Help I’m becoming obsessed after bad event

It is no good complaining about unfair treatment and doing nothing; you have a responsibility to others as well as yourself. If you do not challenge these things they will happen again.

Ask for the Constitution and the procedure that was followed to lead to your suspension.
Any warning given ?
Any discussion to hear your point of view?
If not, why not?
Assemble your evidence and, request a hearing, and take another adult with you, who takes notes.

eazybee

It is no good complaining about unfair treatment and doing nothing; you have a responsibility to others as well as yourself. If you do not challenge these things they will happen again.

Ask for the Constitution and the procedure that was followed to lead to your suspension.
Any warning given ?
Any discussion to hear your point of view?
If not, why not?
Assemble your evidence and, request a hearing, and take another adult with you, who takes notes.

Good thinking Macduff...

25Avalon

Cariad I don’t want to be identified as that could get me into more trouble but you have pretty well summed it up. The governing body don’t have to follow the laws of the land just their own rules where the woke rule. I’ve searched and others have been treated similarly to myself for nothing really. My club are not the bad guys here and they do deserve my help. Everything else you say resonates. Just got to get through this best I can. Maybe I should treat it like a panic attack - it will pass and I will still be alive.

So sorry to hear about your bad experiences. I guess it’s life and these thing’s happened but not nice at the time.

I fidn this a strange post.

Why dont they have to follow the rules of the land?

I know a couple of ones that dont, but they are religious ones. And have to follow some.

Never heard it said about a sports club before.

Woke has become like a "morality" of it's own.
Only wokeness, in reality, is no such thing.

eazybee

It is no good complaining about unfair treatment and doing nothing; you have a responsibility to others as well as yourself. If you do not challenge these things they will happen again.

Ask for the Constitution and the procedure that was followed to lead to your suspension.
Any warning given ?
Any discussion to hear your point of view?
If not, why not?
Assemble your evidence and, request a hearing, and take another adult with you, who takes notes.

There may well be a cluase somewhere which is a catch all. There is in what I know.

If I am merely projecting, and am wide of the mark, please excuse me.

With the mention of sports - I wouldnt be surprised if OP has fallen foul of men trying to take part in womens sports that there seems to be a lot of these days - all this "a man who self-identifies as a woman" stuff that's going on.

I loathe sports personally - havent got the slightest interest in taking part in or even watching it. But I do sympathise with women getting shoved aside by men in their own "womens sports" that seems to be happening noticeably often these days. It's obvious to me/to most of us that women have less physical strength than men. I could well envisage that, if I were actually interested in sport, and I had come first in a race or something - but a man grabbed my position off me by pretending to be a woman there would be "consequences". I would certainly let the whole world know he'd stolen my position if I apparently came second and he'd apparently come first in a womans sport activity. No-one would gag me from saying "I'm the rightful winner actually" and I'd be livid at my position being stolen off me.

So I don't know if that is what has happened here - ie men trying to grab womens positions....and I don't know just how much longer that stupid attitude will continue before we're back to "That's for women and that over there is for men - so stick to your lane so to say" in these contexts.

I'm afraid - if that's what is happening here - that I see it as being a few years yet before that sort of thing gets put right. I'm so glad I'm not interested in sport - as I know I'd be livid and withdraw until things got back to normal and then men would be competing only against other men (whichever sex they personally wanted to say they were).

Clearly most do not understand the situation with Sports Clubs. Sports Clubs have their own officials but they all have to follow the rules of their National Governing body. If they do not that governing body can be banned from taking part in their sport. Their rules are not necessary the same as law and do not adhere to free speech. A participant is charged. A disciplinary committee is called and if they decide the charge is proven they will take action suspending that person for a certain length of time. The participants can appeal but it will be to a higher echelon equally woke and they may even increase the punishment. Let me give you an example: last year you may remember a young 17year old girl footballer who was Autistic asked a trans woman player on the other team if they were a man because they had a beard. She was suspended for 6 matches for that because The FA decided it was insulting and transphobic.

Good evening Avalon 🙂

Yes, sometimes there is no way to achieve justice or even to have your voice heard. This is what happened to me, when
my attempt to bring what they did not want to hear was silenced and buried.

I know I cannot do anything in regard to the “management” but can at least be a thorn in their side by still being there😬

I did not sleep well after my meeting but am hoping for a better night tonight. I hope you sleep well too🙂

Surely the National Governing Body would soon have to reverse decisions like that if women (ie real women) wholesale abandoned the present institutions and started up their own instead (ie following normal rules etc before all this "wokeness" started)??

Cariadagain, Leagues and Clubs have to be sanctioned by the Governing body at the start of each season. They are not allowed to play otherwise and will not get anyone to insure them. You would need many clubs to all break away together and it just won’t happen. The FA and other Sports Governing organisations have now had to disallow trans women from playing in women’s football following the Supreme Court ruling.