Oops I just posted on old thread and so lost it!
I so hope today is a better day Whiff.?. My dad had a brother that he fell out with,but that was over business. I have two cousins who have been the closest of friends since childhood then one of them disowned the other for the flimsiest of reasons and he was heartbroken. The closest I have had was a friend of over 25years who was a major part of our family. It was quite a long story but she engineered an argument as she wanted to be friends with someone who had caused a great deal of upset to our family. Personally I would have just viewed it as her choice. For some reason she felt she had to create an argument with us in order to validate other friendship. It was total madness and totally bewildering. At the time we were grieving the death of my father and a close friend. She attempted to get people on her side,spread rumours. It was vile and shocking and hit me for 6. Four years on things are calm,friends stood by me and shes left the social group. Your sense of the unfairness and bewilderment at situation really struck home with me. For about a year I was tremendously angry. Now more rationally I can see aspects of her personality that were always there,maybe we just saw them less realistically over time. I think she may have had a mid life crisis,she done some very odd things since. Being treated so unfairly is so painful but as you say time hopefully will see your grandchilderen make contact.
I also think the current situation affects all of us,often when we least expect it and sometimes in unexpected ways. I think it was Thursday I just didn't want to get out of bed,and when I did would have happily stayed in pyjamas. I forced myself to shower and dress and felt better for it. There are moments when sadness or a sense of doom creep in,all we can do is realise we are not on our own and be gentle with ourselves. We are among friends here,and it's good to let off steam.
I leapt on scales this morning and have lost a pound,its a day early but I'm going with it!
Craftyone I think a lot depends on how much you lose. When I lost a couple of stone a few years ago I found the biggest change was the wrinkles that appeared,especially in the neck area. The only plus side of putting weight back on is they've filled out again. That said I'd rather feel lighter and healthier and comfortable in my clothes and confident. Better dig out scarves!
Good luck everyone ?