Grandson has used my card for games….?‍♀️

Bibbity

You didn't need to cancel your card with your bank! Just remove it From the device.

Why on earth are you so angry that I’ve cancelled my card ???

Bibbity

If you search the product you have and add something like "parental controls"
How to make an iPad child safe etc you should be able to read articles or watch YouTube videos. Also make sure no game has any chat function etc

You can set the chat function so that any new friend requests have to be approved with a password. As chatting is very important in some games, my sister set this up for my nephew so she had to approve the requests and made sure she also knew the friend and that it was a genuine school friend. She also contacted the parents of the friend to make sure they were aware of the link. My nephew was not able to make his own friend requests.

This security is still on the machine even though my nephew is now 15, he is still a child and at risk of grooming. I assume my sister will remove it when he is 18!

Fingers crossed they do Shinamae. Your GS will I'm sure be horrified and will have had no idea what he's done.

A lesson learned and by posting about it here you've highlighted a potential problem some may not have been aware of, so good for you.

On a slightly differing note- please do check your accounts more thoroughly, i was on my online banking week before xmas to transfer a small amount to my son for something he bought for me while shopping, then i noticed a huge amount had been charged to my card for a food order/ delivery service, (just eat) £150- NOT our order, even between 3 of us we can't eat £150 worth!! And its not somewhere we had from for months- Anyway, bank fraud checked it out and repaid me by following day- and i had to cancel my card & be sent a new one all before xmas, so just be careful about leaving your details on ANYWHERE, as its not only family who can charge to your account, and the bank lady admitted they "dont even know how they do it" - so what chance do we have of knowing.I for one won't be saving my card details in apps anymore.??

I remember when my youngest son was about 12, he had charged up some in- game charges, (£87) that he had thought they were giving him free as 'prizes'- in end bank refunded as a 'one-off' but it just goes to show, even slightly older kids can be duped by this- he genuinely thought these 'pop-ups' they were presenting him with were for free, as they made it look like he had 'won' them.And on some things, as someone already pointed out, you can't remove details till you stop using that completely.

Wise advice, Nannan2. I must admit I have left my card details on a couple of sites I use all the time, because I’m a lazy so-and-so. I haven’t had a problem, but it’s probably only a matter of time.

I’m going to take those details off.

I'm not angry at all. Just shocked about the completely unnecessary inconvenience! Please take the time to educate yourself better on technology as it's so vital. Especially if you are going to be handing it to a child.

Bibbity

Ditto

I’m sorry you’ve had a steep learning curve. Not the gs at fault definitely the adult. Im not sure why you should have your money refunded but good luck with that one.

tickingbird

^Please please please do not talk to your gs. Please!^

Good grief!!!

Your Granson is 9, my one will be 9 the end of next month, you should speak to your Grandson, he was disobedient and did something he was told not too. No one is perfect, I bought my Grandson a card with a set amount of money on it for his games, I would not give him my bank details.
He is 9 not a baby, and old enough to know right from wrong. He definitely should be spoken too so he knows what he done was not correct.
A lesson learned OP, you made a mistake with the best of intentions.

Tikingbird meant to say I agree with you.

I see the usual crew are in, being "stunned" about perfectly normal stuff.

I think you could have a chat with him Shinamae, simply to make him aware of what happened as he may well not have realised your card was stored and he was paying for games.

He's only 9 - he needs to learn but without being made to feel guilty.

Nannan2

I remember when my youngest son was about 12, he had charged up some in- game charges, (£87) that he had thought they were giving him free as 'prizes'- in end bank refunded as a 'one-off' but it just goes to show, even slightly older kids can be duped by this- he genuinely thought these 'pop-ups' they were presenting him with were for free, as they made it look like he had 'won' them.And on some things, as someone already pointed out, you can't remove details till you stop using that completely.

My DGS did the same when he was about 12.

It's like joining Amazon Prime - easy to opt in without realising!

MissAdventure

I see the usual crew are in, being "stunned" about perfectly normal stuff.

Totally agree, yes a mistake was made, but some of the replies are frankly rude and patronising.

I've done that too.
Opted in and out without knowing what the heck was going on.

Of course the OP is annoyed with her grandson, that is a big amount of money. And of course she is also annoyed with herself. I'd be annoyed with the apps and games too.

The OP's grandson needs to have it explained to him what happened without showing the annoyance. For starters, I'd be explaining to him how it was brought to your attention and how easy it is to end up buying stuff even if unintended. There are lessons to be learned here by all parties. No reason to protect the 9 year old from what he can learn from all this.

MissAdventure

I've done that too.
Opted in and out without knowing what the heck was going on.

Oh me too! They’ve got me this time though. After four or five free trials, I’ve finally discovered that I actually like Prime TV and Music, and I haven’t cancelled. I might have had my fill after another month though.

My grandson helped me with an Amazon order and I said "Oh lovely, how did you get free delivery?"

He said it was quite easy, considering I had Amazon prime.

It is easy to be wise after the event.

Indeed.
I suspect that's why events often happen.

I just wonder is anyone going to monitor and oversee this child's use of the iPad? Do you imagine that having given him something like this he should just be permitted to use it unsupervised. Beside installing parental controls someone needs to monitor his use. If not he may at somepoint have the ability to overcome any controls, he could recieve or send unsuitable messages, he could access porn. Watch him, safeguard him, supervise him. Even when he's a teenager.

I can just imagine sitting in my boys boxroom with him.
The odour of teen angst permeating the air, and him and his friends making stupid noises... jolly japes!

MissAdventure

I can just imagine sitting in my boys boxroom with him.
The odour of teen angst permeating the air, and him and his friends making stupid noises... jolly japes!

You don't need to sit with anyone. You do need to check the history and if it has been wiped ask why?. You do need to check messages sometimes and put a stop to anything abusive. You also need to talk about the law on photos and dickpicks, too many kids don't realise and finish up in trouble