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My husbands funeral tomorrow how will I cope?

(134 Posts)
1summer Wed 31-Aug-22 20:56:58

Sorry to trouble you but its my husbands funeral tomorrow and I am having a blip! I have organised everything with my children and they keep saying it will be a wonderful celebration of his life. They did say they would stay with me tonight but said I would be fine but I am not. I feel sick and shaky thinking I can’t go through with it, it seems so final.
Visitors today tell me that after tomorrow I can start grieving I can start a journey of recovery. I want to shout no no no, I don’t want to be on this journey and will never recover.
I almost feel like running away and not going tomorrow but I won’t I have to do this for my family.
I just want him back.

Grandmadinosaur Thu 01-Sept-22 08:34:35

Thinking of you too today Isummer sending love and hugs ?

luluaugust Thu 01-Sept-22 08:44:14

Thinking of you Isummer flowers

sodapop Thu 01-Sept-22 08:45:50

Thinking of you Isummer thanks

Grannmarie Thu 01-Sept-22 08:47:02

My thoughts and prayers are with you today 1summer. ???

Kalu Thu 01-Sept-22 08:48:10

You are in my thoughts today 1summer. ?

Nannagarra Thu 01-Sept-22 08:50:25

Sending a virtual hug for today Isummer.

1summer Thu 01-Sept-22 08:57:21

Thank you thank you, you are all so kind. I have woken up after a bad nights sleep but feel a little calmer today. I keep picturing him saying you have got this and can almost feel him squeezing my hand. I know I will get through this day with the support of friend and family and knowing you are thinking of me helps a lot.
The funeral is not until this afternoon but my children are coming soon to take me out for breakfast before we get ready. Its going to be a long day.

Aveline Thu 01-Sept-22 09:00:21

I hope things go really well today. It will be so hard for you. No need to keep a brave face on though. Everyone there will be 'on your side'. I'm glad you have supportive, kind family. Best wishes. thanks

Doodledog Thu 01-Sept-22 09:04:27

It will be a long day, but just take it one minute at a time. If you have a wobble, your children will help you, and remember that grans everywhere are with you in spirit.

Take care flowers.

Soroptimum Thu 01-Sept-22 09:06:16

Sending hugs to you. No need to be brave. Just be. flowers

Yammy Thu 01-Sept-22 09:07:35

So sorry for your loss no one can know how you feel today unless they have been through it themselves.
With the help of your family, you will get through it.flowers

ixion Thu 01-Sept-22 09:32:46

Still thinking of you, 1summer , on this most difficult day.
We are here, whenever you need us.
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RichmondPark1 Thu 01-Sept-22 09:33:33

Thinking of you today 1summer and sending love. Your family and friends will be a huge comfort and strength to you today I am sure.

cheryl1972 Thu 01-Sept-22 09:36:50

So sorry to hear of your loss , and sending you love on this most difficult of days

dragonfly46 Thu 01-Sept-22 09:41:10

Thinking of you today ISummer

Sar53 Thu 01-Sept-22 10:04:41

Thinking of you today ISummer, with a big virtual hug and lots of love xxx

Doodle Thu 01-Sept-22 10:39:54

Another one here thinking of you 1summer and your family on this sad and difficult day flowers

mamaa Thu 01-Sept-22 10:46:46

flowers and virtual hugs for today. So sorry to hear your sad news. xx

AGAA4 Thu 01-Sept-22 10:48:31

So sorry Isummer. Many of us have been through this and understand ?

Harris27 Thu 01-Sept-22 10:58:22

So sorry for your loss. You will find the strength to do this. We all dread this day and we don’t know how we,ll cope but you will and he has left you your lovely children don’t say your ok when your not. Let them help. Sending you hugs and love.

Hithere Thu 01-Sept-22 11:06:12

Thinking of you today!

Esmay Thu 01-Sept-22 11:15:23

I'm so sorry for your loss .

Sending you love and prayers .

Nana56 Thu 01-Sept-22 11:17:45

I am so sorry for your loss. Big hugs flowers

tanith Thu 01-Sept-22 11:22:36

My thoughts are with you today Isummer ?

paddyann54 Thu 01-Sept-22 11:23:59

Hoping you have the strength to see you through not just today but the days to come .Its my worst nightmare losing my OH .With the support of those who love you and your husband I hope it all goes as well as these things can