Funeral wear help please.

I'm going to a big high-profile funeral tomorrow. The family says there is no dress code. But I do want to be respectful; it's not a fashion parade.
I shall wear a pair of black linen trousers with a cream-coloured cardigan jacket which has some coloured applique elements. I think it will be too hot for a proper jacket.

I generally wear black fitted smart trousers and a silk round neck short sleeve top with black jacket black sandals. Sadly some don’t seem to bother too much what they wear flip flops jeans etc . I’ve seen it all.

So sorry about your loss.

I would focus on comfort in this hot weather, probably wear a long linen dress in navy with easily removeable jacket or shrug.

Why black? It's no dress code funeral.

A classic cream blouse with navy skirt or trousers will be fine. It is rare for funerals today to require mourners to wear black from head to foot.

Something simple like a white top or blouse with the black linen trousers would be fine for the funeral.

I don't think that we have to wear black unless requested to do so .
Up until the World War 1 -there were massive shops which only sold funeral wear .
It was so strict and inflexible .
When WW1 came - the rules began to relax .
My Grandma remembers being almost permanently in mourning as a child .
And the ritual of wearing grey then mauve...
She also remembered sewing a black ribbon border on her baby brother's shawls .

I went to a funeral a couple of years ago and was asked to wear a brightly coloured floral dress .
The deceased was a lovely lady , who adored flowers .
One mourner bought a new dress for the funeral and thought that it was a wonderful idea .

I would wear what I have and like .

For My sisters funeral I wore a brightly coloured floral dress because She loved flowers 🌸🌸🌸

We were requested to wear some purple at one of my friends funeral it was her favourite colour, her purple sparkly coffin was her to a tee a lovely funny lady .

Any top you will feel cool and comfortable in …sorry for your loss xx

A 70-something friend of mine wore a red mini-dress and 5-inch heels to be buried in and requested as many others as possible wear similar the same. Sadly not many of us could manage the heels and some wore "flower power" skirts, but it was fun, which is what she had wanted.

I would chose any dark self-coloured skirt with a white or cream sgurt blouse.

Perhaps best to avoid black when the relatives specify a celebration of a life rather than grieving mourners

I always wear black for funerals unless told otherwise. can’t go wrong

For a summer funeral on a hot day, I'd wear one of my more formal summer dresses, in a classic style with smart shoes. I'd take a plain wrap, cardigan or jacket and wear some of my smaller, more formal pieces of jewellery. I'd keep the dress colour fairly plain and the style fit and flare or body skimming (not tight). I'd aim for formal simplicity.

If you're not a dress person, then smarter, work-style trousers in black or navy would be appropriate. I'd wear them with a slightly dressy, long sleeved blouse in a subdued colour and small heels. I'd keep hair and makeup simple and subdued too. It's all about honouring the deceased and showing respect to the family. You want to make an effort but not stand out.

kittylester

We have been told that there is no dress 'code' and it is more about recalling a happy life than mourning his death.

As they said it's about recalling a happy life. I would wear something colorful and that you are comfortable in.

A white linen shirt

I would wear something bright and cheerful. For my Godmother's winter funeral I wore my favourite red coat with a burgundy dress. All the ladies, except her niece, wore bright colours to reflect the happy lady we were saying goodbye to. The men wore the usual suit but wore bright coloured ties, and one wore an amazing, colourful patterned shirt.
Wear what you feel comfortable in.

If you know what his favourite colour was a simple top in that, if you don't cream is stylish and not glaringly in your face...

No dress code? Do wear something decorous, nowt flashy.

When my sister in law died, every one wore black, when my husband died as well as family there were a lot of old work colleagues and they all had dark suits and black ties. Even our grandchildren decided to wear black. I have ‘funeral clothes’ black skirt, black top, black coat in winter, black jacket in summer. Most people where I live seem to do the same. Really it’s what you feel comfortable wearing.

Thank you all for your lovely comments and suggestions.

Currently, I intend to wear black linen trousers with a longish cream shirt with a pink necklace.

Unless it's colder - then I will wear a pale pink linen jacket and a cream t shirt.

And take a mac and umbrella.

Sounds perfect- the main thing is that you are comfortable in it, emotionally as well as practically.