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Do you ever feel this will never be over?

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Greymar Fri 10-Apr-20 19:34:35

I am trying to be pleasant, enjoy the garden, chat to my husband and so on. Sometimes I feel I am hanging by a thread.
Just watching Rick Stein in France and I have the strngest sensation that this crisis will never end.

Cycorax Sat 11-Apr-20 12:29:43

At some point the lockdown will have to be relaxed, but what the new normal will be I have no idea. The country will have huge debts to pay and at the moment it's not clear how this will be done. But we have to be thankful that we still have food, water, electricity and our rubbish is collected. In many ways we are fortunate

Patsy429 Sat 11-Apr-20 12:29:52

Nona4ever - So sorry to hear of your loss and in such terrible circumstances. You are still grieving but there are friends here who are thinking of you and praying for you. It is Easter Sunday tomorrow and there are many virtual services that you can join. The resurrected Christ has overcome death and you will find comfort and hope in Him.

starbird Sat 11-Apr-20 12:31:50

Because they live at opposie ends of the country and I am in the middle, I do not se my two sons and their families that often - maybe 2 or 3 times a year, likewise my older sister who has some health problems and cannot take long journeys. To avoid the cold, wet winters, and as I travel by train rather than drive in a clapped out car, I don’t go in the winter. This lockdown started just as I was preparing for the first of many trips to see sister, to be followed by others to see sons. . Now I am wondering if I will see any of them ever again (at least in this world). I can pass the time - no problem ( I have read three books this week) and started tackling my small garden, but it all seems pointless somehow.
The trouble is, that even when Lockdown begins to lift, I know that my sister and one son will hesitate to see me ( or anyone) until they can be 100% sure it is safe to do so, because they are or have a spouse, who is very vulnerable.
Now that I have depressed myself I will have to stop feeling sorry for myself, wipe my eyes, go and hit the chocolate cream eggs and open my book! Adieu

CardiffJaguar Sat 11-Apr-20 12:36:56

This crisis will end; that is for sure. Thinking otherwise reminds me of WW2 when we were all hoping but it never seemed to end untilit did.

Tergly Sat 11-Apr-20 12:39:33

We need to have access to the antigen testing kits as soon as possible. There could be many people who are immune and are not a risk to anyone.

patricia1958 Sat 11-Apr-20 12:42:03

I think it every day when will my 12 week isolation ends because nobody knows when theirs will not even boris Johnson nows

Greymar Sat 11-Apr-20 12:45:12

I am so please this thread is here for folk to let it all hang out!

tara Sat 11-Apr-20 12:50:22

@Starblaze I too had sore throat and sickness last night. Worried me because husband unwell ( other things), and he was not coping well with me. Kept thinking what will happen if I go? Nobody allowed to help him. Anyway, thankfully, I am fine this morning. But it has given me food for thought. Should make a plan.

SheilsM Sat 11-Apr-20 12:58:38

Hi Greymar
We’re living in strange and scarey times eh? Someone wrote on here you shouldn’t look in the future. I think this is all we can do right now. Really hard to do I know but trying to just look to the end of the day, talk to friends, FaceTime grandchildren, do the garden if you have one, find good films to watch, good books to read, and I personally couldn’t live without Radio 4. I live alone, me and my dog, so in a way this Easter isn’t so bad for me. I would normally be thinking everybody but me is having a lovely time but I know that we’re all in the same boat this time and all trying to make the best of it. We’re all having bad days but I just hope for me and you all that the better, more positive ones outweigh them. Hang on in there! ??

Ladychaplin19 Sat 11-Apr-20 12:58:47

The one certainty in life, is change. Interesting how we are pre disposed to think the painful will never end, but rarely can we convince ourselves the good times last forever. Or maybe it does it’s just called youth.
If we can relish one small thing be it the fragrance of your bath bubbles, a flower or the way light falls, that too can cascade if you practise. Times are tough, us ‘mature’ ones have survived life’s challenges before, I have no doubt we will find our ways to get through this. Allow ourselves bleak thoughts then treasure any glimmers that come our way. Resist worrying about tomorrow , enjoy today if you can .

Labaik Sat 11-Apr-20 13:08:21

Can I just say how sorry I am for those of you that have lost loved ones; I can only give a virtual hug but if anyone does feel isolated and lonely I'm quite happy to pm my phone number; I'm a night owl and am happy to chat at any time of day/night. I too suffer from social anxiety but, for some reason have always been happy to speak to people on the telephone. I know I bang on about it but I still would recommend that people listen to Dr Campbells blog; I had a 'down' day yesterday but watched his daily blog late last night and it lifted my spirits enormously. There is evidence that many people have developed antibodies; there may be a vaccine sooner than we think. Test kits will be available; it's just unfortunate that this country has bought a duff batch of them.

Patticake123 Sat 11-Apr-20 13:11:08

When the world’s scientists come up with a vaccine, it will improve things, just as long as the whole world works together to ensure everyone is covered. Unfortunately with some of the current world leaders, I fear this will take longer rather than sooner.
Try to keep positive.

12Jade34 Sat 11-Apr-20 13:11:38

I too am terrified and want to do a Russian roulette and just sort of get it over with

Flowerofthewest Sat 11-Apr-20 13:11:46

Found this:

Callistemon Sat 11-Apr-20 13:13:39

That is kind Laibak

I must listen to his blog again.

Tallulah2 Sat 11-Apr-20 13:16:13

GagaJo
Thanks for the Pooh and Piglet conversation.

geekesse Sat 11-Apr-20 13:19:39

Flowerofthewest, This text is actually a modern-day poem written during the COVID-19 coronavirus disease pandemic by author Catherine M. O’Meara. www.snopes.com/fact-check/kathleen-omara-1919-poem/

Callistemon Sat 11-Apr-20 13:23:20

FloweroftheWest when I was researching family history I asked a cousin why she thought so many children had died in one branch of the family at about that time and she said that there had been terrible outbreaks of typhoid and cholera in that area.

Jane10 Sat 11-Apr-20 13:24:04

For some reason which I can't explain I'm feeling OK about the current situation. Maybe I've just got used to it? I don't know. I'm naturally an idle sort of person so whiling away the hours doing nothing much is fine by me. I have a feeling, again an inexplicable one, that this is maybe as bad as it will get and better days are ahead. I hope so.
Sending positive vibes to those that need them.

Callistemon Sat 11-Apr-20 13:27:03

Thank you Jane10
I was feeling particularly tense this morning for some reason but planting some seeds has helped. However, it is too hot in the greenhouse so I've come indoors again.

Billybob4491 Sat 11-Apr-20 13:36:08

Nona, so sorry for your loss, my husband died four weeks ago after a short illness and quite frankly I move about in a daze most of the time. I am self isolating, and am thankful I have wonderful friends and family who are very supportive. I don't look too far ahead, one day at a time.

MerylStreep Sat 11-Apr-20 13:38:08

Jane10
I keep questioning myself as to why I feel ok. I just put it down to being the eternal optomist.
I suppose I believe in the 'Today is all we have' quotes.

BlueRuby Sat 11-Apr-20 13:38:37

No...I am stronger than that and so are you. It will be over. It will pass. The great majority of us will be fine, but there will be a minority for whom this will be tragic and life changing. There is a temporary morgue being set up a couple of hundred yards down the road which is pretty chilling. I am doing all the things I am meant to do .. not going out, getting shopping online, staying away from people. I've got various underlying conditions which makes me at risk. Not everyone is following the guidelines, and selfishly put other people at risk. I wonder why. No-one is so special that their needs outweigh everyone elses. I miss company, my kids, going out for lunch and going to our nearest beach to walk (15 miles). Since I was a teenager I have had serious periods of anxiety, depression, insomnia. One day, about 10 years ago, I realised that it always passes, and that was better than any medication. I am also a dedicated positive thinker, because if I wasn't I'm not sure where I'd be. This pandemic is scary, but most of us will get through it without ever having coronavirus. Most people who get it will survive. I only watch the daily update: I feel sorrow for those that have lost their lives, and feel gratitude for those who are working on the front line to look after everyone. I can't help but say, get a grip, stay strong, don't give into media pressure to feel helpless and despairing. We will mostly be OK and this will pass.

Urmstongran Sat 11-Apr-20 13:39:16

Coronavirus will go eventually but a lot of our freedoms will go with it.

Jane10 Sat 11-Apr-20 13:43:22

What freedom do you worry about losing?