My husbands funeral tomorrow how will I cope?

I’m sorry for your loss. I understand totally how you feel.
Someone who had lost her husband told me I’d get through the funeral without too many tears, and with my sons beside me I managed.
As for the gathering after the funeral I acted as if my husband was still in the room with me and I chatted to all friends and family. When my husband and I used to socialise we often spent most of the time circulating without each other.
To be honest I found the time after the funeral the hardest part. That’s when I really missed him. I still do but after four years it has got easier.

So sorry for your loss

A very sad time for you. Sorry to hear of your distress. As others have said, take each day at a time, and let family and friends comfort and help you.

So so sorry. Thinking about you. Flowers

So sad for you. Sending you heartfelt sympathy. May you find strength.

I have been thinking about you and your family on this very sad day.
I send you ? and best wishes for the next part of your difficult journey.

Bless you. You sound very brave but you're probably shouting 'No I'm not'
I'll be thinking of you x

Take it one step at a time, dear Isummer. Some days will feel like two steps back but you’ll get there. You will.

I hope it went as well as possible and that you're managing to relax a little back home. Let us know how you're getting on.

I hope the funeral went well 1summer and you felt the love and support of those who attended. I'm sure it has been a long, emotionally draining day. Hope you are able to get some sleep. Your friends on GN are thinking of you. XX

So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you"

Can’t begin to imagine 1summer, thinking of you x

I hope the funeral went as well as it could.

It’s over now, and you can take it easy today.

Still in my thoughts.

And mine. ?

Yes, here too

Me too x

Well I got through yesterday, I was ok all morning and kept thinking I can do this. I went to pieces when I saw the coffin and cried throughout most of the lovely service. Seeing other people cry when talking about him or reading a poem was hard.
The funeral directors told me we had about 150 people inside and outside (worried as venue afterwards had only catered for 60 but it was fine).
I then spent about 4 hours not only talking to family and friends but lots of old schoolfriends and work colleagues of husband during his career and it was so nice to hear stories and anecdotes of husband and all the lovely things people said about him.
I came home absolutely physically and mentally exhausted but happy that I coped aswell as I did.
Today we are going to the cremation to look again at the flowers, put some of them on family graves and memorials and bring mine to him home. Then later today I will rest and reflect. Maybe today not the day to look to the future.
Thank you for your support.

You did so well 1summer. I cannot begin to imagine what a difficult day it must have been. Now you can take time to as you say reflect, and remember all the wonderful times you shared .

Thanks for coming back. You did well. Today will be a little easier.

How thoughtful of you to come back. Thank you. You found your strength for yesterday. I hope, with the support of family and friends, you will find strength to walk into the future. GN is always here for you too.

It's just my thoughts on the time immediately after the funeral, so I hope I don't upset anyone, but I think we have a period of numbness in order to be able to take in all that has happened, and do what needs to be done.
For me, there was a period after that I found awful to cope with.
I just withdrew more and more, and felt I wasn't coping - it was all encompassing.

It was very bleak, but well, I did get through it, and it is 'normal'.

Again, just keep trudging when you can, and don't on the days you can't.

I can’t begin to imagine how you must be feeling 1summer but I wish you strength and much love to help you through the days ahead.

A tough day for you Isummer but you did find the strength to get through it. So good to hear all the lovely memories of your husband it must have been tiring for you. Another difficult day today but you still have the strength to do this for your husband. After all this don't rush into anything but take time to rest and reflect on all your own memories. Take care

Isummer

Glad you managed fine ... there will be days you reflect on different things ... happy times ... sad times ... funny times ... each one a gem ... like I have said earlier if you want to cry cry , if you want to laugh laugh ... when I speak about my lovely husband I am fine , others I cry ... then I say to people if I cry don't worry , I mean that ... some people won't want to mention your husband , for fearing of hurting you, but I say I don't mind shows they remember him aswell ... yes will have your good days , your bad days I know ... talk to your husband ... I do I moan & even nag him at times, even ask for advice . I tell him about things. My daughter & son in law had a photo picture done for me with loads of photos of him, our family & pets may I add, it is on the wall , everytime I get up of a morning I say morning, everytime I go to bed I say Good Night & God bless, I do when I go out & come back in ... when I go out & before I go to bed I always say ... no having parties !!! ? This helps me a lot , you may fine others things ... take one day at a time ... God bless