Forums for estranged adult children

But, a banned Poster would have to use a new name? Isn't that tbe case? Would the Admins not notice that the same email was being used?

As DiamondLily explained, you can have as many email addresses as you want so that's an easy way for them to circumvent GNHQ detection. But IP addresses are also checked but, if you're determined and desperate enough, that too can be circumvented by using a VPN. Or simply go to a cafe that provides WiFi, use their IP address to create a new email account and then join GN. It's a pretty desperate way to get yourself heard but, when you're carrying that much anger and hatred, I suppose it must seem worth it. 💁‍♂️

It is pretty desperate as you say Cardamom.

Maybe we could try to show the kindness their parent couldn't.

Kindness was shown InRainbows.

Smileless2012

Kindness was shown InRainbows.

Perspectives often differ between people and that is an undeniable fact because "kindness" or the idea of it varies just as greatly.

I have seen children suffer for so many reasons but love can make even the most awful bearable, poverty, malnutrition, parasites, disease and death.

An unloved child is the saddest most painful thing humanity has or ever will have to offer and there is very rarely any justice for it.

As I posted kindness was shown.

Smileless2012

As I posted kindness was shown.

Perspectives often differ between people and that is an undeniable fact because "kindness" or the idea of it varies just as greatly.

I have seen children suffer for so many reasons but love can make even the most awful bearable, poverty, malnutrition, parasites, disease and death.

An unloved child is the saddest most painful thing humanity has or ever will have to offer and there is very rarely any justice for it.

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I think it did InRainbows, your post @ 14.57 is exactly the same as your post @ 14.35.

I see, what I am trying to say is that, there is the need to be right and there is the understanding that, in a diverse world, different perspectives are worth consideration. So we shouldn't shut down a conversation without empirical evidence that everyone is satisfied in a conclusion.

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I'm sorry InRainbows I don't understand. Which conversation is being shut down and by whom?

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Whoever you are, why not post under your own user name instead of trying to hijack the names of others?

As I said, an unloved child is the most painful thing humanity has to offer. I would help if I could to ease that pain just a little while being careful not to say things that tempt a response.

I'm not estranged but what life has taught me is that cruelty may be couched in loving terms and fragile mental health should be protected. Surrounded by love and kindness from those able to set aside a little of what they also need for themselves

And as I've already posted InRainbows kindness has been and is shown here but you haven't said which conversation is being shut down and by whom.

You haven't addressed my comments Smileless2012 or asked why I made them or shown me why you believe differently?

I've asked you twice now the same two questions InRainbows and as for addressing your comments, I've done that three times already by saying that kindness has been and is shown here; this will make four.

Smileless2012

I've asked you twice now the same two questions InRainbows and as for addressing your comments, I've done that three times already by saying that kindness has been and is shown here; this will make four.

I cannot give you the answer you want, I just see things differently to you. If you feel you are enough, or kind enough, I don't want to take that away from you but that doesn't mean I shouldn't speak up and say what I originally said which is that maybe we can show the kindness their parents could not. Then perhaps they wouldn't come back.

No one on a social media platform can be enough to help with the pain of an abusive childhood, or make up for an unkind, unloving or abusive parent.

Kindness can be and has been shown but cannot by any stretch of the imagination be a substitute or compensation for the kindness some parents couldn't or wouldn't give.

It is not from my experience here on GN a lack of kindness or understanding from posters on GN that brings back an angry and bitter EAC and for me, Cardamom's posts have explained very well why this happens.

Everyone comes to this topic looking for something I would have thought. It doesn't say if it is for a specific group of people or not. Most groups do have a target audience which would exclude me.

I was looking for a safe place to talk about estrangement because it has impacted me deeply even though I am personally not estranged from anyone and do not have any difficult relationships with anyone.

I haven't found the courage because everything anyone puts here becomes an argument that never ends and even people who just have a different opinion may get challenged or treated as a potential enemy. I suppose I am out of options and I am better off just reading and trying to find things that help me understand.

I'm sorry InRainbows but I don't agree that everything anyone puts here becomes an argument. There's nothing wrong with challenging what you disagree with. You and I are doing so but I don't regard you as or treat you as a potential enemy.

I'm sorry that this is how you're experiencing this thread and maybe the estrangement forum and hope that if not here, maybe there's another forum where you can find things to help you understand.

InRainbows I for one can’t fathom what it is you want from this forum. We on here are estranged, now we are making different lives with out our estranged child, you're not. . I do not want to explain or justify my situation to you. Thats why I haven't responded to you until now.

I wouldn't ask anyone to explain or justify anything.

You are on here to stir thing up so I won't be replying.I find your posts upsetting and intrusive, so well done.

Can you please explain where I have got things wrong, I will try to do better