My Dad died 7 years ago, leaving his wife, my stepmother, in my charge. I will call her Mildred. I did not meet her until I was 40, so have no bond with her. She has no children of her own, and is now in a residential home. (I have Power of Attorney). She was a spoilt self centred woman - and my own mother died a bitter, lonely woman because of my father's relationship with Mildred.
My Dad was a blue collar worker, and budgeted and saved to buy his bungalow. Mildred did a bit of shop work, but did not put any money into the house.
So now I am visiting her once a week, sorting out all her affairs, and have just sold my Dad's bungalow to pay for her care. And I resent every penny (675 pounds per week) that is being spent.
If it was for my own mother I would be happy to pay extra towards it to give her a comfortable life, but with Mildred I really, really begrudge it. She is now 92, and although quite frail looks as if she will live to a 100 !!
I am 72, and am not in need of the money - but when I look at my grandchildren and how they are struggling I do wish I had some of that money to help them along.
And it bugs me that in the next room there is another old lady who, through no fault of her own, lived in rented accomodation and had no savings but is getting the same treatment and good living as Mildred!!
It just seems so unfair - and I have enough conscience to know that I am being very uncharitable to an old lady; so, anyone got any advice for me on how to stop myself being such an awful person - so ashamed of myself.
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