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Getting to see a grandson in hospital

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marylane1996 Sun 26-Feb-17 08:38:37

I have to fight to see my 10 year old grandson who is about to go in for a major op. Apart from the fact I am allowed just over an hour once a month to see him I am worried sick that i will be stopped visiting by my daughter who says she hates the sight of me. The ward have been helpful by saying arrange your visit so that you dont bump into each other but I dont want to hurt my grandson by not going to see him. I am afraid she will bar the way. Sounds terribly dramatic but that is how my daughter is. Anyone been through this or advice would be so welcome

nanaK54 Fri 14-Apr-17 14:43:42

I could cry for you marylane what an awful way to be treated flowers

Starlady Sun 16-Apr-17 05:46:07

Glad gs is doing better!

So sorry for the way you were treated. I think sil was trying to keep the lid on things though, as I'm sure you understand. I feel for him, too.

It must have hurt terribly to know that everyone else was getting to stay for bbq except you (are you sure that's the case?). Is there any way the strain between you and your d can be eased so that this doesn't happen again?

If not, then I have to agree with the poster who said to develop other interests, etc. This problem will still hurt, I know, but perhaps not as much. (((Hugs)))

Yogagirl Sun 16-Apr-17 08:31:29

Oh Marylane how cruel of your D to get her H to ask you to leave like that, it must have hurt you terribly, to cheer you a little flowers So please to hear your GS is home and recovering well. To not let you visit your DGS in hospital, hurt her S [your GS] just as much as you, how unkind!

I'm hurting too, at not being allowed to see my beloved D&GC, Easter seems to hit hard and I'm feeling quite tearful, 4.5yrs now sad cut out by my beloved GD stepfather because he was jealous of our love for each other!

Yogagirl Sun 16-Apr-17 08:54:15

Did you get to visit your DGS in hospital Maryland ?

marylane1996 Mon 17-Apr-17 11:48:12

No yogagirl didnt get to see my gs as i was told there would be no visitors, found out later that my granddaughters boyfriend had been.Spent easter crying as i cant believe she wouldnt let my grandson on the phone but sent me a brief text saying thank you for the card and money.He loves using the phone but another pleasure taken from us. Thanks everyone for being supportive got to think bad and very wrong things yesterday as i cant bear the way not only i get treated but my gs too

tinaf1 Mon 17-Apr-17 21:13:53

? Maryland1996

Yogagirl Tue 18-Apr-17 07:29:44

So sorry Marylane flowers So wrong of your D! One day your GS will question his mum as to why! He must know himself that this is not right, as young as he is.