My daughter has not spoken to me for over ten years since I stopped paying for everything ! I paid off her Uni student loan, her overdraft, her rent, bought her a car, gave her a credit card which I paid for, paid for her holidays and flights over to see us, for her and the boyfriend at the time. After one Uni, she did an unfunded fourth year for a professional qualification, for which I paid. She was a brilliant teenager, and sixth former, she cooked me a hot meal every night when I came in from my full time job ...ironed, cleaned the house, and was so amazing it was unbelivable ! She suddenly cut me off with no further contact when she said she and her then boyfriend would be coming over for a holiday and bringing his children ..two young children ...Fine, lovely I said ...and planned all the things we could do and places to take them ...I was looking forward to it, and texted her to ask for dates so I could pick them up from the airport, etc...only one terse reply 'Stop texting me'...cut me off from all social media, no contact whatever ! Was even told not to send cards as they would go into the bin ! No falling out, no rows, nothing ...theONLY reason I can fatham is that I did not offer to pay for the first time ever, for the hotel at the airport the flights spending money etc ....she has, or had, a really good well paid job ...now the only way I can 'see' her is to look online at the company she now runs with the latest boyfriend ! There is a photo of them as a family on his boat ...have no idea if the child is his or hers or theirs ! SO ...unless you want perhaps to lose your daughter and contact with your GC's ...tread carefully but DO NOT keep bailing her out ...you will need your money for your retirement ! Hard but necessary ! Good luck