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T.G.I.F. every one. Sorry you had a restless night Celebgran . I've woken up before at 4.30 am and then not managed to get back to sleep until 6 or 6.30 am; what a drag.

Painted again today, that's 4 times this week and it seems to be taking ages and there's a entire house to do better get some help soon or I'll be downing my paint brushes, still it takes my mind of 'other' things.

At the gym this morning, so that's 3 times this week; no wonder I'm knackered .

Hubby saw d.i.l. walking our gs to the child minder's yesterday morning on his way to work. She did her best to avoid his gaze. If that had been me I'd have stopped the car and called out a hello to him, poor hubby just got upset by it as it's the first time he's seen him in ages. Just like me the other day. Strange isn't it, no sighting for months on end and then we both see him in the same week .

Going for an Indian with our friends' son. He's a few years older than our sons and has been such a comfort since all this happened. Being able to chat and have a laugh has certainly helped us both .

Hope you're OK Yogagirl and things have settled down for you. Is your hubby back now LibraChick? I expect you missed him, I know I missed mine; will have to take better aim next time wont I . Hope things are OK with you dollie.

As it's Friday and for us all. No more painting for me for a few days. Far too much to do, and all much better than painting.

Happy Burns Day/Night and to all. Burns dinner tonight of, starter is cock a leekie soup, then haggis, neeps and tatties, then cranachan for hubby and friends, cheese and oatcakes for me.

Happy bunny today, hubby got back last night, I think next time he goes away, I should take a few days off and go to .

Thanks Celebgran and Yogagirl and Smileless for your kind words and thoughts. Really appreciated.

Celebgran hope your not still feeling fragile from your daughter’s birthday on Monday. Sorry you had to cancel your time with your wee niece, something to look forward to on Monday. Hope you are feeling better now. What a nice hubby to stay home with you when you were poorly. Your weekend away is something to look forward to also. We are away next weekend, going to Coventry to see the new Minister being inducted at the church I used to go and also catch up with friends.

Smileless, sorry you were having a horrible flat and can't be bothered day. I’m a bit like that too, my days are not as bad as they used to be before the year, and I am trying to do things to fill my days, when not working!! You shouldn’t feel disappointed in yourself, we are all allowed to lick our wounds from time to time. Paint the utility room ceiling at your brother's and another 7 rooms to go!! Go girl keep up the good work, rather you than me , but don’t forget to stop for a & . Then when your finished sit down, feet up and have a . No wonder you’re knackered, all the painting and gym, you’re tiring me out just reading it never mind doing all that . Hope you enjoyed your Indian meal. Sorry to hear that now your husband is going through what you went through the other week after seeing GS.

Well I need to get off to start cooking the soup and cranachan for tonight. Have a great day everyone. to all.

Oh good hear from you libra! Take it you Scottish ?

Burns night supper sounds good ! Oh cooking lamb steaks for me think we having healthy fruit salad from marks after!

Thanks for kind wishes sadly I got worse husband took me to walk In Centre as left eye became bloodshot, turns out was connected to bad head and blood pressure was sky high had see emergency doctor at our practice who prescribed an alpha blocker to go with tablets already on go back I. Week after taking readings.

Don't feel that good today but managed do client and had tour of Westcliff our local theatre open day.

Smileless is very energetic!
All that painting!

Yogagirl hope you ok not heard from you lately!

Happy evening to us all.
Just having glass of red hope helps blood pressure!

hi everyone...had a computer glitch so had to reregister...still using my name but replaced the O with a 0 ( number) .....now i must catch up on the threads...sorry about any messages that ive not replied to but they are lost forever...hope your all ok and keeping strong.. xx

oh sorry about the caps i reregistered on ipad and didnt realise ..tried to find a way of changing it back to normal but no luck...

Good hear from you Dollie was worried as sent you message and it would not go! Welcome back! I am having no pressure trouble bit of worry got try stay calm!

Started new tablet fri.night not feeling too good

Still we out for lunch today. Hope you ok?

Happy Sunday all

Morning Girls
My condolences to you Elegran
I've had a hell of a week, hatemail flying thick and fast, got one from nasty s.i.l parents saying ' as long as I have breath in my body on this earth, I will make sure you never see my GC again' then going on to tell me about all the wonderful times they are having with my precious GC, I am going to write back and tell them that ' even when they take their last breath on earth, my Laila will still not be your GD'
Very disturbing news; When I filled out the court papers, right at the begining, there was a page where you had to tick the appropriate box/s regarding your GC and comment. I ticked the box to say I had no worries about my GC, and commented that they are well cared for and much loved by both parents. My nasty s.i.l told everyone that I had ticked the box to say I thought they had been sexually molested and that I wanted them examined by Doctors and if found to be true have my GC adopted out of the family, so no family member could see them again ! I wrote back in a RR and put them all straight, and said that if I had have put that, there would definately have been an investigation, and if proved true, the perpetrator would be inprisoned and my precious GC theft in the safty of their Mothers care. So if thats what my D has thought I put, it would account for the immense hostillity towards me. So much more nasty stuff, I couldn't pos put it all on here.
Fixed my PC, but still need to do my Tax returned, must do it today. I've got three more 1-2-1's plus cover so very busy and new 1-2-1's means I've lost my free Friday, but I need the income, so.
to Celebgran smileless Librachick dollie and all the other grans on here xx

Thought that was funny, that no one had posted since Friday, after my post went through the rest pop up. So I'll read them now xx

it never ceases to amaze me how vile and vindictive some people can be...they must live such miserable lives themselves to inflict their misery on others and stir up trouble...i do find it hard to get my head around the fact that these morons dont seem to realize the harm and damage they are doing to these poor grandchildren!!!!!

sending you warm hugs yogagirl and stay strong their karma will soon hit them in the face!!!!

have a good monday to all the grans..

Hope you enjoyed your Burns night dinner, clever you for cooking it all yourself! My second husband is Scottish, so I've been to a few Burns night and tasted Haggis, it was nice, but since then I have become a vegetarian, nothing to do with the Haggis lol.
Hope your better today Celebgran, coming off HRT would definately give you some of those symtons, but it will all settle down.
Hope you are not still painting Smileless you must be feeling tired after all that hard work, well done.
When you all talk about your dear husbands, it makes me wish I had one, must make a huge difference, having someone there to comfort you and going through the same loss.
Tax return calling

Thank you Dollie

Oh yogagirl can only echo Dollie it amazes me how your s I law can be so vindictive mind you mine is not really an improvement !

I do feel for you without support of partner I think you cope marvellously !

Not sure if my high blood pressure or new tablet or what really did not have good night husband took me see nurse practitioner she reassured me blood pressure still high but come down lot and fobbed me off really about seeing cardiologist wait until then. Just woke up 5 30 again feeling hot and unwell.
She did advise no folk dancing or acquacise until seen specialist common sense I guess.

Off get glasses sorted now long story have see manager at boots as staff in Clacton so damn rude, my reading glasses wear round neck and lens came out fri they put back grudgingly and asked alter nose pieces they now slipping grrrrr!

Well done yogagirl for new clients !
Hope burns night dinner went well libra chick .

Happy Monday to us all am going see baby this afternoon ! Goody!

Afternoon ladies. Oh Yogagirl I've said it before and I'll say it again; why do awful things happen to lovely people. Is there nothing you can do to stop all this hate mail? Isn't it illegal to do this sort of thing? Surely it's libel! I was going to say that surely your D knows you wouldn't have made such an awful accusation, but knowing what I've been accused of (though not nearly as bad as that) I'm sorry to say that nothing surprises me any more. You really are amasing to put up with it all especially with no one at home to share it with, apart from your ND of course for you, you certainly deserve them.

Well done for getting your computer problems sorted out and you too D0llie you both out me to shame ; took me two days to re activate the mouse pad on my laptop. Good to hear from you again D0llie. Hope you've managed to get your tax return finished Yogagirl and well done for getting some new clients

Hope you had a great afternoon with your little niece Celebgran I bet you did . Putting your classes on hold for a while sounds like a good idea.
Hope your Burns night went well LibraChick you sound like a great host, ever thought of going on 'Come Dine With Me' .

No painting for me this week as too much to do at home and I'm getting really annoyed with my bro bec. he's always got an excuse for not helping .

Should be getting excited about going to Aus as we'll be on our way 10 weeks' today but things still awkward with our eldest. His way of defending his bro is to quite literally attack us! We don't mention the situation so it only comes up if he does. Wish we could talk rationally about it with him as I understand it's difficult for him seeing his bro and parents at logger heads, which is why we've backed off, but it's now become a no go area. He needs to try and do what we're trying to do; accept that our rel. with our s is over for now at least.

Worried that it's going to be a disaster when we see him and all I want to do is give him a great big hug bec. I love him and miss him so much. Still 10 weeks is quite a long time for things to settle down .

Sorry ladies, must have a touch of the January blues today. Had a little cry when I knew my bro wasn't up at the house today after telling me he'd be there all day today and tomorrow; probably tears of frustration though.

Have a good evening every one.

Yes ladies, I’m Scottish and live here . Thank you all, yes I did enjoy my burns night, however, our friends called to say they couldn’t come as a cold was in progress (we took it round to them on the Sunday afternoon, then came outside and used anti bacterial on hands after handing over food parcel] .

Yogagirl, you can get vegetarian haggis now, two of my sisters are vegetarian and they have vegetarian version.

Not all OH’s are “dear”, I’m lucky mine is lovely. But I agree with Celebgran
You cope very well without an OH. Me and my DH went out yesterday and I bought him a new suit for his birthday on Wednesday. He has lost two and a half stone, so his was hanging off him. We both were on the Joe Cross juice diet, I only lost ½ stone, he said I didn’t have as much to lose, what a sweet guy, mind you I didn’t .

I too can only echo everyone’s comments, selfish, malicious, evil sil, but your daughter is no better, treating you like this and allowing others to treat you like this. I’m unsure how I would feel if was my sil treated me like this, or would it be better (if you can say that), rather than my D being the culprit!! I too think you cope very well, much better than I do most days.

Celebgran hope your feeling a lot better today. Good luck when you see the specialist. Did you see your niece today? How did it go? Lots of hugs?

Hope you’re getting very trendy glasses

Smileless, How is the painting going? Well if B not helping, take a back seat for a while. Where in Oz are you going to, I want to go with you, I’ll carry your bags. I lived in Perth, Oz for 20 years, where my D had her very privileged life!!

I have thought about it, but there are a lot of nasties on there, my D is enough nastiness for anyone . Just keep schumm with your S as it’s not worth upsetting him and your holiday.

Dollie, I too can’t comprehend the fact that our offspring, don’t or can’t or won’t see the harm, hurt and damage they are doing to their parents and their own children.
Hugs to who those who need them, have a good night Grans. and a glass of to all.

Libra what shame about your friends. Made me laugh with anti bacterial I gargled after our friends good night kisses they had awful coughs!

Not new glasses I use them just for reading and lens fell out! The manageress was lovely today and checked them all for me and I am entitled to free eye test (before I reach my dreaded 60) in may as discount card holder. That good like have eyes checked at least 2 yearly especially with blood pressure thing.

Will try upload some pics we have had lovely afternoon with Danika and lots of cuddles. She is soooo cute was asleep for first half hour then sat on my lap very serious for quite while until she realised what fun to yank. MY nose and watch and cardi buttons, bless her it really cheered us up.

Not discussed my daughter with her mum as is my nephews wife and they met and married after it happened! She did politely ask today but was worried about upsetting me! I was happy to tell her. It does sound so embarrassing that our daughter would cut us off so dramatically.

I got slightly emotional when talked about daughters baby book and her birthday but hey ho feels better she knows more really.

[upcake] smileless reckon you getting bit tired so much painting and the gymn! Also reckon was frustration my brother my twin
Love him to bits but he is very unreliable! Did not come service boiler again last fri always some excuse!

Yogagirl well done for bearing up you deserve
Not feeling. Too go but glad had lovely afternoon !

Good evening to all of us.

Evening ladies. Hope you've all had a good day. Sorry Celebgran but it did make me chuckle when you said the lenses fell out of your glasses . Glad you had a lovely time with your niece, it's difficult when you miss your own gc but cuddling a little one does make you feel good doesn't it.

Must admit I am feeling a little worn out; was at the gym again this morning, hard work but good fun. Thinking about doing a 26 mile walk in June for charity. A bit worried about being up to it bec. I'll lose a month at the gym and walking twice a week when I'm in Aus.

Of course you can come with us LibraChick no need to carry my bags, you'll have enough to do carrying your own . We're going to Scarborough in Perth, how about that for a coincidence! Such a shame that your friends couldn't make it to yours for your fab meal. How sweet of you to take it round to them the following day.

Frustration with bro intensified this morning as he was supposed to be up at the house but wasn't . 'Phoned him up and a rather heated exchange ensued BUT it did get him to go up this afternoon and do some painting . Our brothers sound like two peas in a pod Celebgran, I love mine to bits but he drives me mad some times.

Couldn't agree with you more D0llie they must have really sad and miserable lives to be so cruel. I suppose I should feel sorry for people like that no, can't be bothered as they're simply not worth it.

Hope you're OK Yogagirl and not letting those nasty's get you down.

Hope you all have a good evening, and that we all have a good day tomorrow.

hope everyone is doing ok ...wont be long and spring will be here...

Morning Girls
Glad you had a lovely heart warming visit from baby Danika Celebgran how old is she? lovely name. You must be really missing your dancing! probably change of tablets making you feel a bit unwell, hopefully it will settle.
You are doing well with the painting Smileless, I've been in this house 8yrs and keep saying I will repaint my bedroom, brought the paint, lid still on! just can't get round to it on my own, and if I don't work for a week I don't get paid. Enjoy your visit to your NS in Oz and you will have to stay off 'The' subject, so it doesn't get spoiled.
Rather you than me with the 26mile run, I don't like running.
Thanks for that Librachick veggie Haggis sounds tasty.
Hello Dollie, I feel a song coming on lol
I called the police in yesterday, regarding all the hate mail from my ex and s.i.l's parents, they took a statement. I relayed this to him and the gypyies, so hopefully it will stop now. It was so very bad, my ex's was like a book, full with lies, and the gypies full of obscenities! When I replied to their last one saying that my Laila will be my precious GD and I her devoted and ever loving GM even when I'm six feet under in my grave, I also wrote a lovely piece about both their births and how my D and I chose Laila's name together and my D named her middle and last name the same as mine, also how when we visited my mum who suffered terribly with dementia, she put her hand on D belly and said "baby" without having been told D was pregnant with our Laila! It must a touch a nerve as her (si.l.'s mother) was;
" F**K OFF AND GET A LIFE YOU SAD OLD B***H!!!!"
in huge blue type.

wasn't sure if that would be put through lol

Morning girls gosh 26 mile walk or is it jog you must be fit smileless

Sadly my appt was worry with cardiologist as my heart muscle thickened!
Apparently is due to my high blood pressure over long period time.

Good news in that he prescribed me beta blockers and alpha blockers slow release. If that brings my blood pressure down to how he wants it then heart muscle may improve in time. I was bit tearful. Then guess what hospital pharmacy did not have slow release tablets and only cos oh pharmacist spotted it so back to doctor, very unhelpful nursing assistant but we got script to take to boots.
Stressful or what.
Jut take. Couple quiet life took little Rosie to vets for her check we were 10 mins late so they sent 3 in before us! If we did not trust the vet so much would walked out! Grrrrr he was very thorough and good news Rosie heart better than mine!

Yogagirl you did right calling police no one has put up with that.

I got hairdo this afternoon need some pampering!

Great news my hero Dominic kirwan Irish singer is coming to Clacton this year ! Oh got tickets yesterday
Happy Thursday all x

sorry to hear you have had to go through that ordeal yoga....im a great believer in karma they will get their comeuppance one day....i hope im around to see my daughters get theres!!!!

on a much brighter note ive had some wonderful news my son and his wife after years of trying are going to have their first baby in august.. im so happy to have something to look forward to at last...ive a whole lot of love to give..

Smileless2012, I can’t believe that, when we emigrated, we went to stay with my Aunt, and she lived in Scarborough and that’s where we rented our first duplex. Enjoy your holiday and as said before stay of the “Subject” and have a great time. Before you go do you think you can come and paint my house .

Yogagirl, that’s shocking behaviour from these morons, if feel really sad for you going through all this on top of not seeing your GD . I like D0LLIE believe in Karma, bring it on to them all who harm you.

Celebgran, sorry to hear about you appointment with your cardiologist, at least there is a chance of improvement in the near future. I’ve seen Dominic when he toured with Daniel O’Donnell many years ago, he’s very good, enjoy.

D0LLIE, CONGRATUALTIONS, so chuffed for you and your S & DIL.

Well, we are going away tomorrow to Coventry, so have cleaned house from top to bottom, changed bedding, vacuumed, washed floors, cleaned oven etc etc (like to come home to a clean house). We are decanting pets to friends and family later on today. Then off early tomorrow and not back to work until Tuesday, so looking forward to it.

Off to have some lunch then a bath to relax. Won’t be posting whilst away, but will be reading to keep on top of how you are all doing.

to all you lovely Grans

Thanks libra chick enjoy your break away you deserve it!

I have been to hairdresser Claire is lovely and it always gives me huge lift .
We off have Toby shortly yippee no cooking. At least white roots covered and re and dark brown highlights! Blondes still ok.

Yogagirl forgot say Danika is 8 months born may 5th bless her.

Smileless hope you ok busy bee n doubt at gymn!

Yes echo libra chick please do not spoil your amazing time with your other son in Aus my advice keep off subject find that works with My son realise am lucky he non way supports my daughter.

Have good evening all,

Hi
I agree with Dollie. With the parents holding their children back from the Grandparents they are damaging the grandchildren and the grandparents. I feel as if my grandchildren are either a stick to beat me with or currency to get me to comply with demands. One of my kids has already had children taken from her because she would not stand up to their father her partner. After years of hassles I have now decided that I want to move away. There is no point in spending my life in a place I dont like in the hope that one day my children will act like normal children and visit with the grandchildren or invite me to see them and the grandchildren. We visited my grandparents twice a week. One of my kids lives nearer than that and the other lives where the grandparents were and I live near where we lived all those years ago.
It seems that the elder grandchildren have said that they do not wish to see their parents. My two children and their respective partners do not get on. I am planning to move away. I would prefer pleasantness all round but this is what they choose and they can face the consequences. Karma will get them in the end and like someone else I hope I am here to see it all kick off.
Sugarpufffairy

Dollie. MAny congratulations what fantastic news so
PLeased for you see some good things do happen let's hope its just the start !