Brother - no girlfriend or wife

It's doesn't matter if your brother has a partner or not. It's his choice. One of my cousin's never had a relationship until he was in his late 50's when he came out as gay and said he found the love of his life. The whole family always knew he was gay from a teenager so it was no surprise.

My nephew has a few disastrous short relationships with woman but decided not to both he is happier on his own . He's 36.

A friend of my late husband never had a relationship with with a man or woman as he in his words couldn't be bothered. If he wanted sex he paid for it. But he said that got boring after a few years. But he lived a full life had high powered career and travelled the world. He was nearly 90 when he died and never regretted his life style choice. He wasn't a selfish man but just kind ,a true friend and would help anyone who needed it.

Everyone lives the life that makes them happy.

Ice, firstly I would like to say how sorry that you and your brother had such a miserable childhood. Your brother grew up
not able to express his feelings and so must have a low expectation of what a family is, If you can even at this late stage, sit down with him and discuss this you might find you can connect at some level. It doesn’t matter if he’s with a partner or not I just hope he has found happiness being him. I can’t see how you being bought up in that environment you cant emphasise with him as he must have felt very alone and unsupported, perhaps your parents were a little easier on you I don’t know.

oldfrill no one knows her brother IS single how could she or anyone, they are singular private people who have little contact with each other

BlueBelle

oldfrill no one knows her brother IS single how could she or anyone, they are singular private people who have little contact with each other

My reply was to the response immediately prior to mine, sorry if that wasn't clear. Your response would have been better suited to those replies, not my reply.
The brother has been seeing his parents for every week for years so one would expect them to be aware of a partner, and through them the sister.
As I have stated l had a similar upbringing to the OP and a brother with life long challenges, exacerbated by his upbringing so l empathise with the OP which so few seem to do, but still they seem to think their negative opinions and lack of understanding means they can be totally dismissive. If only folk were kinder.

I had a lovely life OldFrill but I agree with you. There have been some awful, dismissive messages here. Shame on them.