Squeeky….honestly, like most things its down to the individuals involved. I had a daughter first, then two sons.... all within 2 years and 9 months. I gave up nursing for 6 years and stayed home till the youngest started school. My parents were quite strict, whereas my husband and I had few rules, and any rules had to have a good reason for being there. I loved being a mum, adored the kids, and loved watching them grow. We always had good relationships. I encouraged all of them to live their lives to the full, travel, see the world, don't be in a hurry to marry or settle down. My daughter has lived abroad for 15 years, but comes back for summers and Christmas and we visit her regularly too. My youngest lived abroad till he married then when they were expecting they moved back and live five minutes away from us and the inlaws. We have two grandsons from them and see them at least a couple of times a week. My eldest son is married and lives in Scotland and we see him maybe three times a year and Christmases or New Year are spent with us. This summer we are all spending a week in a villa in Spain. We have good solid relationships with all three of our kids and 'Im sure you will have the same with your boys.