Still brokenhearted

I send my condolences Doodle.

So sorry Doodle anniversaries can be hellish can't they. I'm sure many people on here can relate to your feelings today. We are thinking of you and sending love.

Doodle great big cyber hugs from me, grief is so individual nobody else can appreciate your feelings, but you keep taking things a day at a time and the weight will get easier to bear 💐

My condolences

A year is nothing to mourn a loved one

Take all the time you need

So sorry Doodle - a lovely comforting quote ..

I am so sorry that you are struggling with your grief. You must have found 'the one' and had a lovely marriage. I know that is of little comfort to you.

Anniversaries of this kind are hard to bear but I am sure your darling man would not wish you to be so sad.

Thank you all 💕

I hope that you can take comfort from the love that you shared. It is a precious thing to love and be loved - but grief is the price you pay.

The day my DH died is firmly planted in my brain. For you it is still very raw Doodle and I remember how painful it was.
So sorry you are feeling so sad today. Telling you it will ease as time goes on doesn't help I know. 💐

A year is so short a time.

Have you considered grief counselling?

What you are experiencing is completely normal.

Sending condolences & a huge hug 🤗

Hugs for you. It’s a difficult journey.

Oh, my dear, Doodle.

I know exactly how you feel, and I am so sad reading your post.

It is now 18 months since my husband died, and I have got past weeping copiously every day, or even every other day, but there are still days where I sit crying over little things, memories, I don't need to go on, as you know what I mean.

Give yourself time. How long it takes is different from person to person, but my experience is that some kind of peace creeps in. Perhaps contentment will come in time too, who knows?

I am so glad to hear you have family and friends who care and help.

But it is a lonely road we are treadingm so keep in touch.

It is indeed a long lonely road, and just as you think you might just be ready to throw away the map, something comes along and kicks the legs out from under you; a photo, hearing his voice on a bit of video, songs he used to sing have tears coursing down your cheeks. But it’s part of the healing process. It’s very early days; let it take you where it will for now.
Thinking of you💐

I am so sorry, life must be so hard, and you put on such a good front when you are on GN, my condolences.

Doodle ❤️

Doodle, my condolences too. My lovely husband died 5 months ago and I miss him terribly. I’m sure our tears are part of the grieving process but for you today is a very special day, and a very sad one.
I always enjoy reading your balanced posts so do keep coming on to Gransnet. You know you are with friends on here.

Oh Doodle. 😢
My thoughts are with you this afternoon. x

Greyduster

It is indeed a long lonely road, and just as you think you might just be ready to throw away the map, something comes along and kicks the legs out from under you; a photo, hearing his voice on a bit of video, songs he used to sing have tears coursing down your cheeks. But it’s part of the healing process. It’s very early days; let it take you where it will for now.
Thinking of you💐

That is so true.
Doodle, I am so sorry. I have had to be without the love of my life for nearly five years now. Year one, I was convinced I wouldn’t survive, but I did. It was hard, and I’m still not really happy but I am still breathing, still enjoying some things and luckily have family nearby. Years 2, 3 and 4 saw the gut-wrenching grief lessen to a painful ache. Occasionally, I laughed and enjoyed myself. I learned not to feel guilty because I was having a great time with our family which he could not. We talked about him often and he will always be important to us. There will always be a piece of him in our children and grandchildren. In fact, yesterday, our granddaughter brought my great-grandson to be with me. She gently stretched his little legs out and said, ‘look! He’s going to have long legs like his great-granddad!’
Life will never be the same. It can’t be and I think the best advice I can give is to try to get the best out of each day.I try not to dwell on happier times too often, just remember them now and again. If dark thoughts appear, push them away and distract yourself with something, TV, radio, a good book, phone a friend.
Try to live each day as your loved one would want you to. My husband would be heartbroken if I didn’t carry on with a good, but different life.
I live the life that was denied him, with all my love.

💐
I can't say anything more than what has already been said.
Just be kind to yourself. X

Do very sorry to read your post Doodle. I have no advice because I haven't had to endure such a massive loss Thinking about you and sending you strength. 💐💐

Doodle I really feel for you. I do hope that you have family and friends nearby to comfort you. The only thing I can say is to try to take one day at a time and one day you will wake up and hear the birds singing then you will gradually start to move on. [Flowers]

Kindest thoughts to you Doodle
Early days and they will get easier but you have to believe that and keep on keeping on with help from family and friends.

Thinking of you, Doodle; I wish I could say it hurts less but, three years on, it doesn’t. It’s more about learning to live with a hole at the centre of my life, and it is so hard. I have yet to shed a tear and suspect I might feel better if I did, but find reminders of our shared past both painful and consoling.

'Grief is the price we pay for love' - and what a high price it is. I feel for you, Doodle.