Or even a bit precious? Mother of the Bride outfit.

Your daughter is getting married, its her day, no-one will really worry about what you wear, how you wear it, why you are are wearing it....its all about your girl, yes, in all honestly you are being precious!

Just be happy! x ps size 14 is the perfect size

Feeling dispirited at being size 14 - I only wish I was back in that size again! This envy of skinnies is not good and honestly, do they really look that wonderful? Keep looking - and keep it to yourself in future.

Our daughter got married last summer. We lso have a son, he and his girlfriend don't plan to get married, so I knew in advance this would be my only chance to be Mother Of The Bride. I chose a dress that suited me in all ways and wouldn't put my daughter in the shadow, she agreed totally with my choice, and just like with her wedding dress we didn't tell or show anyone!

Just because she is skinny it doesn't mean the dress will look better in a size 10 than a 14. Just enjoy the day and I'm sure your smile will be what everyone remembers

Have you actually tried it on? I feel now I was talked into my first MOB outfit but for other two DC I really looked at all kinds of outfits no 2 wedding MOG bought something which I then wore many times, wedding 3 chose very carefully as MOB only to find MOG wore something very similar. What ever you choose it will look dated in the photos pretty soon. Good luck and have fun choosing.

MarionHalcombe......whatever you end up wearing as MOB, just make sure you get yourself professionally fitted underwear. It'll make all the difference to how you look and feel. If the shop you're intending buying your outfit from is an independent shop, they should be able to recommend one!
As for worrying about your outfit, don't! Leave buying until nearer the time and look at the new stock which will be arriving over the next few months.
I bought my outfit on a day out with DH. No intention of buying, saw an outfit in shop window, went in and the rest as they say is history!

My best tip, whatever your size, is to wear GOOD underwear. Take your chosen outfit to a good underwear shop (not M&S) and try different undies with it. I'm a standard 12 but look miles better when wearing my good underwear!

I also think that curvy plump women look far more attractive than skinny women.

Enjoy the day .....

Get something comfortable that you can relax and enjoy yourself in..........and maybe pick up smll children for hugs or help people who might need a hand..........I always end up taking the oldest people to the toilets and cudding the kids.

MOB...........???? Sounds so pretentious when you can be fabulous family member and have a lovely frock to wear again.

If the other person isn't going to be at your daughter's wedding why is it a problem?

I am a size 10 and it is simply wrong to assume that the same clothes will automatically look better on them.

I was once trying on an outfit in a communal changing room and was disappointed with the way it looked. Then another person walked in about a size 14 and tried on the same outfit. \it looked 100 times better on her. We laughed at having the same good taste and then I said - quite truthfully - "Oh, so that is how it is supposed to look"!!!

If you love the outfit and don't want to spend time searching for another one, go ahead and wear it at your daughter's wedding.

Totally agree with granny haggis, fat pants! will help keep everything under control especially as the day goes on, we’ve just had a wedding too, it is really hard finding a dress, go to the dressy shops that specialise in mob wear and chances are someone else is wearing the same thing, then they know how much you paid, then you re thinking did I spend enough.
Essential to try it on and feel a million dollars in it, own it, like lots of others have said, make it your own with the accessories, pair of stylish comfy shoes, bag, jewellery.
Have a wonderful day

Worry about what you are wearing and not others.
Such problems some people have!

I don't think your precious marion its a huge event emotionally and unless you feel that you are looking your best its easy to let the day overwhelm you. Be sure you buy the outfit you really want and its comfortable as well as stylish. If you can get some more wear after if well and good but I wouldn't make that my main reason for buying it. Both my MOB outfits never got worn again but it didn't matter it wasn't the point of buying them. I hope its a great day.

oops meant to say its your day too!!

Well at least you know the style that you like. You could just quietly look for the same sort of style in a different colour/fabric (that works for your 'colour season') and not let other people know what you have chosen. You clearly have good taste if the other person admires your choice. We all feel a bit vulnerable as MOB, I can understand your anxiety.
The internet will save you masses of legwork and then you can refine your final choices down and reserve two or three outfits to go and try on and buy your favourite in the appropriate shop.
The other alternative is to take a picture of your chosen outfit to a dressmaker and have something made, although that makes me a little nervous as you have to buy the finished article even if it is not quite as you had envisaged.

Unless you are going to HER daughter's wedding and she YOUR daughter's wedding, why are you worried? She is hardly likely to pick the same outfit and so what, if she knows the approximate price of your outfit...you'll know hers. Goodness me. I'd rather be a size 14 than a skinny 10. A competition it ain't. It's all about YOUR DAUGHTER. Keep to a sensible 'diet and buy some good underwear which will smooth out the curves and make your dress look even better.
Great skin, a new hair-style perhaps (a few weeks before to get used to it) and a professional to do your make-up. Go out there, enjoy the day and smile smile smile.

People like that are so irritating and you know they have done nothing wrong. Grrr When you want to share your brilliance and someone else thinks they can just take it for themselves. It’s just humanly annoying and wrong. I have no useful comment to make on mob or mpg outfits. I wasn’ particularly pleased with either of mine. So good luck. And keep looking and keep your mouth shut such a shame though. But I have fallen foul of this phenomenon often.

Marion Halcombe - of course you want to feel good on the day - but really ... how would knowing that somewhere else in the universe on an entirely different day, somebody who you don't know other than as a friend of a friend, might be wearing the same thing, and looking better than you? You are being more than precious - it's ridiculous - you must accept that somewhere - maybe even in your own street - you have neighbours who have the exact same clothing items as yourself. If this doesn't bother you then what you are feeling about the MOB outfit is jealousy that somebody else may wear it better than you - but you'll never see it so why worry? Congratulations on losing 2 stone by the way.

No one has mentioned what your DD thinks. Why not ask her to help you choose? It is her day after all. My DiL had a lot of choice in what I wore to their wedding and it was good to know I didn't clash with her mother. Other DiL and I discussed colours for the same reason.

I certainly wouldn't worry about what someone else is wearing to a different wedding.

Come on, of course it's the bride's day, but it's still a big deal for the bride's mother too. Guests will look at what the bride's mother and the groom's mother are wearing and it's always been that way.

I envy those of you who don't understand why the OP might feel less confident in a size 14 than a 10. And I can understand what the OP's getting at if she's visualising her friend wearing the same outfit even if it's at a different wedding. Not everyone is body confident and I am surprised that more people can't acknowledge this instead of ridiculing the OP's feelings.

Well done on your diet Marion. Could you get a message to mother of the bride to let her know which outfit you have your eye on so she can avoid it? But ask her not to tell anyone else. If she's a reasonable person she will understand. And bear in mind accessories often make an outfit. I think bright contrasting accessories look stunning with, say, navy.

I can't understand your problem - it's not as though you're going to the same wedding so why on earth are you bothering what she'll look like in a similar outfit to yours? If you wanted to keep it secret, why did you share it in the first place - everyone knows even their best friend can be tempted to share. Why are you worrying that she'll find out what it cost - you'll know what hers cost! Just park the worries, they're very trivial in the great scheme of things. Get yourself a beautiful outfit you feel comfy & look fab in - size 14 is hardly massive! - and enjoy your daughter's big day. Who cares what anyone else has bought for another wedding!

If you find an outfit which you like which flatters you I don't think you can ask for much more. Try not to compare yourself with others - there'll always be times when you either come out better or worse (but probably only in your own over-critical eyes), just try to enjoy the day.

I appreciate it's a big day for you and you're probably getting stressed about everything BUT, yes you are being too precious. Anybody could buy the same dress so what's the problem? My sister recently went to a wedding where another guest was wearing the same dress. To break the ice sis went up to her laughing and told the other woman how much better she (the other woman) looked in the dress - the other woman turned and walked away without a word.

It's not the same wedding and her's is after your's so either people will not notice or think that she copied you. If there aren't many shops to choose from, there is a strong possibility that she would find the same shop anyway.
There is nothing you can do about it so just enjoy choosing what you like. You know it won't be totally exclusive.
It sounds as if you are worrying a bit generally and have focused on that. Try to find a way to relax and just enjoy the wedding preparation.
Good luck with the weight. I started to lose a bit at the end of the Summer and seem to have put it back and then some so I'm going to have to be more careful now.

i found out from both my DILs what colours their mums where looking at and what her colour theme was and went from there I am lucky that I can get away with most colours.During the last 8/9 mths prior to the weddings I tried on many outfits and looking on line almost everyday e-bay gives loads of ideas,I found both outfits from well known outlets and knew as soon as I tried them on they where for me,regardless of what anyone else choice to wear and DILs where happy too.
Have you thought of looking at a Agency that does hiring you can spend the whole day there trying on and mixing and matching accessories its worth a try to get a piece that no one else has or seen on display in a store.