So unreal now

Oh Annie I have no words other than no, of course you're not daft. The mind plays funny tricks on us all at times.

Thinking of you today, Annie. And you are far from daft.

You loved him very much, that’s clear Annie and he will be forever young in your heart and mind.?

Annie

Se ding hugs Anniebach ??

Not daft Annie not daft at all. Do you let your imagination run and wonder what he would have been like today?
Our first baby, a boy, was born in 1973 and died at 3 weeks. Many’s the time since then I have looked at little boys, biggerboys, young men, others in the family and wondered “Would this have been you?”

Annie?

That's so sad. Have you been able to find a different love? x

You don't think of this aspect of loss do you, early bereavement.

Just go on remembering him as he was Annie. You are still the woman he loved.

I lost my mum when she was forty five and I was nineteen. I remember her as a young woman because I didn't get to see the old one.

Annie. Hugs to you. It must be difficult for you.
Is the Therapy helping at all? I think you said that there was a session today.
Thoughts and . for you.

Sending kind thoughts

for you.

Annie, you were widowed as a young woman. You loved him then, and you love him now, many years later. That's not daft. It's lovely that he will never be consigned to history as long as he is remembered. Love endures. Love never dies.

When my child lost her partner (he was just 29) I sent her this.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails - I Corinthians 13:7.

Thinking of you

Annie your lovely husband touched your life and those around him.
His gift was loving you and his little family.

Souls are ageless.
Love is eternal.?

Thank you all x

I am not distressed , was thinking about it and shared my thoughts. It is a strange feeling, no Idea what would have happened if he had lived, we may have had our retirement cottage in New Quay, Cardiganshire, we may have divorced.

MawI understand about your baby, we lost a baby in 1972 and 1974, I do at times wonder how they would have grown into womanhood but I think of the two daughters I was blessed with and think the babies may have been like their sisters,they are rather like blank pages, But my husband was a man when he died in 1975, not a blank page.

Today is my Mum’s birthday, she was 77 when she died so i
Can remember her older than I am,

Anyway, I am alright, sad he didn’t see his two daughters grow into lovely women , see his three grandchildren. Younger daughter has no memory of him , elder daughter did, suppose I miss her talking about him , no one has remembered him , well I have and have been able to share with you all.

Remember elder daughter saying when i showed her his two recommendations for bravery , the minx said ‘ he was brave he married you ?

Auntyflo therapy was difficult today , sitting in the sofa looking out at the Cul de sac and imagining standing in the middle , gulp ?

Thank you all for letting me share, x

annie

Special thoughts to you on this sad anniversary day Annie ? and I do love what your elder daughter said - what a brilliant comment! A lovely memory to hold dear.

Have you read Paul Kalanithi’s ‘When Breath Becomes Air’? Every minute you have with family is a blessing and comfort.

Thank you all x . It’s such a long time ago but I loved him , my grandchildren, son in law and son in law who isn’t , never knew him , younger daughter can’t remember him, Catherine no longer with me to speak of him or take flowers to his grave, perhaps selfish but I needed to remember him today so did so with you. He was so worthy of remembrance, what we shared was special and yes only 8 years of marriage but from the marriage I was blessed with my younger daughter (my baby girl) and Catherine my joy .

Thank you so much for letting me share x

Not having someone to remember with is hard Anniebach.

Not daft at all Annie

Missed this thread the other day; just sending now. It must feel so strange to you to know that he did not see the children grow up, but you did. Hope the day was full of happy memories.

Annie no you're not daft, not at all