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Mincub Wed 14-Jul-21 18:08:50

I have a bit of a problem …it’s my problem really so I understand if you don’t see where I’m coming from.
I live in social housing in a disabled bungalow stuck between two houses. I’m living here because I stood up to a terrible campaign of ASB resulting in my being victim of an attempted firebombing and ending up hospital for 14 weeks and a homeless unit for 12 weeks before the council took responsibility. I then relocated to where I am now, which was bliss. The daughter of my local councillor already on an asbo was found guilty, her father ignored the problem (she got two years later for Racially aggravated harassment to another family and bragged about running me out of town) her ‘playmate’ in crime was the grandson of another councillor who stood up at a restorative justice hearing and said I shouldn’t even be here as it was my fault for not making it easy on myself ‘as the village had problems but we deal with them ourselves ‘ and my police beat officer forged my name on a witness statement and was charged with perverting the course of justice and using a false instrument to try and cover it up. So that’s the background not only was I physically injured, (broken arm and broken back) but ended up with PTSD also.
So I promised myself don’t get involved in neighbours and everything was bearable the odd ruckus with noise to which I am hypersensitive but nothing too bad to bear. All until recently, I have two issues that are making me feel like running away.
The worst one is there are three children who are left to their own devices constantly shouted at so there’s something not right and now Into the mix comes a lady with two children one teenager and one about 6, father not about much but when he visits she tells everyone it’s her brother until the kiddy told my husband that’s my dad!?
The 6 year old constantly rides his bike up and down in front of our bungalow next to our car parking space (not on the pavement but actually in the front space of our bungalow and stands on our garden edging, leaning over our fence in our garden being egged on by the kids the other side to do tricks on his bike. I have had my roses broken off and thrown over my path and now they have taken to playing football over the top of my car backwards and forwards. It’s irritating and annoying, the eggers on are screamers and that never stops and I’ve also had a screwdriver thrown over the top of the car landing outside my window but can’t prove anything. I had a quiet word with the one mum and she said ‘ oh my boy didnt do anything it will be them’!
It wasn’t as I clearly saw him but don’t have the belly full for a ‘fight’. The other problem long-standing is an oil tank installed against my back fence with no fire boarding and just 4 metres from my bedroom. The tank leaked into my garden and we were left for 18 months before our landlord did anything, through two hot summers where the soil sizzled. We both have Bronchiectasis and are extremely clinically vulnerable, I called environmental health in the end because it got so bad and I have letters from then telling me my landlord never sought any advice. Landlord says they did, even when the fuel pipe was put in my garden on the boundary they did nothing.
My back gate broken into and the fuel pipe put in situ after me having a day at the hospital and nothing has been done even though the tank still smells. So I’m loathe to approach them over the screeching and the playing football over my car. I registered with a housing association nearer my son in Oxford but after 5 years all they can offer me is a sheltered flat or sink estates, I don’t know what to do. I’ve never been in this position before as I owned my own house before the ASB (227 crime/incidents) over 4 years sold for a pittance and made into flats. Sorry for going on but I don’t think I can take much more

GillT57 Thu 15-Jul-21 17:03:25

Where are you living? Cleverley's constituency is a very long way from what was Blair's.

NotSpaghetti Thu 15-Jul-21 18:30:06

Isn't Cleverley Braintree?

I assume the OP is living there.

GillT57 Thu 15-Jul-21 18:35:21

Yes he is. And Blair was in the North East. I was just curious as to how such a massive move came about. No worries

ineedamum Thu 15-Jul-21 18:51:41

13 bricks in 4 days. Wow. Nobody should have to live like that. There really should be more support for victims of ASB. It's a completely different mentality and if MPs suffered there would be change!

The problem is social HA have very little grounds to evict so blame the victim as it is easier. The council aren't very good either.

I really wish this was taken more seriously by authorities.

NotSpaghetti Thu 15-Jul-21 19:28:21

Having worked with HAs I think this is unfair. We always tried to resolve issues but evictions were made and police reports, agreements etc.

We did NOT blame genuine victims of abuse of any kind, we supported and rehoused wherever necessary. Often we went above and beyond and more than once used CCTV and sound recordings to help.
HAs have a tough job though and I don't suppose this will surprise anyone but sometimes the stories we were told were not quite as they sounded at first.

NotSpaghetti Thu 15-Jul-21 19:29:07

But yes, 14 bricks in 4 days is outrageous.

Mincub Thu 15-Jul-21 20:02:21

I was relocated here after threats to kill. I had cctv which was taken out by the police so I put dummy cameras up and small pin cameras behind neighbourhood watch stickers on the windows.
I furnished the police with over 500 hours worth, they lost it all it went to popf ( property other than property found). After that I made copies and copies of copies. When a police personnel carrier was fire bombed a week before my last incident they came to me to use my cctv!Ironic or what!

ineedamum Thu 15-Jul-21 20:41:55

Not spaghetti, perhaps the HA you work with are OK, but my experience is different. He HA done nothing afyer going through the complaints procedure, I went to the Housing Ombudman who sorted it within a week. I was very, very lucky, they were running a business from home, a clear breach of tenancy rules. Many neighbours complained.

NotSpaghetti Fri 16-Jul-21 10:32:38

I am so sorry you were not treated well ineedamum. You really should not have had to do that. It’s not every housing association though. Having worked for 2 HAs in 5 different places, one local authority was not as helpful as the others though, and the LA, Police, Health and other services do need to pull together.

Also Minicub. Sorry for your police problems.

Mincub Fri 16-Jul-21 12:08:06

Well today I had an email saying that the offer of sheltered housing had been withdrawn as I had no local connection.
Having been born and lived 47 years in the same place literally counts for nothing.
Add to that an horrendous row this morning from my husband who just Says stop keeping on about it but truly has done absolutely nothing to change anything, I am seriously considering leaving, just going somewhere where I can be me again instead of having to bear the brunt of everything, that truly isn’t my fault. As for my son who is a nice kid but terribly naive and never believed how bad it had been at the height of the troubles until he came to stay and got beaten up at the bus stop on his second night and said ‘you’ve got to get out mum or they’ll kill you’, he thinks it will all be ok in the end.
You know it’s so depressing when everyone who is supposed to care doesn’t. sad
Thank you for listening to me and thank YOU all for caring, I can see it’s never going to end unless I end it…I will find a way …for me … for the first time ever, I’m putting me first.
I’ll let you know how it goes.

JaneJudge Fri 16-Jul-21 12:14:04

sad

do you have a town councillor? They are usually much more helpful and can be alot quicker than involving your MP

NotSpaghetti Fri 16-Jul-21 18:30:05

I think I’m confused now. I thought the sheltered housing was in Oxfordshire?
Isn’t your son a “local connection”?

GillT57 Fri 16-Jul-21 18:34:31

I live very close to Cleverley's constituency, my best friend in it. I have no recollection of fire bombs or police vehicles being burnt out. Where have you lived for 47 years? Sorry but your story does have some confusing inconsistencies. So sorry life is hard for you.

Oopsadaisy1 Fri 16-Jul-21 18:45:01

Just to set your mind at rest mincub ours and our neighbours oil tanks are against our boundary fences and no fires have ever happened, they don’t need a firewall.
If oil escapes then it is an offence, the environmental people will descend and dig out the garden of the affected property (and charge them for doing it) as it’s an Environmental Hazard not sure why you didn’t report the spillage at the time, many oil tanks pong a bit in warm weather , so that’s normal.

Mincub Sun 18-Jul-21 21:03:52

Im sorry if I confused the issue, I’m not in a very good place at the moment …last night all our plants were ripped up and we found them on our path and doorstep.
I lived in Poole for 47 years and my eldest son still lives there.
My youngest is in Oxford. I have sought some advice and am putting in cctv for extra protection but am also looking at ParkHomes as was suggested. Thank you all of you for listening and caring. I can’t take any more, I’m just such a mess now I have to get away.

NfkDumpling Sun 18-Jul-21 21:29:35

User7777s suggestion of a park home for over 55s is a good option. They're not expensive and usually very nice.

NfkDumpling Sun 18-Jul-21 21:31:09

And contact your GP. Thus is affecting your mental health big time so a doctor's letter supporting a sheltered housing application will help.