I’ve seen estrangement now, second hand, through friends and family. I’m not emotionally involved, only in the way that some behaviour makes me cross.
It seems to me that it follows a pattern.
The instigator always has a sad story of being unloved, unaccepted in some way.
They are so happy with their new family. It’s all they’ve ever wanted.
Somebody in the new family is unkind to them, casts slurs upon them, behaves unreasonably.
They can’t bear it. Their partner must see how upset they are.
The quarrel is not of their making. They have no choice but cut such damage from their lives.
Everybody must agree how badly they’ve been treated.
If this is questioned other, more terrible stories emerge.
Obviously in some peoples experience some of the things listed there are true and do happen.
But it’s the pattern that gives it away.
Last weekend, in Rutland, the first statue in Britain of the late Elizabeth II was unveiled.