Hope you don't think I am crass, but I do need advice

To all of you who have offered advice and sympathy, here is a short update.

Today, we received a firm diagnosis and a treatment plan.

My husband is one of the lucky ones! Granted he does have a malign tumour in his oesophagous, but the cancer has not spread, so he is starting radiotherapy this coming Thursday. 10 sessions spread out over the following consecutive week-days, then a re-evaluation by the oncologists.

The surgeons have ruled out removing the tumour at present, as DH has lost a lot of weight during the fortnight where he could barely swallow even thin broth. He currently weighs 42.7 kg, which is very little for a man who is 183 cm tall and has since the age of 16 weighed 55 kg.

He has had a stent inserted which has enabled him to eat "proper" food as long as it is neither fried to a crisp or has other sharp edges and is eating like a horse.

So the outlook is, at present, quite good.

Thank you all once again for all your kind sympathy and advice.

Thank you for the update grandtanteJE65. It’s good to see something positive.
Do take care of yourself as well

Great news. I’m very pleased for you both. Wishing you all the very best.

To all of you who have been so encouraging and kind:

My husband died peacefully in hospital early this afternoon.

He was rushed into hospital on Sunday morning, and aware that he was dying, although the doctors certainly did not expect it to be this quick.

He held out until today, I think, because he wanted to see our son and achieved that wish.

I knew and so did our son, that he had given up hope of being able to live a tolerable life with this cancer, so my grief is lightened by a sense that this is what was best for him,

Thank you all again for your kind and helpful replies.

I am so sorry to hear your sad news. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

I’m so very sorry grandtante. I truly am. I have been praying for both of you, that won’t stop. Yes, what was best for him. I hope you can take some comfort from that, 💐

So sorry to hear this. Can only send you a virtual hug and say I'm keeping you both in my prayers and thinking of you.

I am so sorry, Grandtante. Xxx

I am so very sorry, my condolences to you and your family.

What very sad news, I have been thinking about you and your husband and hoped for the best. So sorry for your loss.

Sending a hug - thank goodness he was able to see his son.

Sending my condolences to you grandtante. So sorry

I am so sorry for you all. Be kind to yourself and don’t expect too much of yourself. Just keep going for now. X

Sincere condolences grandtante. So sorry

R.I.P. Mr GT.🙏🕯
Sincere condolences for you and your family, Grandtante, you are wise to accept that this was best for your DH. When cancer makes life intolerable, a peaceful death surrounded by loved ones is indeed a blessing. Look after yourself, sending love and prayers. 💕🙏

Dear GT
This resonated with me when Paw slipped away, I hope it does for you too

God looked around his garden
And found an empty place,
He then looked down upon the earth
And saw your tired face.
He put his arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God’s garden must be beautiful
He always takes the best.
He knew that you were suffering
He knew you were in pain.
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.
He saw the road was getting rough
And the hills were hard to climb.
So he closed your weary eyelids
And whispered, ‘Peace bethine’.
It broke our hearts to lose you
But you didn’t go alone,
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home

Sincere sympathy

💐. Such sad news.

So sorry

Lovely words RosiesMaw. So meaningful for many of us.

There are hard times ahead. I did find it helpful to remind myself that others have been through this so it must be possible for me to do it too

Thank you Lathyrus for these wise words. I have squirrelled them away. For when I need them.

My deepest condolences grandtante, I am so sorry for your loss.

So sorry to read your very sad news grandtanteJE65 💐

Oh grandtante. 💐
Please accept my most sincere condolences. I was working my way through the thread when I replied to Lathyrus.
Coming upon your post later was a shock indeed.
The end has come on so suddenly.
In some ways, a blessing? I hope you can draw comfort from that in time.
RIP dear sir.
You will be missed most devastatingly by your family who loved you very much.
x

I am very sorry for your loss

I am very sorry for your loss Grandetante.