People who give you chapter and verse about people you don't know ow

You forgot the 'book' bit ?

I know someone who when you say my daughter is now 30 their daughter is 40
I'm thinking of getting a new car oh they have a fabulous car
Holidays oh let me tell you where to go. Then follows some boring stuff all about Dubai

If only they realised how irritating it is to be spoken to like this.

It’s a difficult one when a friend has or is lonely. I want to be a true friend and give them my time. Some folk don’t have a chance to talk. Surely that’s what friends are for. I’m thinking it would be cruel to be so very blunt as some here have suggested.
I do hope my friends are more caring and would give me time if/when I get to this phase.

My late MIL used to do this, but she'd insist I knew all these characters. "You know so in so, well you'll never guess what he did." "No" I'd reply "Sorry, no idea who that is." "Of course you know him, it's what's his name's uncle, you know him." It would go on and on until I gave in and agreed I knew them, when I was actually clueless.

She'd also go on and on about someone and their antics, often quite shocking behaviour, and eventually it would become apparent that she was talking about characters on an Australian soap opera, Sons and Daughters. She'd bang on about these people as though they were actual neighbours.

Yes I have a daughter like that so wrapped up in pples life off Instagram also causes lots of trouble in the family I choose to cut loose and cut her out of my life no time for people like this Narsaciss and Passive aggressive the older I get the less time I have for these type of people

My ‘best friend’ is like this she drones on about so and so and half the time I don’t know if it’s a relative, friend or just people in the village! She is lovely otherwise but I always come away thinking I’ve said nothing or very little which is certainly not my nature as I’ve usually got verbal diarrhoea ?! If she texts telling me about people I don’t know I never comment just reply on more general topics!

Serendipity
Ohhh yes,annoying. I have a husband who rattles on and on AND ON, I say "Just get to the point."

I have one of those too. I have explained endlessly how to shorten a story to tell me the important points, as in precis that he did at school. Waste of time.
I do actually find it stressful.

Philippalll I'm from Yorkshire so it might be a Yorkshire saying hahahaha.

Yes the words "Oh just get the point" are almost on a daily basis you would think he'd get the gist hahaha.

I've got a friend who when you ring her and ask her how she is, her opener is always something like 'Dreadful, we've just had some devastating news'. I fall for it every time. Oh no I say, what has happened? Usually it is something like 'Our next door neighbours second cousin once removed who lives in Canada has died'. I'm not exaggerating, that was actually one of the tales.

And people who give you chapter and verse of all their ailments, without being invited…

"That`s nice",brilliant.

Oh yes, the ailment obsessives, drive you round the twist. I am in a group where we have a time limit of 5 minutes to talk about ailments which is long enough to tell friends if you are going to hospital for a procedure or something. There was an ailment guru in my walking group and gradually no one wanted to walk with her, quite depressing.

Even worse when all a person does is talk about themselves..they talk at You...Me Me Me ..I think 70 per cent of the population are like that ...hence now in My 50s I have few friends and happy with that LOL

My mother does this. I have to repeatedly tell her that I do not want to know these people’s personal information and it is over sharing. Lord knows what she tells other people about me! If I have met up with people she knows or family, she will often say in a very annoyed tone that no one told her about this. Not that it is of any concern to her. I live in another country so it is not as though she is excluded from these plans because she doesn’t life here and has no plans to visit.

just tell her that you don't feel included in the conversation... be very honest.

My late MiL.. No idea who she was talking about, her son didn't either.

Sadly none of her children lived near her, she was in Edinburgh us South of England, one daughter lived near Glasgow she was the nearest, she would do the same to her.
My BiL just used to asked what was this weeks "body count"!

Had anyone considered that this lady might have ADHD? !
I have this problem and I was told to stop constantly butting in.
Then I discovered I have ADHD I talk excessively, exhibit restlessness, have difficulty waiting in line, and frequently interrupt others. I do try to curb my enthusiasm to contribute to the conversation. Please don’t think it as just having to make allowances for an annoying person. ADHD is an all consuming life controlling condition.

My very best friend is the same…. she goes on about her ex colleagues ad infinitum. As I don’t know any of them….it drives me dotty! I can usually drag her around to family and grandkids or mutual acquaintances. But she’s my best friend , and always there for me…so she’s forgiven.

Beanutz2115 ?
I have sometimes wondered about myself!

In my experience, it is much more difficult to diagnose females with ADHD It is more common in males in males and often diagnosed as bad behaviour.

I have a friend who is goes on ad infinitum about people I don’t know in great detail, and loves to mention if they are “well heeled” (her words). Another friend catastrophizes illness, even minor issues.

Why are they still my friends? I try to understand why they are like this, and I know that I have my faults and am not perfect. They are also loyal and kind, and friends are precious. I try to see them when I’m feeling upbeat, kind and sympathetic.

I only see them when I’m feeling

My father is in hospital yet again and I thought that it would be nice to meet up with a friend for quick lunch whilst having a mad shop for him .
After thirty minutes ,my head was splitting .
She's obsessed with the exploits of her distant relatives .
I've heard the same stories in person, on the phone and by text for over three years .
Now illustrated with photographs.
She hardly acknowledged the distress I've had over my father.

Oh. and Daisydaisydaisy…I have a friend who is all about ‘me me me’. I got so fed up of her phone calls being all about her that when she called me the other day and opened with her usual “how are you?” …which by the way is irrelevant to her …..I replied “ oh I broke both my legs yesterday” …..her reply “oh dear” then it went straight back to her problems!!! She’s not mentioned my broken legs ( not real)….so next time she calls I’m gonna add two broken arms and see if she responds to that!!!!

Can’t say I have noticed this in you Marydoll as we are as bad as each other talking non stop?

My late MiL was famous for this however, it was only ever about people of ‘standing’, in her mind. I always found excuses to attend to something I must do or even, go hide in the loo for a breather.

OMG yes, I do try a few, Sorry, who is this person....ah, never met her, don' t know her..and try to steer conversation onto other subjects, like Anyway, so how are YOU ...". Sometimes I think them talking aboit other people means they don' t divulge anything about themselves ....

It all depends on whether you care enough to be honest with her and teach her the social ropes of your group. Asking here or telling here is no good to her. You’re doing the same thing and this almost falls into the realm of gossip.