A friend at all costs ?

I was fed with one of my old friends expecting me to pay the bill or a major share of it .
She has a shop and a huge house which she rents out and is very comfortably off .
She's a taker not a giver and not just with bills .
Her meaness presents itself in many ways including getting people to help out with her last business venture and not rewarding them .
When you get to the restaurant stipulate separate bills and ask her for petrol money

And see if she stays around .

I think the bottom line here is none of us like to feel we are being taken advantage of, and when the one taking advantage is a long-standing friend, that somehow makes it worse.

I don’t drinks and don’t have extravagant tastes with food but if I did, fillet steak say with glasses of wine, there’s no way I would expect my friend if she had a more modest meal to chip in for my indulgence.

Separate bills are the answer.

Perhaps give your friend the benefit of the doubt and, as SuzyQ says, put it down to thoughtlessness - at least so far as halving bills is concerned - though I do think the expectation that you will always be willing to drive suggests a lack of consideration.

I suppose you could say to your friend that you enjoy going out for a meal but now you are retired you have to be a bit more careful how much you spend. So you hope she will understand that you would prefer to have a separate bill.

Personally, I would feel too embarrassed to say this and would decline any suggestions of going for a meal. Maybe she would then wonder why and ask you. It's a shame to lose a good friendship but it does seem that you are being taken advantage of.

Before you order say that you'd like separate bills.
Then see if she orders expensive stuff
knowing that she has to pay for it herself

I always pay for my own food and drink when I go out with any friend/friends, saves any bad feelings and I'm free to choose pricey or not without causing offence. Also have been known to refuse to drive by having the odd drink when I'm fed up being a taxi!

Nowadays its very easy to get a separate bill just ask the staff they will be fine with it we do it all the time when we go out with the 'girls' . If she then pulls a face you know shes using you and so nothing is lost .

Sorry,I think if she's earning 80k a year she should be offering to pay your meal! Is there a big discrepency on the bill and how often do you meet? If it's just 1/2 a year I would just suck it up! If not you have to bring it up. As for driving everyone not on or they should buy your drinks abd meal as you are saving them a fortune! If they are not I would'nt go. I know it may be cutting of your nose to spite your face but it's that or putting up with being used....there is no in between really. Good luck