Support and friendship for those whose lives have been affected by estrangement.

You are an inspuration Babs puttin your,house back on the market. You know where you want to live, I can't make up my mind, sure with the help of family you will find your perfect place.
I just have to put up with what's happening next door until it's finished. Only then can I secure boundries as he wants to take mine down for ease of work but I said no, that doesn't mean he won't do it though. Neighbours make or break your home,with bad neighbours even the most exoensive house will be a nightmare. It's time like these when I feel very much on my own.
Yogin, your park celebration seems a good idea, you can all meet your friends daughter, it must be so hard having her live so day away,now you will put a face to her. You all seem a friendly group.
Bridie, how are things with you?

Each morning I come on this old I pad which I am sure has a gremlin in it, I read what I am going to post, press send then see typos. Apologies. ( apologies came up as already pigged!)

Allsorts, its a pain that you have to put up with such an awful neighbour, it does affect your well being over time doesn't it.
Next door to me has been empty now for nearly 2 years, it was upgraded last year, the noise and muck was bad, now its been stood empty probably lying be a HMO by the looks of it , dreading new neighbours, hopefully I'm worrying unnecessaryily.
Apart from that, like all here good days bad days, we keep moving onwards, thank you for asking.

Allsorts I've met his DD quite a few times already, she is over a lot at the moment as she has a contract that takes her to Europe for a few months, she then has T's place as a base and then off again, but her contract has been cut short, should have been minimum of 2 yrs, so when she goes back this time it will be for good. It was a very plesant gathering, not over the top, quite casual, wine, little buffet and choc cake. S had a big book which we all signed, few photos taken to put in.

Your neighbour sounds like a nightmare, get those fences put up a.s.a.p. and stand your ground

Allsorts don't worry about the typos, we can all read it ok and when it happens to me, I don't bother to correct.

Allsorts words change on me but I also think I have written something and read it back and it's not what I meant . It's gotten worse since January. But I keep plodding on . As we all do.

When I had the bungalow repointed I didn't realise how much plaster dust would go onto my neighbours bungalow and drive . I apologise and wanted to clean up but they wouldn't let me . So brought them 3 bottles of wine to say sorry. Told me I shouldn't have but I felt awful. As they have been lovely to me .

Yogin glad everything in the park was nice and like to think your park friend who died would have enjoyed it to.

Bridie unfortunately there will be mice in the empty house next door to you. My bungalow was empty from May 2018 until I moved in August 2019. They cleaned the bungalow and got rid of all the rubbish but didn't tell me about the mice in the kitchen and loft . So first thing had pest control in . Have large electronic rodent repellers in every room every since . I hate having the windows open because of insects and my doors are never left open incase a mouse or squirrel gets in. Had squirrel in my loft few years ago that was fun . Luckily haf good pest control firm I used.

Seeing my GN friend I meet the other week gave her a choice of restaurants and booked the restaurant for October. Going on holiday with her husband to Italy on the train for just over 3 weeks . They go before I go to Harrogate. Which I am looking forward to.

Bridie, hopefully next door will be sold and its amazing how quickly it can made habitable and turned into a nice home so fingers crossed. All councils have an empty house department, have you rung them with your concerns?
Whiff, how fantastic meeting someone so close and that you get on with so well, you can easily meet up. I have booked a coach trip where 2 posters live not far away and it would be lovely if we could meet for a coffee. Nearer the time I will contact them..

Allsorts, its been refurbished with accommodation for either contractors or bedsit type rooms, it will never be a one family home again.

Bridie, that awful. Having a house next door turned into a house of multi occupation will have an effect on you and the neighbourhood. Councils should hear residents concerns and consult with them. I would contact your local Councillor if they are any good. . I am holding fire on next door although it started badly, showed no concern for me and caused damage to my property which he denies. However, I will just put the house on the market if I am sure I can't live next door to the family.
Can't believe how many years I have been on here. I guess we all never thought it could happen to us.
Just heard torrential rain after the most glorious sunny day yesterday, the garden needs it.
I have previewed this so fingers crossed

That's how I view it Allsorts, I will wait and see who moves in eventually, it might be ok , if not I will sadly sell up.

Hey 👋🏽 all, thanks for calling me an inspiration Allsorts, that has started my day off on a right note.
Have seen the tributes to your friend on a bench in the park Yogi, hoping to clear a slot to meet up in next couple of weeks, off to hosp again in a mo, Matt gets another heart monitor fitted, having lunch at the hosp, is the nearest thing to day out.
Thankfully he can now manage the bus with me but I worry about people not giving up a priority seat for him so am getting a taxi today. Will be able to claim attendance allowance soon which helps with travel.
Hoping your neighbours are ok Bridie.
Keep us posted about your health Whiff, hoping you get answers soon.
Bet you are looking forward to another gorgeous autumn in your home Smiles, fingers crossed we eventually get to move 🙏🏾
Love to all ❤️

You feel the same as I do then Bridie. We shouldn't have to leave because of neighbours.
Babs its truly amazing how well dh is now, when you look back you see how far he has come.

Babs sounding good with your DH able to get on the bus, take it it's our local hospital. Looking like there will be one more GN joining us for coffee .

That doesn't sound good Birdie with multiple occupancies, how may do you know?

I was closing my bedroom curtains last night at around 8.30pm and saw a young guy in a hoody standing outside on an electric scooter, lots of lights on it, so obviously using at night. I thought to take a pic as he was there quite a while, turns out it was upstairs doing a drugs deal! I've been thinking to say to him; not on our doorstep please, but wonder if I'll get myself into hot water. DH's [nxt door] son has come back to live with them as he broke up with his girlfriend. I had a long pleasant chat with him when he first moved back in, he then went up to the ' Edinburgh Fringe' in Scotland for the duration, back late last night, walking in with big joint in his gob. So got another one smoking skunk. The smell last night in my garden was over-powering from upstairs neighbour dashing straight out with his deal.

I think we 3 with bad neighbours need to pack up and move down next to Smiles & her H & nice neighbours .

Morning everyone. Just got some bedding on the line hoping it will dry before the rain comes later.

There are quite a few who have made this site their permanent home Allsorts and from what we can gather apart from us, they don't own another property which they should do and are using an AC or parents address as their own.

Not sure how they get away with it because once a year we have to show a current Council Tax bill and one another, showing our permanent address. TBH I couldn't sleep at night if we were doing this because if discovered, you run the risk of being told to leave and having to find another site and the expense of having a static caravan or lodge moved would be very high, especially for anyone who has a double lodge like us.

This is a great place to live in old age. The lodge is all on one level and so easy to maintain. There's a shop on site which does restrict opening hours out of season, but there are days when it's open. We also have to '10th Hole' licensed cafe, open 6 days a week all year round and J who lives here alone, goes every day for a coffee about 11.00 am and meets up with others who live alone.

Fancy allowing families to move into a development for the over 50's Yogin . You have to wonder why anyone would think that a good idea.

Has the trampoline been assembled and if so, do you think they'll let you have a bounce?

That's great news about your house going back in the market Babs. Despite having a long way to go, Mr. B.'s come so far hasn't he.

Yes, we're looking forward to Autumn here, it really is the most amazing place for wildlife; neither of us expected to see such a variety. Mr. S. spotted the skin shed by a grass snake yesterday, it must be a couple of feet long!!!

So pleased your hand is much better Whiff, even the smallest of burns can be very painful. Oh yes, the nightmare with the shed with Mr. S. getting it sorted in the end which he always manages to do .

There are two more where we are as our neighbours were so impressed they got one too

It's never a good thing to have an empty property next door Bridie but try not to worry about it becoming an HMO. One was developed where we were living before coming here. Everyone was concerned but there was never any issue with the people who live there so our fears were never realised.

Fingers crossed it's like that for you too.

Just seen your post Yogin. Cannabis has such a strong and sickly smell doesn't it.

Oooh that's a good idea. Plenty of vacant plots where we are and Mr. S. would be on hand to help with any gardening .

I think it could contain 6/7 separate rooms yogi, just hope it stays empty!
Please don't approach anybody using or dealing drugs near you, it could be dangerous, just reported anonymously.

Yogin that's awful. If there are drug dealers round here they must be low key. But as I live in the north of the county imagine is more central .

Where I live I have wonderful neighbours. And I haven't had any problems with people since I moved here. Apart from 2 taxi drivers. I always use the same company they work for that company but all the other drivers help me . I have to perch on the side of the front seat and they grab the front of my trousers and put my legs in and out. They always offer my their arm but I managed on my own . I thank them but worry incase I pull them over.
I have been in the city at night but have never been frightened waiting for my taxi to come .

I have been in the city I haven't felt frighted by people . But I can't go because of the noise and buildings they set off my HPX. When I went to the Brain Charity it was fine because it wasn't in the city centre and once off the bus and onto the next one short walk to it. Same if I went by train .

I used to live on a good area houses near buy when for £800,000 and up to million that was 6 years ago so would be even more know. My own bungalow has increased to £325,000 from £220,00. But where I lived before would never go into the town at night. It was a small town but after my husband died and kids left home didn't feel safe . Even during the day I watched where I walked and have had people kick my stick they didn't do it on purpose but walked to close to me . They apologised. But I can't walk outside without it just not safe .

Since moving here I have never had abuse shouted at me nor be hassled by school kids waiting for a bus . They thought because they were with friends I wouldn't say anything. They where wrong . I can be very nasty when I want to be.

Moving for me gave me a life I am loving . Not existing . I know I have said that before. But my life wasn't my own once my husband died he was my life my home . I looked after my parents and mother in law who I hated for 40 years because that's who I am . I don't abandon people who need me . It's easy to turn your back on people . I know I should have done it to my mother in law but she was still my mother in law and my kids nan . Even when she denied she ever had a son or grandchildren. She didn't have the excuse of having any form of dementia she was just a vile human being. My father in law was the same he told me I was defective. He was the defective one.

We all have a moral code we live by and values we abide by.

My old neighbours weren't horrible people but only care about themselves. Here northerners are different. Plus healthcare is brilliant and transport system.

Allsorts and Bridie I couldn't live with bad neighbours. Especially Bridie if there are going to be multiple tenants . Especially if they all have cars and have to park in the street. Plus that sort of set will be aimed at young people not families or older people.

Smiles grass snakes are on the in dangered list for British wildlife so that was a brilliant find. Saw an adder once on a Welsh hilltop on a big stone enjoying the sun . This was before we got married so in the 70's we have it a wide berth.

I have a frog in my garden I can never see it. But it appears everytime my gardener comes it lives near my pond . Apparently he's getting bigger . Not many birds flying today to windy.

Told my daughter on Sunday my holiday destinations for next year . Ok with Lancaster but doesn't want me to go too Dundee but I am going . It's just under or over 5 hours journey which is my limit. Her reason was she couldn't get to me . Didn't point out they went abroad twice this year for a week then 10 days . So they was no way they could get to me . I know she worries and loves me but forgets I had 13 years and no back up. When I had the limb jerks and not on heart medication I had needed for decades . I don't know how many years I have to beable to travel so making the most of it . But I am making up for the 19 years I went without a holiday.

Babs your family will help you with your move and Mr B going on the bus is amazing . He has come such a long way from when he first went into hospital. It shows how strong he is but it's mainly down to having a strong wife never letting him give up and the love your share together you make a whole and that is worth fighting for .

A layer of skin peeled off my finger that got scalded the worst thankfully when I was washing . And not dropping bits of skin everywhere.

As usual rambled on . My September calendar is filling up already and have things booked in October as well.

Take care everyone.

Yoga, please whatever you do don't get involved with upstairs dealers.I know it must be horrible having that awful smell wafting around you, just hope the guy gives the habit up. A very good old friend thought it was harmless and let her son smoke it at 15. What a massive mistake it turned out to be.
Thank goodness my four grandchildren dislike it as much as me. Next door had peopIe move in that used it but I never said anything, she died just past 30, now there's a new family. Any more problems and I will be off. Anything mind altering pointless trying to reason. You never know wherever you move to whom lives next door.
Smileless, those people chancing it are fools. That's most likely how they have lived their lives. it would worry the life out of me.
Whiff, your holdays sound fantastic, you are making up for lost time and you plan everything in advance and always enjoy them, it's good having things to look forward to. I now enjoy my shorter holidays, don't really want airports and particularly long haul, I am seeing this country.

Morning all, nice and sunny at the mo.

No Smiles not been invited to have a jump on the trampoline next door, the boxes haven't been touched and I'm hoping it stays that way. They should change the rules so you can stay where you are full time, most are there 11mnths of the year anyway.

Birdie good luck with your new neighbours when they arrive.

Afternoon everyone.

Grass snakes are a protected species Whiff so finding the skin was a big surprise and testament I think, to the richness of the wildlife there is and how lucky we are to be living here .

I agree Allsorts, extremely foolish and so dishonest too but as you say, maybe that's how they've always lived their lives .

Like so many holiday parks Yogin you can be here 52 weeks of the year which we are, but must have a 'permanent home address'. There are residential parks which become your permanent home address and with those you pay council tax and water rates which we don't do here. Those are part and parcel of our annual site fees.

With a bit of luck your neighbours wont get the trampoline assembled; fingers crossed.

So they do it just to avoid the council tax that the rest of you manage!

I don't think that's the only reason Allsorts. Some wouldn't be able to afford them without selling their home and doing so of course releases any equity providing cash for their retirement.

Yogi we often smell cannabis in our back garden, we think it is young men in a house backing onto our garden at the bottom of Victoria road, is a pungent smell. Wouldn’t try to confront anyone it could be dangerous, the couriers probably have knives.
Smiles a grass snake that long is amazing, you have such a lot of wildlife where you live, so exciting, though admittedly I would also be a bit scared if I saw the snake.😳
Whiff, we northerners do like to think we are a hospitable bunch, though we can be a bit gobby, when we lived in Lancashire we were part of a real community where everyone helped each other out, have good neighbours here in the SE too but it isn’t the same.
Get homesick sometimes.
Allsorts DH is doing really well, cognitively he struggles but is improving slowly. The thing with recovering from a stroke is that it is a marathon not a sprint. A doc told us that in the hosp and how true it is.
Hope the HMO next to you turns out to be nothing to worry about Bridie.
Love to all ❤️

Babs, I nursed my father after his first and second stroke as his new wife wouldn't. He came through both of them and eventually got back to his old self, but he never flew again, preferring UK which he hadn't seen as much if as he would have liked. At 70, when he had his first one he gave up driving, just in case he said. Looking after my father was a priviledge he was the best patient, always grateful for the day and tried hard at everything. I had just ordinary hard working parents whose main focus was family, I thought I had been one myself but we never know. He said to me, your children are not an insurance against a lonely old age, I never understood what he meant but I do now,