Grandson has used my card for games….?‍♀️

Yes, I know all of that, thanks.

trisher

I just wonder is anyone going to monitor and oversee this child's use of the iPad? Do you imagine that having given him something like this he should just be permitted to use it unsupervised. Beside installing parental controls someone needs to monitor his use. If not he may at somepoint have the ability to overcome any controls, he could recieve or send unsuitable messages, he could access porn. Watch him, safeguard him, supervise him. Even when he's a teenager.

My GS (much younger) has a tablet. Not my idea but...

He's currently on a detox. Not allowed it at all. The first day it was banned, he cried. Addictive.

Very much so.

A friend of mine set up a DD for her grandson's game, £4 per month, he only played for a couple of months but 4 years on she is still paying the DD.

It was some problem with not knowing his user account number that stopped her cancelling the DD, her bank could not help as it had to be cancelled by the company. She gave up trying after a while.

GagaJo

trisher

I just wonder is anyone going to monitor and oversee this child's use of the iPad? Do you imagine that having given him something like this he should just be permitted to use it unsupervised. Beside installing parental controls someone needs to monitor his use. If not he may at somepoint have the ability to overcome any controls, he could recieve or send unsuitable messages, he could access porn. Watch him, safeguard him, supervise him. Even when he's a teenager.

My GS (much younger) has a tablet. Not my idea but...

He's currently on a detox. Not allowed it at all. The first day it was banned, he cried. Addictive.

The effects of using these things on young brains is still being discovered. There's evidence that they disturb sleep patterns. If parents choose to buy them you can only offer advice and restrict their use when the GCs are with you. I taught an 8 year old who boasted quite often that he could do things with the internet in his house his parents knew nothing about. When I told them they were shocked. He spent heaps of time in his bedroom doing goodness knows what. He was very clever. I often wonder what he was doing in his teens. Probably hacking into something.
Blue light is interesting and dangerous for kids www.webmd.com/eye-health/blue-light-health

Bibbity

I'm not angry at all. Just shocked about the completely unnecessary inconvenience! Please take the time to educate yourself better on technology as it's so vital. Especially if you are going to be handing it to a child.

And could you please take the time not to be so patronising and condescending

Calistemon

I think you could have a chat with him Shinamae, simply to make him aware of what happened as he may well not have realised your card was stored and he was paying for games.

He's only 9 - he needs to learn but without being made to feel guilty.

That’s definitely what I’m going to do,I’m not gonna make him feel guilty at all and thank you for your positive feedback ?

Hope you get a positive outcome, * Shinamae* and the bank can get your money back too.

Just as well they alerted you!

I'm not. It's unfortunate that you have interpreted it that way.

It would be hard not to, really.

Shinamae, don't best yourself up about this ! Mistakes were made that you are fully aware of, please sort it and forget it. When you speak to your GS please reassure him that the initial mistake was yours not his. If he was unaware that he was playing with real money then perhaps the least said soonest mended ! Don't worry anymore. ?

Best !

Done it again , I meant beat!!

Shelflife

Shinamae, don't best yourself up about this ! Mistakes were made that you are fully aware of, please sort it and forget it. When you speak to your GS please reassure him that the initial mistake was yours not his. If he was unaware that he was playing with real money then perhaps the least said soonest mended ! Don't worry anymore. ?

Thank you, I have done exactly that, he is over here with me this afternoon and overnight and I’ve had the conversation with him not blaming him at all. I said I had something quite important to talk to him about and I just wanted him to tell me the truth and that he wasn’t in trouble and he just told me about these games and I said we will say no more about it,it was Nanas fault much more than yours…

Glad you have spoken to your Grandson. Ignore the smug patronising posts. You did the tight thing.

rafichagran

Glad you have spoken to your Grandson. Ignore the smug patronising posts. You did the tight thing.

Thank you…??

MissAdventure

I see the usual crew are in, being "stunned" about perfectly normal stuff.

This is the worst of being Grandma. It is so long since our children were the age of our grandchildren that we have forgotten the details of what it was like.

I bridged the gap teaching 9- 16 year olds, so I know that if you give a 9 year old a lengthy explanation of ANYTHING he closes his ears - thus disproving the zoologists who maintain that the only mammel capable of closing its ears is the seal!

I assume you are talking about a Visacard or something similar. If so, ring your bank ASAP and cancel the card and get a new one, after making sure you either have another credit card you can use in the interim, or enough cash to tide you over until the new one and the PIN turns up.

Mention to you grandson if you like that you have had to do this, as it seems he, or someone else, has bought games using your card, and that this has cost you a lot of money.

Leave it at that.

Did his parents know that you used your card and warned theechild not to continue doing so?

In your place I would feel that apologising to them might be called for - you have inadvertently led their child into doing something the adult world sees as dishonest.

If you talk to the child or his parents about this, you should make it very clear indeed that you did a foolish thing you now regret.

grandtanteJE65

This is the worst of being Grandma. It is so long since our children were the age of our grandchildren that we have forgotten the details of what it was like.

I bridged the gap teaching 9- 16 year olds, so I know that if you give a 9 year old a lengthy explanation of ANYTHING he closes his ears - thus disproving the zoologists who maintain that the only mammel capable of closing its ears is the seal!

I assume you are talking about a Visacard or something similar. If so, ring your bank ASAP and cancel the card and get a new one, after making sure you either have another credit card you can use in the interim, or enough cash to tide you over until the new one and the PIN turns up.

Mention to you grandson if you like that you have had to do this, as it seems he, or someone else, has bought games using your card, and that this has cost you a lot of money.

Leave it at that.

Did his parents know that you used your card and warned theechild not to continue doing so?

In your place I would feel that apologising to them might be called for - you have inadvertently led their child into doing something the adult world sees as dishonest.

If you talk to the child or his parents about this, you should make it very clear indeed that you did a foolish thing you now regret.

I have cancelled the card if you bothered to read the thread. And I have sorted it with his parents but thanks for putting the boot in. Now off you go and polish your halo..?

Pleased it's sorted. Did your grandson know what he was doing?

So nice to hear from a real gran rather than those that never put a foot wrong in life.

Elizabeth27

Pleased it's sorted. Did your grandson know what he was doing?

So nice to hear from a real gran rather than those that never put a foot wrong in life.

Thank you Elizabeth..?…. No, he did not actually know what was going on,I think he was told something would be free and then it turned out it wasn’t but as I say we’ve had the conversation and he’ll be much more aware now as well I!! ?‍♀️?…

I see the usual crew are in, being "stunned" about perfectly normal stuff

I love the pearl clutchers MissAdventure! Wind ' em up and watch 'em go!

Pleased you got it all resolved Shinamae, all's well that ends well and no casualties involved!

Chewbacca

^I see the usual crew are in, being "stunned" about perfectly normal stuff^

I love the pearl clutchers MissAdventure! Wind ' em up and watch 'em go!

Pleased you got it all resolved Shinamae, all's well that ends well and no casualties involved!

Thank you ????

Some of the pompous, condescending replies on this thread are worthy of a comedy skit.

“Apologising to gs’s parents for leading him into a crime”??!!
Just one out of several spouting utter nonsense. Seriously, it’s hard to believe such people exist!

Haven't read all of this Shinamae, just your OP. I think its OK to tell DGS you're disappointed in him as long as you do it nicely & with humour & he knows he hasn't let you down in any irreparable way.I think 9yo is far too young for him to be able to tell that he was racking up payments on your card but that's partly the internets fault & not yours (presume you weren't born to it) or his (hasn't had time to get cynical about it).. Having had a nightmare with christmas gifts this year, & probably spent that amount on things that weren't appreciated, at least your present was enjoyed by him and hopefully has taught all concerned a lesson without any dreadful consequences.