Morning Ladies, and thank you very much for all your kind words, it does mean a lot to me.
I did found it very hard to get through my nice daughters 30th Birthday meal, the night of the court hearing, and then my work last night,my face must have looked like a death mask. My friends were all shocked and very sad and angry for me, but they said, as some of you on here have, that its not the end, things will happen, now I'm out of the picture.
I will enlightening you all more, in-case any of you have been put off going to court. I think with my case two things happened
1) I messed up big time (I did need a lawyer at the last hearing)
2) Who my s.i.l's family are, could have influenced the Judge.
In the the Judges summing-up she said; "I can see clearly your hatred for your s.i.l", Jason stated this at least twice during the hearing, obviously I had tried to keep this out of my statements, written or verbal, but it must have shown through, I did point out, I had no problem with him before all this, and that this all came from my D and s.i.l big fight, which I successfully mediated between them to get them back together (if I'd have known then, what I know now!!)
The other big mistake I made was I stated about the cultural differences (light bulb moment ladies):
Jason and his family are all gypsies (and proud of it), although they all live in houses now. I would therefore like to teach Laila and Jack, our culture of love and understanding for all people and animals and to be gentle and kind
Hope I don't get a back-lash from disclosing this bit on here.
The Judge looked very unfavourably on this part of my statement and pointed out to me that my GS Jack is therefore part gypsy! I can't believe I didn't think of that, so I blew it, big time!
When my daughter got up to leave the hearing, I said "Jenni", she looked at me and I continued, "Remember me when Laila gives you grandchildren"
The thing that will be etched on my brain forever, is my daughter joining in with the glee and laughter in the car-park, after the hearing, the unspeakable cruel words said to me, her devoted mum, not altering her happy, broadly smiling face, standing close with the others geering me.
My nice daughter said to me "Mum, she's brain-washed, its like she's been taken-over by a Cult"