Husband and my lurgy

? Hope you get well soon. Don't you get up until you are ready. Make yourself a flask of something hot. He is being selfish and unkind, let him sulk and enjoy the peace, when you feel better treat yourself and go a nice meal, without him.

DH has been fantastic while I've had a new knee but I've noticed that while I am a tea drinker he has never liked tea or coffee and doesn't like making it. I can tell he thinks I drink too much tea and I've made morning tea and coffee this morning for the first time in two weeks. I also like a cup at 4pm. DH doesn't bother. Could your DH be like that op? On the other hand he doesn't hesitate to offer a G and T in the evening and is brilliant at finding and recording my pill intake. If you both have mobiles I would phone him up and ask for a cup.

If you both have mobiles I would phone him up and ask for a cup
stansgran
When MrA came home after his hip
replacement, he slept in the spare bedroom for a couple of weeks because the bed was a better height.
The morning after he came home from hospital, I was woken at 7.45 by text message.
‘Any chance of a cup of tea?’

Hope you’re fighting fit soon

MEN ! why are they mostly like this ..is it just men of a certain age, who might have been brought up by their mother to expect everything to be done for them by their 'significant other' (I hate that expression !)..mine is adapt at playing one against the other At the moment he is in a care home whilst I am in the UK ...however, he suffered chest pain
yesterday and the doctor was called and wanted him t go to hospital ...he refused ! Then my friend went to visit hum and he said 'I wish I could go to hospital they don't ook after me here and they do there'......then he complains about the doctor, but tells my friend our doctor is marvellous ...and so it goes on ! He tells me I have abandoned him (I pick him up on Friday to go home !) and on the other when he speaks to me again he tells me to stay here and not come back......Personally I DO NOT want to come back ...the minute he is indoors again he will start shouting at me and telling me I am useless.......he has no empathy when I am ill and quite frankly I am dreading it ! AIBU ? When I have had (several) ops inhospital he tells me I am making it up and there is nothing wrong with me and to get on with it ! I shall tell him the same !

Where's home Violette? Are you just visiting the UK?

Leave him there VIOLETTE. That’s not usual behaviour.

"Leave him there VIOLETTE. That’s not usual behaviour."
I agree, time to put yourself first . This has gone on for too long (I've met you in the past on another forum, FE).