Putting myself on the chopping block ...

The opening post did what it was designed to do - cause arguments, with other posters cheering from the sidelines I wonder if they're enjoying their popcorn DL.

Whiff no, I wasn't believed but I did send my diagnosis letter gransnet and explain. I let it go too far arguing but it does take 2 to argue and I was always outnumbered, hence the many reports against me. Many comments were deleted though, not just mine and often my comments were twisted into different meanings which was sad and did push me over the edge at times.

As you can see I am absolutely fine now and my mental and physical health is great.

maxiepants

I'm sorry this is making you feel down, VioletSky. I've always thought you make great sense and come at things from a very empathetic and gentle angle.

I cannot say the same for some others on this forum.

Thank you for saying that

Smileless2012

Your recollections are not facts just because you say they are. They are colored by your experiences and bolstered by repetition. Other people recollect the same events differently. This is human nature. You would do well in life to apply this to your relationship with other people. Such as your own children.

Thank you for the advice EllaMayo but it isn't needed. My recollections of VS's experiences on GN are fact, as I have already said.

ella mayo, that was nasty and personal remark you made to smileless , you are lower8ng the tone further !

Thank you for proving my point Smilless2012

No worries EllaMayo, happy to oblige

ps especially when the poster is new to GN.

Gransnet must be placing adverts somewhere with the amount of new people rocking up this week, apparently knowing so much about other posters…😑

Yes DL it always fascinates me how a 'new' one comes along with the knowledge they have, or have they been 'lurking' for sometime but never posted before .

We were all new once

And new to post doesn't necesarily mean new to reading the forums.

Welcome to GN EllaMayo

Again i find it really troubling that people have such a negative experience here they post about it elsewhere and they feel they are having to fight and argue to be allowed any space here

We don't have to fight and argue though, taking a deep breath and explaining patiently our point of view has been shown as effective

It says a lot about someone's character when they choose to post for the first time just to be unpleasant

eddiecat78

It says a lot about someone's character when they choose to post for the first time just to be unpleasant

I think that is actually true of every individual thread. Posting for the first time to argue on any separate thread will show a negative facet to a person's character.

Well if I'd had such a negative experience on a particular online site, I wouldn't go back. The OP has posted several times on GN since her 'negative experience' and prior to this thread.

I certainly wouldn't go on to goad those who were supposed to be responsible for my negative experience, expecting a "tirade of abuse" and entertaining others on another site with my exploits.

Who is having to fight and argue to be allowed any space here VS?

I find it very strange behaviour TBH.

Well I suppose it sets the standard eddie.

Posting for the first time to argue on any separate thread will show a negative facet to a person's character. It not what is said but how it's said.

It wasn't her first posting on Gransnet - maybe you didn't notice the other(s)?

eddiecat78

It says a lot about someone's character when they choose to post for the first time just to be unpleasant

I'm sorry you felt my post was unpleasant eddiecat78. I realize it sounded forthright but I take my lead from other posters on this site and call it how I see it

I must have done NotSpaghetti, where are they because nothing's come up on the GN search?

that should be 'I must not have done'

It would be so lovely if I were allowed my own opinions from my own perspective

That's what "space" means

You are VS, as we all are but that doesn't mean you wont be disagreed with.

Smileless2012

I must have done NotSpaghetti, where are they because nothing's come up on the GN search?

If you put Mamasperspective into the search box you will see loads of different threads she's commented on - what to buy for a baby, something about mother of the bride/groom outfits, mothers day, time with grandbaby, etc.

The one thread I remember best she was worried about going no contact so it's directly related to this thread.

BUT that said, she is definitely not a new poster.