perhaps you could try CoDA, they are a self-help organisation, that follow the twelve-step programme, with the aim of growing towards healthy relationships.
There are meetings in many towns. look them up.
anyone can drop in to any meeting, they are free, just take a collection for the venue hire. It's like AA, GA, etc.
there are some women-only meetings, and sponsorship, where people further along keep in touch with and encourage beginners, if they wish. it's all confidential.