Not invited to wedding

Wouldn’t happen

If I were you I'd encourage my partner to go to the wedding and have a lovely time. Send a card and present with lots of good wishes and accept that in these difficult times this is not a snub, just a result of having to cut numbers down. When all said and down it's the bride and grooms day and everyone who cares about them should do their very best to make it a wonderful day.

Ask her. She’s guilty of ignorance in my opinion. She shoulda explained the reason, that would be the logical thing to do to avoid hurt feelings. In my experience a lot of young pepes don’t know how to behave x

Honestly in these times and with such limited numbers for weddings, I would be disappointed but make nothing more of it. There is so much more to life than other peoples weddings and at the moment I would love a day/evening on my own. I haven't had the house to myself in over a year due to covid so would see it as an opportunity and make the most of it.

Oprah Winfrey went to ‘you know who’s’ wedding without her partner!

It’s obviously because of limited numbers allowed, I wouldn’t take it personally at all! Yes the bride could have put a little note in to explain, I’m sure if allowed and it wasn’t Covid times you would be invited but they have to stick to the rules, I would be happy for my partner to go alone

I do wish that in this type of situation people would explain why someone is not invited rather just not sending an invitation without a reason. This type of conversation can be difficult I know but it could lead to a better relationship in the future without any bad feeling remaining

I felt a bit guilty about going to a very old friend's husband's funeral when another very old friend wasn't asked because numbers were limited and she lived further away. But it's the way we are having to live at the moment.

I feel for you, I would be terribly hurt, because the least they could do if numbers are the reason is to have spoken to you before the invites were sent out. At least you could then understand and accept the situation

We all have to make sacrifices at this time. Wedding numbers are so restricted they can't ask everyone. Grin and bear it. Its not life threatening.

Sad situation which obviously during Covid prohibits numbers but when is the wedding planned for ?
Some twenty plus years ago my husband popped round to see his mum unannounced one Sunday morning. He was back home within no time, looking furious. He'd found his mum, waiting at the window, to be collected by husbands sister and his BiL to be driven to the Lake District as husbands niece was apparently getting married on the Tuesday! We knew nothing whatsoever about it. All done behind our backs. Was so upset. Even if they had told but said they only wanted to keep it small etc etc. But no. Off they all went without us. Never did understand why and not one of them explained why we weren't invited.
The 'happy couple' accepted our wedding gift afterwards though.
Funny that!!!

Good attitude Doran. Difficult one. Contacts have been reduced because of Covid - but it is not nice and very hurtful. Hope you can find something nice and interesting to do with family or friends. good luck

With the "ex" being invited perhaps it's the biological GPs who are bring counted in the guest list. With all the restrictions wouldn't give it a second tbought. Perhaps go along to the wedding venue,throw some confetti when the couple come out just to show you acknowledge the wedding or just take a photo from the street.

I know it must be hurtful, but with all the Covid guidelines I suppose some people will feel very left out. My friends daughter is getting married in June & by the time the wedding party, photographer, guy doing the video, etc are all there, there's only 5 guests able to attend.

I think I would understand if it’s a numbers issue due to COVID, in which case a call or message to you to explain the situation would be polite, plus a ‘we looked forward to seeing you in the garden/pub/ restaurant as soon as it is safe to do so.’

Are you sure she hasn't mentioned it to your partner re limited numbers and he has just forgotten to have this conversation with you?

It is just to do with limited numbers, please don't take it personal. Be happy for them and as others have said do something nice for yourself that day. When all this COVID is over (ish) I'm sure we will all be having belated celebrations.

It's hurtful but you will probably have to grit your teeth and get on with it unfortunately. As someone else said, an accompanying note would have been nice - to say so sorry that you can't be included because of limit on numbers but a nice meal together afterwards would be planned. That would have shown you were thought of. Have had these sort of hurtful things happen too. My stepdaughter (her Mum left my husband for another man) decided to just invite her partner's family and her Mum, sister, cousins etc. to the wedding and reception in the afternoon. As it is just my husband and myself the other side of the family, we were allowed to join in a meal with them in the evening when everyone else had left. He was effectively punished for an affair his ex-wife had and was more or less cut out of his daughter's life for any significant events. My husband didn't even get to give her away. These things linger in your mind after and always hurt - but you just have to make the best of very difficult situations sometimes.

It would hvae been kinder to have written or spoken to you in advance about you not being invioted but I do feel for young people who are marrying in current times.
Don't make a fuss as it should be a joyous occasion for your partner and if you are unhappy it will spoil his day.

With limited numbers allowed at weddings, you mustn’t take it too personally.

Times are tough right now! Don't take offence, just rise above it. Plan a nice day for yourself on the wedding day, buy her a wedding gift and on the card write that you are sorry to miss her special day. Love and understanding....even when we are upset and feel slighted- are far better ways to deal with heightened emotions than unpleasantness and revenge. I hope you can get your head around it and that the day goes off smoothly. Please don't let this negatively alter your relationship with your GD as that would be very hard on your partner.

I think it’s unkind , if it’s because of COVID she would have included a apology explaining that to you,
And hopefully your husband won’t attend either, I wouldn’t if it were my husband excluded, I think that’s terrible and a nasty thing to do.
Better off without so called family like that.

I would have put in a note with invite to explain its all about the numbers

I understand why you are hurt, but if you or your partner comment upon your exclusion you risk making things worse.

The right thing in my opinion, but I know many will disagree, would either be to postpone the wedding until a time when the enire family could be invited, or to marry with only the official witnesses present, then hold a party when restrictions are lifted.

I imagine the young couple are already living together, so why the rush to marry just now?

Even without covid restrictions it does seem to be a thing these days that often an invitation is just for one of a couple. I find it strange.

I would it’s purely down to numbers, although I’m surprised she didn’t explain that in her invite to your partner. What are his thoughts on this, as he would be aware of any complicated family issues that may have influenced the decision.