Separate beds

We go self catering with two bedrooms. We both dislike hotels anyway.

We always rented either a large mobile home or a cottage. Have never stayed in a hotel.
Haven't bothered with holidays for about 20 years now so not a problem.

the novelty of ‘sleeping together’ had well and truly become tedious but the not sleeping stuff we did in bed hadn’t.

That made me laugh Babs03

I think some people think that because others have separate rooms they are almost divorced.

A few days ago there was an old horror film with Kurt Jurgen on late at night and as I have a TV in my room MrA came in to watch it with me. We cuddled up in bed with a bottle of wine and had a date night. MrA stayed the night

Mollygo

No, we share a king size bed. He snores a bit and I probably do, but I’d miss him if he was in another room. Besides it would make holidays more expensive.
I’m curious. Do all the separate roomers not go away, or pay for two rooms or just put up with one another when they’re on holiday?

We ask for a KS bed, or single beds- same bedroom is fine, for holidays.

Separate beds for us too. And if we’re away we either book two hotel rooms or holiday let with two bedrooms (and preferably two bathrooms!)

Must say hosting guests who insist on two bedrooms is a total pain!

On holiday we have two rooms if possible but if not we're quite happy with one. When we're away we tend to be up and out at the same time doing things together anyway.

No. We cuddle up in a king size bed, no separate rooms for us. Couldn’t imagine that my Dh snores doesn’t really bother me, whatever keeps you happy. Each to their own of course. We dread the day when one of us in the bed.

Same here 😃we enjoy our cuddles too much.

Why can’t you enjoy cuddles if you don’t SLEEP together ? Surely you don’t have to be in bed to do that?

We have had separate rooms for several years and are still happily together after 48 years.
I ‘m pretty sure there are far more couples who have separate beds/ rooms than admit to it for some reason.

Well if it was good enough for the late Queen......

I started sleeping in another room when GC were born I was up very early to help with them. My DH was still working then we decided we would have own rooms to get some decent sleep. It suits us both very well now we quite like our own space. When we go on holiday we hire a cottage and have our own bedrooms in a hotel we have separated beds.

I was curious because there’s another thread somewhere about splitting the cost of accommodation.
We meet up with friends or with family quite often We don’t often use hotels, but when we book gîtes or cottages, I’m not sure how I’d feel if we had book and split the cost of a 6 bedroom place when we only wanted one bedroom and the couples wanted separate rooms.
I couldn’t find the thread but there was a good debate.

HeavenLeigh

No. We cuddle up in a king size bed, no separate rooms for us. Couldn’t imagine that my Dh snores doesn’t really bother me, whatever keeps you happy. Each to their own of course. We dread the day when one of us in the bed.

Pretty much agree with this. No separate rooms for us, I need someone to warm my cold feet on!😂.

Best thing we ever did

Same bed but separate duvets. Sort of halfway house. We might have to think about separate rooms soon as like "Shelflife" I like windows open and plenty of fresh air to sleep, DH doesn't.
He sleeps wrapped in his duvet even on hot nights, I sleep on top of mine uncovered. We manage OK but the window issue might send into separate rooms!

I'm with HowVeryDareYou2 on this one. We sleep apart. I am in the double bed and he sleeps in the single bed in the spare room. If I get up in the night I can hear him snoring through the closed door of his room. I am a moody old boot if I can't get enough sleep. Now happy wife and even happier husband without me snapping at him all day.

PetalPop I can hear my husband snoring when I'm sitting downstairs, with all the doors shut! He's having some tests later today, to see if he's got sleep apnoea. If he has, it'll mean him having to wear a mask attached to a CPAP machine, which is in itself, very noisy, apparently

We called our single bedroom ‘the escape room’ where my late husband, who had insomnia, often moved into in the middle of the night in order to read. On one occasion, not noticing that I had already left the marital bed for the escape room, woke me when he dropped a pile of books on me when he ‘escaped’!

We had to go into separate rooms due to DHs Parkinson's I was getting attacked on the night It didn't stop cuddles or indeed regular intercourse it just saved me black eyes and broken bones

Hell yes! Started when I was in a severe period of Meniere's Disease and spent many nights vomiting but unable to get out of bed. Best thing ever.

Yes and separate bathrooms, best decision ever

Yes we have had separate rooms for many years. He snores badly and we both get up and down for the loo. We put up with one bed or have twin beds when away but I have to have ear plugs and sleeping pills! Sometimes we go self catering to get the 2 rooms. Our friends have always been understanding and given us a room each when we visit.

Married well over 50 years. Hubby had heart attack over 20 years ago. Happily put up with broken sleep just to have him beside me.❤️

I vote for separate houses, one of us is tidy and likes daylight, the other is messy and nocturnal. We get along very well.

I’m in. Best thing ever, DH snores, I get hot, it just works x