yourself

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Scooter58 Thu 23-Feb-17 18:27:58

flowers Phoenix,and also for you HG15 on the loss of your husband,cherish the good times as my Nana used to say .

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Charleygirl Thu 23-Feb-17 18:36:32

So sorry phoenix I totally missed the thread. I hope that Mr.P is looking after you.flowers Please look after yourself, life is not easy.

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downtoearth Thu 23-Feb-17 19:29:42

Have just seen this thread and send my sympathies on the loss of your mum,I am another who had a difficult relationship with my mum,and a sadness that things where not different flowers

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Backsup1 Wed 17-May-17 13:56:32

So sorry for you that you never got to say good-bye but she knows and watches down on you from above

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phoenix Wed 17-May-17 14:58:16

I sincerely hope not.

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